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Spíiygy Tym oo, W arm Springs, Oregon Page 5 March 29, 2 0 0 7 Message of hope from Victims of Crime Services port. We do offer a support bodies by touching or “playing By Sarah Frank group for survivors and you can doctor”. We are talking about talk to Viola or Sarah to find the talking about severely aggressive Victims o f Crime Services dates and times. In April we will children. There is little doubt After viewing “Silent Mes have survivors that will share that the sexual abuser’s family sage” some people may have their testimonies. Whatever you life plays a big role in how chil had old pain resurface. Perhaps do, don’t keep this poison inside dren understand what appropri there are deep wounds that you of you. ate sexual behavior is. Please don’t know how to deal with, so What if the abuser is a fam teach your child about proper you buried them with denial, ily member and you don’t want sexual behavior and/or correct work, alcohol/drugs or other to get the abuser in trouble? It sexual behavior that is aggres unique ways. These unresolved is common for victims to want sive and inappropriate for their wounds may have caused prob to be loyal to their fam ily/ age, if you don’t they may learn lems in your life. It’s time, time friends, even if they are hurting to regard this as normal. to deal with these old wounds, them. You must first believe that W hat if the abuser is no feel the pain, mourn your loss you are not to blame; the abuser longer alive? This is a tough of innocence and release it. is at fault, NOT YOU. The per question. People m ay have These are some questions son that hurt you must stop placed the deceased on a pedes that may be asked regarding hurting you, especially if they tal causing others to strongly sexual assault. How could we love you. If he/she denies the deny and not believe the victim. talk about such a forbidden sub abuse and/or blames you for The victim may become iso ject? Who could we talk to and their wrong doing, they are lated. The victim may also have release these m em ories that thinking of only themselves and to cope with unresolved anger/ haunt us? What if I don’t want you need to get away from them pain; they may grieve the loss of to get anyone in trouble or I’m immediately. What is stopping closure, the loss of confronta afraid of the abuser? What if I them from h u rtin g others? tion or even reconciling. They am to blame? What if the abuser Please don’t protect someone may feel grief that the abuser is/was a child? Will reporting that has hurt you. Ask yourself, will never have the opportunity help me? What if the abuser is has the abuse stopped and have to change. They may feel relief not alive anymore? they stopped hurting others? because they never have to see I f you have been sexually What if I am afraid of the the abuser again. Writing a let abused recently: Report imme abuser? Instilling fear is com ter to the deceased may be help diately, don’t shower, don’t wash mon for an offender, especially ful to you. FBI Agent Jason your clothing/bedding, be accu in gang rape situations. Abusers Ghetion said “Who says that rate, tell the truth from begin are known to use gu ilt and Prosecution is going to heal the ning to end, don’t change your threats of violence, abandon abuse?” Accountability helps, story even if you are afraid and ment or both to silence the child' but you can heal whether or not most importantly don’t blame victim. Living in a small com you receive justice. yourself. Whether you are a male munity where everyone knows If I was abused as a child, but or fem ale, child or adult, if everyone may make it harder to I’m now adult should I still re someone hurt you, they are at trust others. Be cautious, but port it? Most children that are fault, NOT YOU. Please join us don’t stay silent, especially if you sexually abused don’t disclose till as we help get the word out in or others are still at risk. In my years later. If the abuser has ac our “IT’S NOT MY FAULT” early stages of recovery I talked cess to children then you may campaign during the month of to COBRA at 475-1880, an out want to file an informational April. side Spiritual Leader and Carol report to your local authorities. The best way to deal with the Allison (Community Center). There is no federal statute of subject is to first find a trusted Victim’s Of Crime can help you limitation to child sexual abuse; person to talk to. This could be make a safety plan. this means that if the abuse hap a Counselor, School Counselor, What if the abuser is/was a pened in Warm Springs you can Trusted Community Member or child? Assure they are not hurt still report child sexual assault other Spiritual Leaders/Mem- ing other children. If the abuse even if you are now an , adult. bers that you trust. If you would happened in school report it to However, prosecution can de rather talk to a person that does the teacher. Many have denied pend on evidence to prove the not know you and is not from or ignored the capability of assault occurred. Don’t turn a your local area call: the National youth and children being abu blind eye to your past, please H otline 1-800-656-H O P E sive toward other children. help keep other children/adults (4673) or the Oregon hotline at There has been much focus on from being hurt. 1-866-399-7722. Call a prayer abuse of children by adults, and There is no sheet of paper fine 1-800-4PRAYER. If they little on children sexually abus with steps to healing. Healing is are unable to help you find an ing other children. This is not different for everyone and there other person. Don’t stop look about children who are explor is no list telling you how to feel ing till you find the right sup ing their own or other children’s today or what to do tomorrow. Letter to the editor A thank you D ear N ixyaaw ii and sur rounding communities, Thank you all from the bot tom of our hearts. Your atten dance, support, expression of love and show of respect at the dressing and funeral for our son, brother, grandson, nephew and uncle, Alex Minthorn. It was the most beautiful fu n eral serv ice, seein g the Longhouse filled on both sides; the sound of the drums, bell and songs filled the air and hearing all the voices in unison. The long line of dancers and all the testi monies words spoken from the heart in remembrance of our loved one; many of our family members expressed how good the service went. There are so many to thank for their involvement with the whole ceremony that I’m not going to try and make a list - you and the Creator know the kindness, generosity, following through with the unwritten laws, the hugs and the expression of love for the family left behind. Many contributed to clean and wipe down the house, burn, run errands, all the food, baked goods, bottled water and pop donations to feed us and all the helpers, make lists of contribu tions and note all the phone calls and to just be there for company. He sang his first song at the Longhouse, we conducted his first kill at the Longhouse, he started out pouring water at Feast and moved up to a server, he and his brothers were hunt ers for the Longhouse and he learned how to cook the meat and salmon over the pit. All the drum m ers /singers, dancers, cooks, servers, kitchen helpers, those who helped set up tables and chairs for the meals, watered the “wash,” swept the floors and cleaned up the main area, all your names have been recorded by the Creator on your piece of paper. You will receive your re ward when you least expect it, and we his family will forever be indebted to you for your work; words can no t express how grateful we are... Thank you. The family members who traveled many miles to be here with us, you brought us medi cine.. . to our hearts and minds. Armand and I are so very thank ful to have the family and in laws we have... Our love goes out to you all. For a young man of 24 he left behind a legacy, all the sym pathy cards we received most with written expression of what kind of person he was outside our home. All the memories he created by the interaction with us and all the verbal communi cation he conveyed to us face to face especially his big cheesy smile and laugh will comfort us in the days ahead. He will never be forgotten as in his own way he showed and told us how he honestly felt about us. A rm an d M in th ron , M arjorie W aheneka and families. You make your own path. There are tools that can help you on your path to recovery such as: testimonies from other survi vors, Counselors, Therapists, books, journaling, music and faith. However there is one per son that you must listen to and that is yourself. You are the ex pert in your healing journey. The following workshops will be coming back to Warm Springs: Father’s Heart Retreat and Crossing2Freedom. One still in the planning process is “Ride Out The Storm”. Please watch for flyers. In May we are planning a trip to see Joyce Meyers in Spokane, WA (Joyce is a powerful women of God that was sexually abused as a child). If you are interested in any of these activities call Sarah or Viola at 553-2293. (We also have some personally owned TD Jakes and Jo yce M eyer D VD’s and V ideo’s that are available for you to watch). You may choose this prayer or seek your spiritual leader to pray with you... “Heavenly Fa ther, you know my heart, my pain and you know all things about me. Father I come to you today and ask you for guidance as I deal with the pain in my heart. I ask you to cleanse me, heal my broken heart and bro ken spirit. I release this to you today and I ask that your will be done in this situation”. Thank you Lord, In Jesus N am e... AMEN. Please join us for a Prayer Walk on Monday, April 2, 2007 at 12:05 p.m. starting at Victims of Crime Services. ..... ........ ............. .................................. \ Warm Springs, Please support the b usi nesses you see in the Spilyay Tymoo — They give back to the lo cal com m unity!. Council — mend that the tribe adopt it. Anspach also introduced the report on short-term ini tiatives. The committee, rep resenting seven tribal organi zations, began with a list of 36 project ideas. Applying criteria such as rate of return, number of jobs created, capi tal required, reservation im pact, and project risk, the committee has pared the list to eight. Kahseuss Jackson, Ven tures’ business development d irecto r, took C o un cil through a brief overview of the projects still under con sideration. The cut to four will be made before the final project and funding recom m endations com e before Council in mid April. The final component of the presentation consisted in a status report from the com mittee evaluating the long term use and occupancy projects. H ere again, the committee began with several project ideas and has been evaluating them according to criteria. The initial list of nine has been narrowed to five. The committee will continue to gather information on these projects while preparing its fi nal report to Council. (Continued from page 1) At the same time as it set the administrative review in motion, Tribal Council also instructed other groups to explore a series of economic initiatives on the reservation. In addition to reaffirming its commitment to the Bridge of the Gods Casino, Coun cil asked for a draft uniform com m ercial code to help bring investment onto the reservation. Council also re quested recommendations on four short-term economic projects, four longer term use and occupancy projects, and the possible consolidation of tribal resources through a single enterprise board. As a last item, Council in structed the secretary-trea surer to secure funding to be set aside for use in economic development. V entures CFO J e f f Anspach gave a brief over view of the work of the uni form co m m ercial code (UCC) committee. He reported that the com mittee was ready to submit a secured transactions code drafted by the tribes’ legal counsel, and would recom Eagles prohibit international traffick ing. However, though eagles may still face problems. Calvin said there is the potential to have them de-listed from the Endan gered Species List because the population has grown steadily. A decisio n w ill be m ade about de-listing the bald eagle by this June. If de-listed, the eagles would still be monitored for several years and protected by a variety of laws. (Continued from page 1) Protecting the bald eagle and the golden eagle is something that has prompted a variety of laws and protection acts: the Bald Eagle Protection Act be gan in 1940 but expanded to in clude the Golden Eagle in 1962. 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