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Message of hope from Victims of Crime Services
port. We do offer a support bodies by touching or “playing
By Sarah Frank
group for survivors and you can doctor”. We are talking about
talk to Viola or Sarah to find the talking about severely aggressive
Victims o f Crime Services
dates and times. In April we will children. There is little doubt
After viewing “Silent Mes have survivors that will share that the sexual abuser’s family
sage” some people may have their testimonies. Whatever you life plays a big role in how chil
had old pain resurface. Perhaps do, don’t keep this poison inside dren understand what appropri
there are deep wounds that you of you.
ate sexual behavior is. Please
don’t know how to deal with, so
What if the abuser is a fam teach your child about proper
you buried them with denial, ily member and you don’t want sexual behavior and/or correct
work, alcohol/drugs or other to get the abuser in trouble? It sexual behavior that is aggres
unique ways. These unresolved is common for victims to want sive and inappropriate for their
wounds may have caused prob to be loyal to their fam ily/ age, if you don’t they may learn
lems in your life. It’s time, time friends, even if they are hurting to regard this as normal.
to deal with these old wounds, them. You must first believe that
W hat if the abuser is no
feel the pain, mourn your loss you are not to blame; the abuser longer alive? This is a tough
of innocence and release it.
is at fault, NOT YOU. The per question. People m ay have
These are some questions son that hurt you must stop placed the deceased on a pedes
that may be asked regarding hurting you, especially if they tal causing others to strongly
sexual assault. How could we love you. If he/she denies the deny and not believe the victim.
talk about such a forbidden sub abuse and/or blames you for The victim may become iso
ject? Who could we talk to and their wrong doing, they are lated. The victim may also have
release these m em ories that thinking of only themselves and to cope with unresolved anger/
haunt us? What if I don’t want you need to get away from them pain; they may grieve the loss of
to get anyone in trouble or I’m immediately. What is stopping closure, the loss of confronta
afraid of the abuser? What if I them from h u rtin g others? tion or even reconciling. They
am to blame? What if the abuser Please don’t protect someone may feel grief that the abuser
is/was a child? Will reporting that has hurt you. Ask yourself, will never have the opportunity
help me? What if the abuser is has the abuse stopped and have to change. They may feel relief
not alive anymore?
they stopped hurting others?
because they never have to see
I f you have been sexually
What if I am afraid of the the abuser again. Writing a let
abused recently: Report imme abuser? Instilling fear is com ter to the deceased may be help
diately, don’t shower, don’t wash mon for an offender, especially ful to you. FBI Agent Jason
your clothing/bedding, be accu in gang rape situations. Abusers Ghetion said “Who says that
rate, tell the truth from begin are known to use gu ilt and Prosecution is going to heal the
ning to end, don’t change your threats of violence, abandon abuse?” Accountability helps,
story even if you are afraid and ment or both to silence the child' but you can heal whether or not
most importantly don’t blame victim. Living in a small com you receive justice.
yourself. Whether you are a male munity where everyone knows
If I was abused as a child, but
or fem ale, child or adult, if everyone may make it harder to I’m now adult should I still re
someone hurt you, they are at trust others. Be cautious, but port it? Most children that are
fault, NOT YOU. Please join us don’t stay silent, especially if you sexually abused don’t disclose till
as we help get the word out in or others are still at risk. In my years later. If the abuser has ac
our “IT’S NOT MY FAULT” early stages of recovery I talked cess to children then you may
campaign during the month of to COBRA at 475-1880, an out want to file an informational
April.
side Spiritual Leader and Carol report to your local authorities.
The best way to deal with the Allison (Community Center). There is no federal statute of
subject is to first find a trusted Victim’s Of Crime can help you limitation to child sexual abuse;
person to talk to. This could be make a safety plan.
this means that if the abuse hap
a Counselor, School Counselor,
What if the abuser is/was a pened in Warm Springs you can
Trusted Community Member or child? Assure they are not hurt still report child sexual assault
other Spiritual Leaders/Mem- ing other children. If the abuse even if you are now an , adult.
bers that you trust. If you would happened in school report it to However, prosecution can de
rather talk to a person that does the teacher. Many have denied pend on evidence to prove the
not know you and is not from or ignored the capability of assault occurred. Don’t turn a
your local area call: the National youth and children being abu blind eye to your past, please
H otline 1-800-656-H O P E sive toward other children. help keep other children/adults
(4673) or the Oregon hotline at There has been much focus on from being hurt.
1-866-399-7722. Call a prayer abuse of children by adults, and
There is no sheet of paper
fine 1-800-4PRAYER. If they little on children sexually abus with steps to healing. Healing is
are unable to help you find an ing other children. This is not different for everyone and there
other person. Don’t stop look about children who are explor is no list telling you how to feel
ing till you find the right sup ing their own or other children’s today or what to do tomorrow.
Letter to the editor
A thank you
D ear N ixyaaw ii and sur
rounding communities,
Thank you all from the bot
tom of our hearts. Your atten
dance, support, expression of
love and show of respect at the
dressing and funeral for our son,
brother, grandson, nephew and
uncle, Alex Minthorn.
It was the most beautiful fu
n eral serv ice, seein g the
Longhouse filled on both sides;
the sound of the drums, bell and
songs filled the air and hearing
all the voices in unison. The long
line of dancers and all the testi
monies words spoken from the
heart in remembrance of our
loved one; many of our family
members expressed how good
the service went.
There are so many to thank
for their involvement with the
whole ceremony that I’m not
going to try and make a list -
you and the Creator know the
kindness, generosity, following
through with the unwritten laws,
the hugs and the expression of
love for the family left behind.
Many contributed to clean and
wipe down the house, burn, run
errands, all the food, baked
goods, bottled water and pop
donations to feed us and all the
helpers, make lists of contribu
tions and note all the phone calls
and to just be there for company.
He sang his first song at the
Longhouse, we conducted his
first kill at the Longhouse, he
started out pouring water at
Feast and moved up to a server,
he and his brothers were hunt
ers for the Longhouse and he
learned how to cook the meat
and salmon over the pit. All the
drum m ers /singers, dancers,
cooks, servers, kitchen helpers,
those who helped set up tables
and chairs for the meals, watered
the “wash,” swept the floors and
cleaned up the main area, all
your names have been recorded
by the Creator on your piece of
paper. You will receive your re
ward when you least expect it,
and we his family will forever be
indebted to you for your work;
words can no t express how
grateful we are... Thank you.
The family members who
traveled many miles to be here
with us, you brought us medi
cine.. . to our hearts and minds.
Armand and I are so very thank
ful to have the family and in
laws we have... Our love goes
out to you all.
For a young man of 24 he
left behind a legacy, all the sym
pathy cards we received most
with written expression of what
kind of person he was outside
our home. All the memories he
created by the interaction with
us and all the verbal communi
cation he conveyed to us face to
face especially his big cheesy
smile and laugh will comfort us
in the days ahead. He will never
be forgotten as in his own way
he showed and told us how he
honestly felt about us.
A rm an d
M in th ron ,
M arjorie W aheneka and
families.
You make your own path. There
are tools that can help you on
your path to recovery such as:
testimonies from other survi
vors, Counselors, Therapists,
books, journaling, music and
faith. However there is one per
son that you must listen to and
that is yourself. You are the ex
pert in your healing journey.
The following workshops
will be coming back to Warm
Springs: Father’s Heart Retreat
and Crossing2Freedom. One
still in the planning process is
“Ride Out The Storm”. Please
watch for flyers. In May we are
planning a trip to see Joyce
Meyers in Spokane, WA (Joyce
is a powerful women of God
that was sexually abused as a
child). If you are interested in
any of these activities call Sarah
or Viola at 553-2293. (We also
have some personally owned
TD Jakes and Jo yce M eyer
D VD’s and V ideo’s that are
available for you to watch).
You may choose this prayer
or seek your spiritual leader to
pray with you... “Heavenly Fa
ther, you know my heart, my
pain and you know all things
about me. Father I come to you
today and ask you for guidance
as I deal with the pain in my
heart. I ask you to cleanse me,
heal my broken heart and bro
ken spirit. I release this to you
today and I ask that your will be
done in this situation”. Thank
you Lord, In Jesus N am e...
AMEN.
Please join us for a Prayer
Walk on Monday, April 2, 2007
at 12:05 p.m. starting at Victims
of Crime Services.
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Warm Springs, Please
support the b usi
nesses you see in the
Spilyay Tymoo — They
give back to the lo cal
com m unity!.
Council —
mend that the tribe adopt it.
Anspach also introduced
the report on short-term ini
tiatives. The committee, rep
resenting seven tribal organi
zations, began with a list of
36 project ideas. Applying
criteria such as rate of return,
number of jobs created, capi
tal required, reservation im
pact, and project risk, the
committee has pared the list
to eight.
Kahseuss Jackson, Ven
tures’ business development
d irecto r, took C o un cil
through a brief overview of
the projects still under con
sideration. The cut to four
will be made before the final
project and funding recom
m endations com e before
Council in mid April.
The final component of
the presentation consisted in
a status report from the com
mittee evaluating the long
term use and occupancy
projects. H ere again, the
committee began with several
project ideas and has been
evaluating them according to
criteria. The initial list of nine
has been narrowed to five.
The committee will continue
to gather information on these
projects while preparing its fi
nal report to Council.
(Continued from page 1)
At the same time as it set
the administrative review in
motion, Tribal Council also
instructed other groups to
explore a series of economic
initiatives on the reservation.
In addition to reaffirming
its commitment to the Bridge
of the Gods Casino, Coun
cil asked for a draft uniform
com m ercial code to help
bring investment onto the
reservation. Council also re
quested recommendations
on four short-term economic
projects, four longer term use
and occupancy projects, and
the possible consolidation of
tribal resources through a
single enterprise board.
As a last item, Council in
structed the secretary-trea
surer to secure funding to be
set aside for use in economic
development.
V entures CFO J e f f
Anspach gave a brief over
view of the work of the uni
form co m m ercial code
(UCC) committee.
He reported that the com
mittee was ready to submit a
secured transactions code
drafted by the tribes’ legal
counsel, and would recom
Eagles
prohibit international traffick
ing.
However, though eagles may
still face problems. Calvin said
there is the potential to have
them de-listed from the Endan
gered Species List because the
population has grown steadily.
A decisio n w ill be m ade
about de-listing the bald eagle by
this June.
If de-listed, the eagles would
still be monitored for several
years and protected by a variety
of laws.
(Continued from page 1)
Protecting the bald eagle and
the golden eagle is something
that has prompted a variety of
laws and protection acts: the
Bald Eagle Protection Act be
gan in 1940 but expanded to in
clude the Golden Eagle in 1962.
Plus, Calvin said, eagles are
protected from illegal poaching
internationally with the United
States, Canada, Russia and Japan
in a pact that was established to
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