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August 28, 1987 PAGE 5 1 Warm Springs, Oregon SpilyayTymoo g People respond poorly to "you" messages . . i f tiiMi rj riii:inii i itr rhiMr Most ofthc messages we send lo people aboul behavior are 'you messages messages that are di rected at the other person and have a high probability of putting them down, making them feel guilty, malting them feel their needs arc not important, and generally mak ing them resist change. Examples ol "you" messages are usually orders or commands ("Stop doing that! Get into the car."), or blaming or name-calling statements ("You are acting like a baby! You are driving me cray!"). or statements that give solutions ("You should forget that idea. You'd better reconsider that plan."), thereby removing the re sponsibility for behavior change from the other person. Perhaps the worst of all "you" messages is the if.. .then threat ("If you don't.. ..then I will...."). An "I" message, on the other hand, allows a person who is affect ed by the behavior of another to express the impact it has on him and. at the same time, leave the responsibility for modifying the behavior with the person w ho dem Microwaves should be cleaned A clean microwave oven interior is more than just attractive it also ensures the best cooking perfor mance from the appliance. Infrequent cleaning may cause a number of problems, such as: Cooking time may be slowed by a build-up of food particles on the walls or floor of the oven. Food soils absorb the microwave energy that should be used by the cooking food. Food particles around the door frame may keep the door from seal ing properly or may even prevent the oven from starting. Unpleasant odors may develop w hen food soils remain or build up on microwave oven interior sur faces. Follow these tips to help keep an oven clean: After each use. wipe the oven's interior surfaces with a paper towel, soft cloth or sponge dipped in a solution of mild detergent and water. Pregnancy testing brood cows and bred replacements. Continue selenium-salt supple mentation. Vaccinate weaned calves with IBR, PI 3 and Hemphilus somnus for influenzashipping fever complex. Revaccinate weaned calves with 4-Way as a booster for black leg. malignant edema, black disease and Clostridium sordelli. Be considering the best time to September cattle management . i t Best-ever meatloaf 2 lbs extra lean ground beef 2 cups moist bread crumbs A cup milk 1 medium onion, chopped 1 carrot, grated 2 tsp. salt or less i2 tsp. pepper 2 eggs Sandy Johnson andRosie L ucei take nuiie. . r r 'yw-"M," " ' mm ' : ' v ' It- ' - -llfer.iM. imnmm " k if. in mil.,- -- ' - .1 - - U part of Challenge Camp, ,en,k and eighth graders climM to the campers, five of whom were from Warm Springs, made M to the top. onstrated that particular behavior. An "I" message consists of three parts: ( I ) the specific behavior. (2) the resulting feeling you experienced because of the behavior, and (3) the tangible effect on you. Thus, a teacher might say to a student: "When you tap on your desk w ith your pencil. I feel upset because get distracted and have difficulty teaching." A wife might say to her husband: "When I try to help you and you don't say anything. I feel confused because I don't know how you feel about my help." In effect, the T message allows the sender to implicitly say."l trust you to decide w hat change in behav ior is necessary." In this man ner. "I" messages build relation ships and. equally importantly, they do not place the sender in the posi tion of enforcing a new behavior, as is frequently the case with the "you" message discussed above. In order to understand and use the "I" message effectively, people should be given a chance to prac- Remove cooked-on food by boiling one cup of water in a bowl or a 2-cup glass measure inside of the oven for several min utes. The steam condenses on the interior and makes soil easier to remove. Wipe out with a paper towel, soft cloth or sponge. Clean stains from the oven floor with a paste of baking soda and water, a special ceramic glass cleaner or a mild cleanser. Don't use harsh cleaners or steel wool pads. They can cause scratches or rust. Remove odors caused by strong flavored foods (such as fish, cab bage or garlic), burned fods, or food soil build-up by boiling a solution of Vi cup lemon juice and one cup water in a bowl or 4-cup measure for several minutes. Let stand for 5-6 minutes in the oven, then wipe clean. These simple suggestions will help keep microwave ovens clean, odor free and operating properly. have jhe veterinarian yacci.nate.re-, placement heiters tor Brucellosis (Bang's Disease). Remember that a veterinarian must by law adminis ter this vaccine because it is modified live and females must be identified. Remember not to treat for cattle grubs until there has been a hard freeze. Usually this will occur in October or November. Be considering your marketing program for this year's calf crop. Combine all inereadients, except glaze. Mix well. Pack in large loaf pan. Top with glaze and thin slices of green pepper rings. Bake at 325 F for 1 to 1 Vi hours. Glaze: 14 cup catsup, 1 Tbsp. mustard. 3 Tbsp. brown sugar and green pepper rings. a brief break while climbing Ollallie 1 1 1 11 J " ; . ' ' " t we. Be ow are listed a lew staic- mcnts you might like to use. A guide which some have found help ful in formulating an "I" message is: "When (behavior). I feel (feel ing), because (reason). Your daughter or son consist ently leaves herhis room in sham bles. Your husband wife roommate refuses to share the household chores. A close friend has listened to you explain a difficult problem that you are currently facing. An aunt keeps telling you that 4-H offers positive . r i Four-H focuses on the growth and well-being of the whole child. What on the surface might appear to be a basic "hands-on" project is actually far more involved. Four-H activites teach young people to identify needs, set goals and plan how to accomplish them. They learn through their experien ces and by seeing the results of their efforts. They become effective group members. These are all "life skills" we need to live a healthy, fulfilling and bal anced life. For the past 75 years the philo sophy and goals of the 4-H pro gram have focused on enhancing the lives of all involved. The question is now: Are we addressing the specific needs of the children of the '80's and "90's? The environmental and social pressures they face are vastly different from those today's adults were raised with. For example, 97 percent of American homes now have at least one television, and the average young person 12-17 years olds watches just under four hours per day. Children routinely see serious life problems solved in an hour long episode, and often solved violently. According to Child Psychologist There is no better time than the KSSst thp iinrnminff winter. Hav is avail- .ahierhttl0W-the weather is good ahle richt now. the weather is good and you probably have the time to ' go get it. This hrines us to an important question however. What is needed for your situation? When feeding cattle in the winter months each animal will need about l V2 tons of hay. The next question to be ans wered is what kind of hay should be bought? This depends on what is available and the nutritional needs of the animal. Mature brood cows can get by during the fall and early winter on rather poor to fair qual ity roughage while first-calf heifers need good quality forage to pro vide for their own growing needs as as well as the calf they are carrying. As calving time nears, cows need to be getting better feed than they were during the early season. And of course they need even more after calving to provide adequate milk supply. Generally 13 of the hay should ACCOrtllilg lu vunu i sycnuiwgini jn" r Consider livestock hay Energy questions which Q 1 want to enhance the insula- tion I already have in my home without the expense and mess of nutting in additional batt or rigid P. "j8: 1 ki in fnam insulation because mv wife is OOarU lllbuiauuii. i m' I allergic to this type of product. I've caulked and weatherstripped the interior, and have similar plans for the exterior. In addition, I plan to use Glid den's Insul-aid on the interior walls and either Phenoseal (a vinyl acrylic copolymer) on the exterior walls. Are there other products that would be better? R.D., Brookings f the 32 top .OJhffir Butte. Ten 0j you arc raising your children all w rong. Your sondaughter keeps put ting oil household chores, Your best friend told someone else something you told her him in confidence. An acquaintance borrowed some money and has not paid it buck. You take your car back to a mechanic for the third time because it still isn't fixed. Your mother keeps telling you how to do something you already know how to do. Ri unn Hettclheim. children arc feel ing that if a task or problem is hard for them - if they cannot solve it as quickly as it's solved on TV then something is wrong with them. I his results in young people need ing immediate gratification and cnter tainment. They simply turn it on or plug it in. I hey may try to cover up their fears by complaining. For many, the next step is numbing these fears with drugs and alcohol. Today's youth must cope with issues adults didn't have to face as children or teenagers. Teen suicide, pregnancy and vio lence are on the rise. One in five children now live in a single-parent household. They are the first young generation to cope with out ability to destroy the world with the push of a button. They have never known a world without computers, videos or fast foods. They live in a mobile, high tech, fast-paced, immediate grati fication society. While the values of the Ws bring confusion, they also bring us to a new and important frontier the growing awareness of the extra ordinary awareness of the extraor dinary abilities of our own brain mind. , Research in psychology, educa tion, physics and mathematics nas shown our potential is far greater be of a good quality alfalfa or alfalfa-grass mix with theother23 being straw or grain hay. Several f- f h r pAmkinqtmnc mat K rwtcct- s ; hie usine such thines as mint sIuks. weedy hay and feeder quality alfalfa if the nutritonal levels are balanced. Ruminant animals such as cattle are much easier to provide for in terms of nutrition since they can utilize several different forms and kinds of feed. This isn't saying one should not be concerned with pro viding adequate feed but rather that mature cattle can be fed some poor quality feed if some other good form is also available. Providing 10 to 12 pounds of alfalfa or other good hay and as much grass straw or other poorer hay will usually suffice for the brood cow. Remember that grow ing heifers will need to be separated if possible and fed to meet their greater needs. Horses can be fed a good quality grass hay to maintain their weight and condition. If however, they are being worked, then they will need a little more feed. This might be some grain or maybe good alfalfa a First it's imnortant to realize that any paint, I nsul-aid included. doesn't add significant insulation .value. Insul-aid is designed as a 'vanorretarder to slow down water --1 . c :r;ja .I, vapor ainusion num iuaiu. m. house into the wall cavity. This may help prevent moisture prob lems inside the walls, but the R value will remain basically the same. The caulking you've done inside your home will do even more to minimize the water vapor that gets into your walls and ceiling. Be sure to caulk plumbing penetrations and install gaskets behind electric switches and outlets. The products you mentioned for sealing the outside should work -1 ? The view from the top was a perfect respite from the difficult climb. Tht Warm Springs Eitenslon Servlct provides tqual acctss to all Its activities and programs. life-building skills to youth . i .. . : ws.A r : .1 .- tWc than nnt ih:m vuee imaeincd. It seems we are given a biological super-computer without an owner operator manual. What were once thought to be our limits of mental growth, physical ability, emotional and spiritual boundaries arc now being revised and expanded. We arc redefining some old assump tions about how we form our beliefs, attitudes and reality; our methods; our ability to learn; and memory function. And this is just the beginning. Leaderparent There will be a 4-H leader and parent meeting Monday. September 28 beginning at 5:15 p.m. at the 4-H Center. The purpose of the meeting will be to: 1. Jefferson County 4-H Fair 1988; Jefferson County 4-H Fair planning process for 1988; pre registration; record books; 4-H grade level for exhibition; bonifide 4-H made. 2. Jefferson County Fair Board representation 3. 4-H leader and parent calling tree. 4. Establishing criteria for being a club leader needs now hav If you need help determining the needs of livestock and how to meet those needs, stop by the Extension office, and we ,will help you figure . i-cr 1 : L'.'. at om trie ainerpii puuuuuuiu. Marriage requires work As most couples discover, and as numerous psychological studies have shown, communication be tween spouses is essential to a good marriage. But does this mean the ability to talk or to listen, or both? And does it mainly involve the abil ity to discuss important questions suchastamily linanceorcnuarear- j 7 . . ine or maior decisions sucn as hniicino1? In a recent issue of Family Pers pective, two social scientists re ported the results of a survey of 3 1 married couples (average age, early forties; average length of marriage, 20 years). Not surprisingly, the couples that reported good com munication they valued most was not evening-long sessions hashing out their differences, but easy-going, pleasant conversations about every- kind of insulation is best? J - I ! nnMinrn(iAr fine. Caulking compounds mai would be just as satifactory include acrylic latex, polyurethane, and sil iconized acrylic latex. You mentioned that you can t use blown-in foam insulation be cause of your wife's allergy. Have you considered using blown-in loose-fill cellulose or fiber glass insulation? Both are commonly used as blown-in wall insulation. Oregon State University Exten sion energy agents and specialists will answer energy questions ot interest to readers. Send your ques tions to Energy Answers. OSU, Corvallis, OR 97331. Include your name, address and phone number. The OSU Extension Energy pro 1 5 -i 4- 9 OREGON STATE UNIVERSITY ecreiMSior SGRVICG Eralna Palmer Secretary Jonl David Program Aide Arlene Bolleau Extension Intern Mollis Marsh Extension Agent Clay Penhollow Extension Agent rnnjiiL-r we use less than one per cent, of our brain, we have enor mous capabilities yet to develop. It.may be awhile before we offer a basic and advanced "How to use your brain"4-H project, but we are in a perfect position to combine the nurturing, one-on-onc. stable gui dance we arc known for. along with an understanding and consid eration for values, learning styles and pressures facing today's youth. These kids are the future and it would seem wise to invest fully in them now. mtg. scheduled 5. Establishing criteria and ex pectations of 4-H club trips activi ties 6. 4-H awards program develop ment 7. 4-H leadcrand parent training needs 8. Leaders will receive their 198788 leader packets Potluck dinner please bring one dish. Drinks and bread will be provided. Notice to 4-Hers Any 4-Her who went to OSU Summer Week and or the 4-H Challenge Camp this summer and has not paid, please do so! Stop by with your check or send it to Warm Springs Extension, PO Box430, Warm Springs, OR 97761 . ; Thanks! ' Hav events. Wives, in particular, interpreted this kind of open, informal chat ting as an indication of mutual affection. Husbands, however, valued empathetic listening more than discussions, interpreting it as a sign of affection in their wives. ...... . . WIIIIMCd UC UUIIG! One of the causes of the wnn- kling of synthetic or permanent press fabrics is over-drying. To remove wrinkles, put items back into the dryer. Set the control for 15-20 minutes on permanent press or timed cycle. The heat and cool down period will remove the wrin kles. You can avoid wrinkling by reducing drying time and removing items when there is still a trace of moisture in them. gram is conducted in cooperation with the Oregon Department of Energy with funding from Bonne ville Power Administration and the U.S. Department of Energy. DON'T FORGET! the "Here's Looking at You 2000" training sessions August 31 and September 1 B:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. Madras Jr. High The Warm Springs OSU Extension Office will be open from -8 a.m. to 6 p.m. Monday thru Thurtday during October only for 4-H registration with parents 6)