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Spilyay Tymoo Warm Springs, Oregon August i4, 1987 Page 5 Turn lonliness into solitude when alone Almost all people feel lonely at least some of the time. It is per fectly natural to feel lonely as a relationship ends. There may also be other factors that influence your feelings or loneliness. Several events may lead to feeling lonely, and you may have experienced several of them recently. They include mov ing, the loss of friends, being by yourself on holidays, loss of income or even loss of job. If you have had more than one of these experien ces, your loneliness may be intensi fied. But perhaps you say, "So what, if I have good reasons for being lonely? I'm still lonely and I want to feel different. Is there any hope for me?" The answer is yes. You can manage your loneliness. First you'll have to develop some skills for coping. It will take some effort, things won't change over night but you'll gradually notice a difference in how you think, act. and feel. Children can be a source of joy and provide you with a sense of worth but they do not eliminate feelings of loneliness completely. We yearn for relationships in which there is a sense of equality, of give and take among adults. Our child' depend on them the same way. This is not to say that children can not be a comfort. They're just not enough. We seek some adult com panionship to reduce our loneliness. We have two words to describe being alone. They are solitude, which refers to feeling peaceful and quiet within ourselves, and loneli ness, which suggests feelings of dis comfort, boredom or sadness. As you think about your current situa tion, do you feel solitude or loneli ness? What do you do when you feel lonely? You probably try several things to rid yourself of those feel ings. Some of the most effective methods of dealing with loneliness are: listen to music; write; work or study; exercise; walk; work on a hobby; read and play music. One way you can deal with lone liness is to use it to develop your self. Can you use more of the above activities? Being comfortable when you're alone takes time. Your first few moments of silence after the children have gone to bed at night or when they are away on week ends may bring feelings of fear, emptiness or panic. Your initial reaction will likely be the desire to run away from the silence. Carin Rubinstein and Philip Shaver in their book on loneliness write. "Think of yourself with yourself, not without someone else." They suggest that you relax, listen to music (hat suits your feelings, and enjoy being with yourself, f ind something engaging to do hobbies, reading, music, exercise, writing, working, painting, and so forth. Of course, seeking such solitude is difficult for newly single parents. Solitude is possible in part because we have a sense that wc are con nected with the world and others; having just suffered the loss of a relationship reminds us of how fragile ourconnections with others are. Solitude will not come easily but it will come, You must be patient with yourself and not expect blissful peace within a week or even a month. Gradually, you will notice that you're experiencing more and more solitude, less and less loneliness. "To be alone and to conquer loneliness is to build a private strength." Tht Warm Springs Extension Service provides equal access to all Its activities and programs. OREGON STAT6 UNIVERSITY eaeiMSioiM SGRVICG Eralna Palmer Secretary Jonl David Program Aide Arlene Bolleau Extension Intern Mollle Marsh Extension Agent Clay Penhollow Extension Agent Keep foods at proper temperature for safety Summertime, and the livin' is easy not just for you. but also for micro-organisms that can grow in food and make you sick. Rule 1 Remember the time temperature danger rone. Disease causing bacteria like to grow in food in the temperature range between 40 and 140 degrees F. Don't cat foods that have been kept within this range for more than two hours. Rule 2 Make a clean break to good sanitation practices. Clcanli- ren depend on us. but we do not Cheesecake dessert high in calcium ncss is critical to avoid food con tamination. At every step of food preparation, wash hands, counters and utensils with warm soapy waters. When barbecucing. don't use the same plate for cooked meat that carried the raw meat unless you have washed it. Rule &3 Know the food requir ing special care. Harmful organisms grow more readily in food high in protein and moisture. Foods such as meat, poultry, fish, shell fish, meat and seafood salads, pota to salads, cream pies, cake fillings and gravies require care with time, temperature, and sanitation. Rule 4 Inspect food storage. Keep pantry storage areas about 50 degrees F. clean and away from leaky pipes, household chemicals and openings where insects and rodents may enter. Rule 5 Think before you eat. Most food poisoning bacteria arc odorless, colorless and tasteless. The only sense protection you have is common sense. When traveling, prudent dietary and hygenic prac tices are your best protection. Rule 6 Know when to see a doctor. If symptoms are severe or if the victim is young, elderly or suffers from a chronic illness; if you sus pect botulism -get help immediate ly it can be fatal! Botulism attacks the nervous system, causing double vision, trouble swallowing, and diffi cult breathing. Generally, diarrhea, nausea, vomiting and abdominal cramps characterize food-borne illnesses. Symptoms usually appear in six to 48 hours. Rule til Learn more about food safety. These bulletins are avail able at the Warm Springs Exten sion Office: "The Foot Keeper," "Food Safety for the family." "Storage of Perishable foods in the home." and "You Can Prevent Food Poisonine." ' Cheesecake. America's favorite dessert, is often passed up by those who need to watch their weight. Now everyone can enjoy delicious, creamy cheesecake with this "No one believes it. Strawberry Cheese cake." Not only is it low in calories. (190 calories per slice) but, it's good for you too. Made with low fat cottage cheese, vanilla yogurt and nonfat dry milk, each serving contains 157 mg of calcium. This combination is a sure winner with teenage girls who have been shown to average an intake of less than 60 percent of the daily Recom mended Dietary Allowance(RDA) for calcium. Calcium helps build bones, and strong bones are the best deterrent to the debilitating disease of later years called osteo porosis. Serve with a glass of one percent lowfat milk for more than 25 percent of the teen's RDA for calcium and a total of only 292 calories. For a free recipe leaflet which includes this recipe and more, send a self-addressed stamped envelope to: "Dynamite Dairy Dishes"; National Dairy Board; Box HE87; 928 Broadway, New York, New York 10010. Strawberry cheesecake A cup fine graham cracker crumbs sugar 2 tablespoons butter, melted 1 pound 1 milkfat cottage cheese Vi cup nonfat dry milk powder 3 eggs 2 tablespoons lemon juice 2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract 1 container (8 ounces) vanilla low fat yogurt 1 pint fresh strawberries, hulled and halved. Preheat oven to 325 F. Lightly butter bottom and sides of a 9-inch pie pan. In a small bowl combine graham cracker crumbs. 2 teaspoons sugar and butter. With the back of a large spoon press onto the bot tom and sides of prepared pie pan. Bake for 5 minutes. In the con tainer of an electric blender place cottage cheese, dry milk, 13 cup sugar, eggs, lemon juice and vanilla extract. Whirl until smooth. Pour into pie shell. Bake until firm, about 30 minutes. Remove from oven. Spread yogurt over top. Bake until yogurt is firm. 10 to 12 min utes. Cool. Cover and refrigerate. Just before serving top with straw berries. For an extra calcium bonus, serve with a glass of one percent lowfat milk. Yield: eight (8) portions. Per portion: 157 mg calcium. 190 calories. With I cup I percent lowfat milk: 457 mg calcium. 292 calories. Credit refusal not end of the world Conifers duylng due to numerous reasons An,abn6rmally(high,nurn,ber of small to medium-fcized conifer trees, both in forests and home lands capes, have been dyingin recent months, according to observations of Oregon State University extension agents and foresters. Most of these trees appear to be on poorly drained sites. Other pro blems for young conifers include bark beetles, root rot and canker ing fungi. Among these killers, root rot is a long-standing problem that is aggra vated by poor drainage. The other problems are generally associated with stressed trees. Healthy trees generally have enough natural def ensive artillery to fend them off. The question is, what is causing young and otherwise healthy trees, to die? The best reason available right now, according to Fletcher, are these general observations. Drought. Rainfall during the past two summers has been far less than normal. In the Willamette Valley, last year's rainfall was only 60 per cent of 1984's rainfall. The 1985 rainfall was about the same as last year's. This year is also shaping up FYI Weight gain By her thirteenth wedding anni versary, the average married Ameri can woman has gained 23 pounds, while her husband has put on 18 pounds, according to the Ameri can Dietetic Association. as a fairly dry one. The last rainfall pattern of this type occurred some 40 years ago. Freezing. Several abnormal freez ing periods have occurred during the past few years, two of these in 1985 with the"Mother's Day Freeze" and a dry, cold November. This year, as mild as it has been, there has been some bud freezing in some locations. Erractic weather is much harder on trees than colder, but more predictable weather patterns. Disturbance. Trees like to be left alone. Excavations for new homes frequently disturb soils that trees have their roots in. The result is a weakening of the tree. Activities, such as construction or heavy foot traffic around trees tend to com pact the soil and damage the tree's ability to cope with stressful weather. Neglect. If a tree is damaged beyond ability to recover, remove it. Disease established in one tree can spread to others, damaging them also. Whatever else might be adver sely affecting local conifers is unclear at this time, Fletcher noted. Some have suggested that weather patt erns are changing because of such factors as the Mount St. Helens explosions of the past few years, tropical rain forest defoliation, ozone layer damage and even increasing air pollution. It will be some time before these situations are better understood, Fletcher said. In the meantime, be careful how you treat your trees and be especially careful not to dis turb their fragile root systems. You apply for a charge account with a department store and are turned down. Hardly theend of the world but still a minor annoyance, an experience like this is not likely to give you an inferiority complex. You may wonder why you are con sidered unworthy of credit. Rather than guessing, contact the creditor. Federal law requires creditors to tell you why your appli cation was denied. Standards for extending credit vary from one company of financial institution to another. There are certain criteria all creditors use for their evaluations. What they all want to know is this: can you and will you repay a loan? In order to answer this ques tion, a creditor will look at your stability, income, present expenses and past history of debt payments. How long have you lived at your current address? Do you rent or own your own home? How long have you worked at your present job, and how much do you earn? Do you have dependents and other financial obligations? Do you pay your bills promptly? How much do you still owe on current debts? Are you living within your means? Based upon the answers to these questions, a creditor will make a judgement as to whether you are a good risk. Your creidt rating is not etched in stone. Even if you've been denied charge cards or loans in the past, you can take steps that will help you establish credit. Bank accounts make good references for credit applications, especially if you manage your accounts in a responsible manner. That means slowly building a healthy savings account and not overdrawing your checking funds. The money in your savings account will eventually be used a collateral to secure loans. If a store denies you a charge account, find out if you can pur chase items on a lay-away plan. Once you show the store that you can make regular payments, the credit manager may decide that you are good risk after all. When making a major purchase such as a car your credit applica tion will be more readily approved ifyoucancomeup with a bigdown payment. A credit manager will reason that with a lot of your own money on the line, you are less likely to miss payments and allow the item to be repossessed. A co-signer can often help you obtain a loan or charge account when your own credit qualifica tions are not strong enough. If you can prove that you can pay your bills, you may not need a co-signer next time. Once you've established credit, don't make the mistake of over extending yourself and damaging your reputation. Your credit record is something that you can change for better or worse depending on how you handle your finances. It's apple time.... To pick or not to pick Harvest season for apples is begin ning, but when is the proper time to pick them? It may depend on where you are in the Pacific Northwest. A given variety of apple reaches harvest maturity at about the same period of time each year. Fruit usually matures later in cooler regions of Oregon than in the war mer districts. Indicators of picking time for apples are fruit color, ease of sepa ration, fruit drop, and softness and flavor. Apples may be yellow, red, green, or combinations of these colors at harvest. When the green has almost completely given way to yellow, a yellow variety such as Golden Deli cious or Lodi is mature. With red blush or striped apples such as Jonathan or Spitzenburg, the area where there is no red color usually changes from green to yel low at maturity. The change of flesh color(between the skin and core of the apple) is another indicator of fruit maturity. When the apple's flesh changes from green to white, the apple has matured. Mature apples are usually easy to separate from the tree. Do not pull the apple down, but twist it upward with a rotating motion when picking. Fruit drop is an indication of apple maturity only when sound, non-wormy apples fall to the ground. When a few of the healthy apples drop off the tree, the others still on the tree are ready to be picked. Also, a mature apple should be just slightly soft, and taste sweet and juicy. Control weeds, insects carefully Some interesting facts The application of chemical weed and insect control agents in the home garden or landscape is a sen sitive issue with many people. Of course, the decision of whether to use herbicides or pesticides is up to the homeowner. For those who do wish to use such controls, safe use is of para mount importance. With any out door chemical intended for use around the yard, careful use can't be overemphasized. Careless or over- enthusiastic use can do a lot more harm than good. Drifting fumes from herbicide sprays can damage berry, grape and vegetable plants as well as kill weeds. Flowers in beds adjacent to lawns can also be damaged by weed-killers that are spread around too liberally. Apply weed killers in the early morning or late evening when the air is more likely to be still. Try to avoid spraying whenever the wind -j . - .... I : - ,mMry ' -Site... SV. WV-"V-;V is blowing, McNeilan urged. Also, the weed-killing properties of a "weed and feed" combination can damage ornamental and garden plants. The chemical in the combi nation can evaporate on hot days and the vapors produced may make contact with nearby plants. Weed and feed combinations may also damage the roots of woody plants that are under the lawn surface. Always read the label directions when using weed-killing chemicals and make applications in the cor rect amounts. Mixing weed sprays too strongly is a common error. One safe way of controlling deep rooted perennial weeds such as quackgrass, is to apply the herbi cide (glyphosate is recommended) directly to the leaves of the weed. Direct application greatly reduces About 80 percent of the sun's skin-damaging radiation can pene trate through cloudy haze, accord ing to the Skin Cancer Foundation. If you dislike the taste of skim milk and find it watery, try adding a tablespoon or two of nonfat dried milk. Not only will this make it thicker, whiter, and richer-tasting, it will also boost the calcium and protein content. increase in fat. with a minimal You must brush your teeth for at least five minutes to remove plaque effectively, according to a study done at the University of Iowa. The typical American brushes hisher teeth for only 30 seconds, long enough to remove only ten percent of accumulated plaque. Water temp, important factor When doing the family laundry, base the selection of wash water temperature on several factors inclu ding types of fabrics, degree of soil ing and whether the load contains colored or white clothes. For some very heavily soiled clo thing and for whites, a hot wash the chance of contaminating the y. surroundingarea with the herbicide. oincr OI coining, sucn as Cooking from "scratch" saves money, time, tastes good! Cooking trom scratcn can oe fast. It tastes better and saves money. Get help in the kitchen from your partner or the children. Teach them to do the chopping and the table setting while you manage the main dish. Everyone help with clean-up. Harm Springs 4-Hers participated in camping trip to Trout Lake August 7-9. 4-Hersfrom HarmSpringS, Wasco County, Sherman County, Hood River andKlicktat County (in Washington) took part in the camp. Each 4 -Her prepared food and or tome, it was a real learning experience. Oregon Beef stroganoff 2 cups coarsely chopped onions 3 tablespoons butter 2 tablespoons flour I cup beef bouillon I tablespoon catsup I tablespoon Worcestershire sauce V5 teaspoon salt teaspoon pepper I pound mushrooms, sliced or I can canned sliced mushrooms I cupsourcream. Use half and half sour cream to reduce calories. I pound ground beef. "saute onions in ouuer until clear. Stir in flour, add bouillon, stir ring until smooth. Add Worces tershire, salt and pepper and catsup. ln another skillet, brown the beef, drain fat and add meat to sauce. Gently saute mushrooms in beef pan about five(5) minutes and add to beef sauce mixture. Add sour cream. Heat but do not boil. Serve over rice or noodles. Serves six (6) Recipe from Albertina's cookbook. Fruit Salad Cut up available fruit. Make dressing of plain, vanilla, or lemon yogurt. If you use apples, add a little cinnamon and honey. If you don have yogurt on hand use two rounded scoops of vanilla icecream. synthetic fabricsand brightly colored clothing, a warm or cold wash is best. The rinse temperature is not so difficult to select. Research has found that a cold rinse is generally acceptable for all types of garments. In addition, regularly using a cold rinse results in substantial energy savings on hot water use. In one research study, switching from a warm to a cold rinse resulted in a savings of over ten percent of energy costs for the family laundry. Use bleach with care Chlorine bleach is a powerful che mical. Use it carefully when clean ing clothes. Silk, wood and other hair fibers such as camel or cashmere, will dis solve in fresh liquid chlorine bleach. Even diluted solutions of this bleach will cause permanent yellowingand stiffening of wool fibers, and usu ally cause weakeningand color loss in silk. Cellulosic fibers such as cotton, linen, rayon ramie, will be wea kened by repeated exposure to dil uted solution of liquid chlorine bleach, but chlorine bleaches can be used safely on these fibers for occasional stain removal. Undil uted chlorine bleach can weaken fabrics so that they tear or wear out more quickly.