Spilyay Tymoo
Warm Springs, Oregon
August i4, 1987 Page 5
Turn lonliness into solitude when alone
Almost all people feel lonely at
least some of the time. It is per
fectly natural to feel lonely as a
relationship ends. There may also
be other factors that influence your
feelings or loneliness. Several events
may lead to feeling lonely, and you
may have experienced several of
them recently. They include mov
ing, the loss of friends, being by
yourself on holidays, loss of income
or even loss of job. If you have had
more than one of these experien
ces, your loneliness may be intensi
fied. But perhaps you say, "So
what, if I have good reasons for
being lonely? I'm still lonely and I
want to feel different. Is there any
hope for me?" The answer is yes.
You can manage your loneliness.
First you'll have to develop some
skills for coping. It will take some
effort, things won't change over
night but you'll gradually notice a
difference in how you think, act.
and feel.
Children can be a source of joy
and provide you with a sense of
worth but they do not eliminate
feelings of loneliness completely.
We yearn for relationships in which
there is a sense of equality, of give
and take among adults. Our child'
depend on them the same way.
This is not to say that children can
not be a comfort. They're just not
enough. We seek some adult com
panionship to reduce our loneliness.
We have two words to describe
being alone. They are solitude,
which refers to feeling peaceful and
quiet within ourselves, and loneli
ness, which suggests feelings of dis
comfort, boredom or sadness. As
you think about your current situa
tion, do you feel solitude or loneli
ness? What do you do when you feel
lonely? You probably try several
things to rid yourself of those feel
ings. Some of the most effective
methods of dealing with loneliness
are: listen to music; write; work or
study; exercise; walk; work on a
hobby; read and play music.
One way you can deal with lone
liness is to use it to develop your
self. Can you use more of the above
activities? Being comfortable when
you're alone takes time. Your first
few moments of silence after the
children have gone to bed at night
or when they are away on week
ends may bring feelings of fear,
emptiness or panic. Your initial
reaction will likely be the desire to
run away from the silence. Carin
Rubinstein and Philip Shaver in
their book on loneliness write.
"Think of yourself with yourself,
not without someone else." They
suggest that you relax, listen to
music (hat suits your feelings, and
enjoy being with yourself, f ind
something engaging to do hobbies,
reading, music, exercise, writing,
working, painting, and so forth.
Of course, seeking such solitude
is difficult for newly single parents.
Solitude is possible in part because
we have a sense that wc are con
nected with the world and others;
having just suffered the loss of a
relationship reminds us of how
fragile ourconnections with others
are. Solitude will not come easily
but it will come, You must be
patient with yourself and not expect
blissful peace within a week or even
a month. Gradually, you will notice
that you're experiencing more
and more solitude, less and less
loneliness.
"To be alone and to conquer
loneliness is to build a private
strength."
Tht Warm Springs Extension
Service provides equal access to
all Its activities and programs.
OREGON STAT6 UNIVERSITY
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SGRVICG
Eralna Palmer Secretary
Jonl David Program Aide
Arlene Bolleau Extension Intern
Mollle Marsh Extension Agent
Clay Penhollow Extension
Agent
Keep foods at proper temperature for safety
Summertime, and the livin' is
easy not just for you. but also for
micro-organisms that can grow in
food and make you sick.
Rule 1 Remember the time
temperature danger rone. Disease
causing bacteria like to grow in
food in the temperature range
between 40 and 140 degrees F.
Don't cat foods that have been
kept within this range for more
than two hours.
Rule 2 Make a clean break to
good sanitation practices. Clcanli-
ren depend on us. but we do not
Cheesecake dessert high in calcium
ncss is critical to avoid food con
tamination. At every step of food
preparation, wash hands, counters
and utensils with warm soapy waters.
When barbecucing. don't use the
same plate for cooked meat that
carried the raw meat unless you
have washed it.
Rule &3 Know the food requir
ing special care. Harmful organisms
grow more readily in food high in
protein and moisture. Foods
such as meat, poultry, fish, shell
fish, meat and seafood salads, pota
to salads, cream pies, cake fillings
and gravies require care with time,
temperature, and sanitation.
Rule 4 Inspect food storage.
Keep pantry storage areas about 50
degrees F. clean and away from
leaky pipes, household chemicals
and openings where insects and
rodents may enter.
Rule 5 Think before you eat.
Most food poisoning bacteria arc
odorless, colorless and tasteless.
The only sense protection you have
is common sense. When traveling,
prudent dietary and hygenic prac
tices are your best protection.
Rule 6 Know when to see a
doctor. If symptoms are severe or if
the victim is young, elderly or suffers
from a chronic illness; if you sus
pect botulism -get help immediate
ly it can be fatal! Botulism attacks
the nervous system, causing double
vision, trouble swallowing, and diffi
cult breathing. Generally, diarrhea,
nausea, vomiting and abdominal
cramps characterize food-borne
illnesses. Symptoms usually appear
in six to 48 hours.
Rule til Learn more about food
safety. These bulletins are avail
able at the Warm Springs Exten
sion Office: "The Foot Keeper,"
"Food Safety for the family."
"Storage of Perishable foods in the
home." and "You Can Prevent
Food Poisonine." '
Cheesecake. America's favorite
dessert, is often passed up by those
who need to watch their weight.
Now everyone can enjoy delicious,
creamy cheesecake with this "No
one believes it. Strawberry Cheese
cake." Not only is it low in calories.
(190 calories per slice) but, it's
good for you too. Made with low
fat cottage cheese, vanilla yogurt
and nonfat dry milk, each serving
contains 157 mg of calcium.
This combination is a sure winner
with teenage girls who have been
shown to average an intake of less
than 60 percent of the daily Recom
mended Dietary Allowance(RDA)
for calcium. Calcium helps build
bones, and strong bones are the
best deterrent to the debilitating
disease of later years called osteo
porosis. Serve with a glass of one
percent lowfat milk for more than
25 percent of the teen's RDA for
calcium and a total of only 292
calories.
For a free recipe leaflet which
includes this recipe and more, send
a self-addressed stamped envelope
to: "Dynamite Dairy Dishes";
National Dairy Board; Box HE87;
928 Broadway, New York, New
York 10010.
Strawberry cheesecake
A cup fine graham cracker crumbs
sugar
2 tablespoons butter, melted
1 pound 1 milkfat cottage cheese
Vi cup nonfat dry milk powder
3 eggs
2 tablespoons lemon juice
2 teaspoons pure vanilla extract
1 container (8 ounces) vanilla low
fat yogurt
1 pint fresh strawberries, hulled
and halved.
Preheat oven to 325 F. Lightly
butter bottom and sides of a 9-inch
pie pan. In a small bowl combine
graham cracker crumbs. 2 teaspoons
sugar and butter. With the back of
a large spoon press onto the bot
tom and sides of prepared pie pan.
Bake for 5 minutes. In the con
tainer of an electric blender
place cottage cheese, dry milk, 13
cup sugar, eggs, lemon juice and
vanilla extract. Whirl until smooth.
Pour into pie shell. Bake until firm,
about 30 minutes. Remove from
oven. Spread yogurt over top. Bake
until yogurt is firm. 10 to 12 min
utes. Cool. Cover and refrigerate.
Just before serving top with straw
berries. For an extra calcium bonus,
serve with a glass of one percent
lowfat milk.
Yield: eight (8) portions.
Per portion: 157 mg calcium.
190 calories.
With I cup I percent lowfat
milk: 457 mg calcium. 292 calories.
Credit refusal not end of the world
Conifers duylng due to numerous reasons
An,abn6rmally(high,nurn,ber of
small to medium-fcized conifer trees,
both in forests and home lands
capes, have been dyingin recent months,
according to observations of Oregon
State University extension agents
and foresters.
Most of these trees appear to be
on poorly drained sites. Other pro
blems for young conifers include
bark beetles, root rot and canker
ing fungi.
Among these killers, root rot is a
long-standing problem that is aggra
vated by poor drainage. The other
problems are generally associated
with stressed trees. Healthy trees
generally have enough natural def
ensive artillery to fend them off.
The question is, what is causing
young and otherwise healthy trees,
to die?
The best reason available right
now, according to Fletcher, are
these general observations.
Drought. Rainfall during the past
two summers has been far less than
normal. In the Willamette Valley,
last year's rainfall was only 60 per
cent of 1984's rainfall. The 1985
rainfall was about the same as last
year's. This year is also shaping up
FYI Weight gain
By her thirteenth wedding anni
versary, the average married Ameri
can woman has gained 23 pounds,
while her husband has put on 18
pounds, according to the Ameri
can Dietetic Association.
as a fairly dry one. The last rainfall
pattern of this type occurred some
40 years ago.
Freezing. Several abnormal freez
ing periods have occurred during
the past few years, two of these in
1985 with the"Mother's Day Freeze"
and a dry, cold November. This
year, as mild as it has been, there
has been some bud freezing in
some locations. Erractic weather is
much harder on trees than colder,
but more predictable weather
patterns.
Disturbance. Trees like to be left
alone. Excavations for new homes
frequently disturb soils that trees
have their roots in. The result is a
weakening of the tree. Activities,
such as construction or heavy foot
traffic around trees tend to com
pact the soil and damage the tree's
ability to cope with stressful weather.
Neglect. If a tree is damaged
beyond ability to recover, remove
it. Disease established in one tree
can spread to others, damaging
them also.
Whatever else might be adver
sely affecting local conifers is unclear
at this time, Fletcher noted. Some
have suggested that weather patt
erns are changing because of such
factors as the Mount St. Helens
explosions of the past few years,
tropical rain forest defoliation, ozone
layer damage and even increasing
air pollution.
It will be some time before these
situations are better understood,
Fletcher said. In the meantime, be
careful how you treat your trees
and be especially careful not to dis
turb their fragile root systems.
You apply for a charge account
with a department store and are
turned down. Hardly theend of the
world but still a minor annoyance,
an experience like this is not likely
to give you an inferiority complex.
You may wonder why you are con
sidered unworthy of credit.
Rather than guessing, contact
the creditor. Federal law requires
creditors to tell you why your appli
cation was denied. Standards for
extending credit vary from one
company of financial institution to
another. There are certain criteria
all creditors use for their evaluations.
What they all want to know is
this: can you and will you repay a
loan? In order to answer this ques
tion, a creditor will look at your
stability, income, present expenses
and past history of debt payments.
How long have you lived at your
current address? Do you rent or
own your own home? How long
have you worked at your present
job, and how much do you earn?
Do you have dependents and other
financial obligations? Do you pay
your bills promptly? How much do
you still owe on current debts? Are
you living within your means?
Based upon the answers to these
questions, a creditor will make a
judgement as to whether you are a
good risk. Your creidt rating is not
etched in stone. Even if you've been
denied charge cards or loans in the
past, you can take steps that will
help you establish credit. Bank
accounts make good references for
credit applications, especially if
you manage your accounts in a
responsible manner.
That means slowly building a
healthy savings account and not
overdrawing your checking funds.
The money in your savings account
will eventually be used a collateral
to secure loans.
If a store denies you a charge
account, find out if you can pur
chase items on a lay-away plan.
Once you show the store that you
can make regular payments, the
credit manager may decide that
you are good risk after all.
When making a major purchase
such as a car your credit applica
tion will be more readily approved
ifyoucancomeup with a bigdown
payment. A credit manager will
reason that with a lot of your own
money on the line, you are less
likely to miss payments and allow
the item to be repossessed.
A co-signer can often help you
obtain a loan or charge account
when your own credit qualifica
tions are not strong enough. If you
can prove that you can pay your
bills, you may not need a co-signer
next time.
Once you've established credit,
don't make the mistake of over
extending yourself and damaging
your reputation. Your credit record
is something that you can change
for better or worse depending on
how you handle your finances.
It's apple time....
To pick or not to pick
Harvest season for apples is begin
ning, but when is the proper time to
pick them? It may depend on where
you are in the Pacific Northwest.
A given variety of apple reaches
harvest maturity at about the same
period of time each year. Fruit
usually matures later in cooler
regions of Oregon than in the war
mer districts.
Indicators of picking time for
apples are fruit color, ease of sepa
ration, fruit drop, and softness and
flavor.
Apples may be yellow, red, green,
or combinations of these colors at
harvest. When the green has almost
completely given way to yellow, a
yellow variety such as Golden Deli
cious or Lodi is mature.
With red blush or striped apples
such as Jonathan or Spitzenburg,
the area where there is no red color
usually changes from green to yel
low at maturity.
The change of flesh color(between
the skin and core of the apple) is
another indicator of fruit maturity.
When the apple's flesh changes
from green to white, the apple has
matured.
Mature apples are usually easy
to separate from the tree. Do not
pull the apple down, but twist it
upward with a rotating motion
when picking.
Fruit drop is an indication of
apple maturity only when sound,
non-wormy apples fall to the ground.
When a few of the healthy apples
drop off the tree, the others still on
the tree are ready to be picked.
Also, a mature apple should be
just slightly soft, and taste sweet
and juicy.
Control weeds, insects carefully Some interesting facts
The application of chemical weed
and insect control agents in the
home garden or landscape is a sen
sitive issue with many people. Of
course, the decision of whether to
use herbicides or pesticides is up to
the homeowner.
For those who do wish to use
such controls, safe use is of para
mount importance. With any out
door chemical intended for use
around the yard, careful use can't
be overemphasized. Careless or over-
enthusiastic use can do a lot more
harm than good.
Drifting fumes from herbicide
sprays can damage berry, grape
and vegetable plants as well as kill
weeds. Flowers in beds adjacent to
lawns can also be damaged by
weed-killers that are spread around
too liberally.
Apply weed killers in the early
morning or late evening when the
air is more likely to be still. Try to
avoid spraying whenever the wind
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is blowing, McNeilan urged.
Also, the weed-killing properties
of a "weed and feed" combination
can damage ornamental and garden
plants. The chemical in the combi
nation can evaporate on hot days
and the vapors produced may make
contact with nearby plants. Weed
and feed combinations may also
damage the roots of woody plants
that are under the lawn surface.
Always read the label directions
when using weed-killing chemicals
and make applications in the cor
rect amounts. Mixing weed sprays
too strongly is a common error.
One safe way of controlling deep
rooted perennial weeds such as
quackgrass, is to apply the herbi
cide (glyphosate is recommended)
directly to the leaves of the weed.
Direct application greatly reduces
About 80 percent of the sun's
skin-damaging radiation can pene
trate through cloudy haze, accord
ing to the Skin Cancer Foundation.
If you dislike the taste of skim
milk and find it watery, try adding
a tablespoon or two of nonfat dried
milk. Not only will this make it
thicker, whiter, and richer-tasting,
it will also boost the calcium and
protein content.
increase in fat.
with a minimal
You must brush your teeth for at
least five minutes to remove plaque
effectively, according to a study
done at the University of Iowa. The
typical American brushes hisher
teeth for only 30 seconds, long
enough to remove only ten percent
of accumulated plaque.
Water temp, important factor
When doing the family laundry,
base the selection of wash water
temperature on several factors inclu
ding types of fabrics, degree of soil
ing and whether the load contains
colored or white clothes.
For some very heavily soiled clo
thing and for whites, a hot wash
the chance of contaminating the y.
surroundingarea with the herbicide. oincr OI coining, sucn as
Cooking from "scratch" saves
money, time, tastes good!
Cooking trom scratcn can oe
fast. It tastes better and saves money.
Get help in the kitchen from your
partner or the children. Teach them
to do the chopping and the table
setting while you manage the main
dish. Everyone help with clean-up.
Harm Springs 4-Hers participated in camping trip to Trout Lake August 7-9. 4-Hersfrom HarmSpringS,
Wasco County, Sherman County, Hood River andKlicktat County (in Washington) took part in the camp.
Each 4 -Her prepared food and or tome, it was a real learning experience.
Oregon Beef stroganoff
2 cups coarsely chopped onions
3 tablespoons butter
2 tablespoons flour
I cup beef bouillon
I tablespoon catsup
I tablespoon Worcestershire sauce
V5 teaspoon salt
teaspoon pepper
I pound mushrooms, sliced or I
can canned sliced mushrooms
I cupsourcream. Use half and half
sour cream to reduce calories.
I pound ground beef.
"saute onions in ouuer until clear.
Stir in flour, add bouillon, stir
ring until smooth. Add Worces
tershire, salt and pepper and catsup.
ln another skillet, brown the beef,
drain fat and add meat to sauce.
Gently saute mushrooms in beef
pan about five(5) minutes and add
to beef sauce mixture.
Add sour cream. Heat but do not
boil.
Serve over rice or noodles.
Serves six (6)
Recipe from Albertina's cookbook.
Fruit Salad
Cut up available fruit. Make
dressing of plain, vanilla, or lemon
yogurt. If you use apples, add a
little cinnamon and honey. If you
don have yogurt on hand use two
rounded scoops of vanilla icecream.
synthetic fabricsand brightly colored
clothing, a warm or cold wash is
best.
The rinse temperature is not so
difficult to select. Research has
found that a cold rinse is generally
acceptable for all types of garments.
In addition, regularly using a cold
rinse results in substantial energy
savings on hot water use.
In one research study, switching
from a warm to a cold rinse resulted
in a savings of over ten percent of
energy costs for the family laundry.
Use bleach with care
Chlorine bleach is a powerful che
mical. Use it carefully when clean
ing clothes.
Silk, wood and other hair fibers
such as camel or cashmere, will dis
solve in fresh liquid chlorine bleach.
Even diluted solutions of this bleach
will cause permanent yellowingand
stiffening of wool fibers, and usu
ally cause weakeningand color loss
in silk.
Cellulosic fibers such as cotton,
linen, rayon ramie, will be wea
kened by repeated exposure to dil
uted solution of liquid chlorine
bleach, but chlorine bleaches can
be used safely on these fibers for
occasional stain removal. Undil
uted chlorine bleach can weaken
fabrics so that they tear or wear out
more quickly.