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About Spilyay tymoo. (Warm Springs, Or.) 1976-current | View Entire Issue (Dec. 21, 1984)
c S pilyay T ymoo It happens in Warm Springstoo W h e n c h ild r e n in W a rm S prings becom e the victim s of abuse it becomes everyone’s prob lem and everyone’s responsibil ity to help th a t child. P hysical and sexual abuse and neglect affect a child’s wel fare and can have long-lasting effects on the child b o th psy chologically arid physically. Because W arm Springs, like the rest o f the nation, does show a child abuse an d neglect p ro b lem, the Y outh Service Program iti 1983 form ed an abuse team . T eam leader and youth services counselor M ildred K irk explains the abuse team . “W e’re riot here to take kids from families. O ur ultim ate goal is to have children Stay in the hom e. A dults m ust, tak e care of the children and n o t p u t them in a situation where there is violence, neglect and abuse.” , C oncern fo r children did not begin in 1983. A child neglect; com m ittee was form ed in 1972 as a protection agency for chil dren. Since th a t time counselors and police have dealt with riiany cases. N ow there is w ritten p o l icy regarding abuse and neglect of children in W arm Springs. ■ • Y outh Service D epartm ent and Police personnel w otk toget her in assisting children. Both receive training in investigation techniques and treatm en t o f an abused child. R eferrals are re sponded to by either agency. If there is the possibility th a t a ch ild ’s welfare is in danger p o licemen respond im m ediately, Sometimes accom panied by a Y outh Services counselor. C o m m u n ity m em bers w ho becom e aw are of child abuse an d neglect instances are eri-’ Couraged to call the Y outh Ser vices counselors or the police. C alls m ay be m ade ano n y m < } December 21,1984 I Page 5 Conference discusses child sexual abuse ously. The child’s Welfare, though, is o f u tm o st im portance. A child abu^e an d neglect A tw o - d a y c o n f e r e n c e , to view his act as a crim e, code is p a rt o f W arm S prings’ N ovem ber 29 an d 30, 1983, on H indm an pointed out*, Before Law an d O rd er Code: Section child sexual abuse opened the treatm ent is effective he must 305.140 obligates citizens to re eyes o f m any particip an ts. A l realize he is a crim inal. po rt abuse. “Any person whether though spoken ab o u t secretly in ,;h i^ fh lr the .phild o r non-of- private citizen, private official, the past, the problem of child ferider spouse sho u ld be in o r public official who has rea sexual abuse is being brought to volved in decision m aking. The sonable gro u n d s to believe th a | light. A n increasing num ber of child Will feel the offense was a child w ith w hom he has co n incidents are reported. her fault, she will riot w ant to tact has suffered abuse, or th at S peaking on the problem of disrupt the family and the spouse any ad u lt with whom he has sexual abuse against children* will very often choose her hus cp n tact has abused a child shall Ja n H indm an, form erly o f the band over a child. It is easier to rep o rt such in form ation to the. M alheur C ounty M ental H ealth call the child a lia r than to adm it W arm Springs T ribal Police De and C ounseling Center, em pha th at a husband is a child moles* p artm en t o r the W arm Springs sized the im portance of agency ter. Ju v e n ile D e p a rtm e n t f o r th cooperation, offender treatm ent Police, prosecutors, court and w ith...A ny person subm itting a and especially victim therapy. therapists eventually learned the rep o rt in good faith ...sh all have, • O utlining the p ro g ram she .type o f cooperation necessary im m unity from any liability, h e lp ed d e v elo p in M a lh e u r ?j,o deal with families, offenders civil or crim inal, th a t m ight County:, Hindm an acknowledges and victims. The prim ary goal, otherwise be incurred or imposed the m any m istakes th a t were, . qf cpurse, is treatm en t of the with respect to the m aking or m ade in dealing w ith abusers, ’ ¿victim . content of such report. ” v ic tim s a n d n o n -o f fe n d in g The offender, H indm an ad Ten to twelve rep o rts o f neg spouses. T here Were problem s, vised, will cry, will be arrogant, lect an d child abuse are made too, in obtaining cooperation will be dishbriest. R easons for each m onth, according to. Kirk. between involved agencies. the abuse will range from “I ’ve Neglect is the m ost predom i- ‘ Originally, it was assumed never had a good relationship n an t offense in W arm Springs: certain steps would aid a ll in- ’ with an y o n e” to “ It’s better for W ofk with the family often brings volved. The offender could be ’ pie to teach h er.” Pow er, self im provem ent in the situ atio n , left in th e hom e, the child could ish n e ss, the forbidden and con* explains K irk. “We will give help decide w hat to. d o ? the trol tu rn o ut to be the basic rea them o p tio n s,” with the 'ulti offender will w ant to get treat- ’ sons for the abuse despite the Sptfyoy Tymoo photo by S h tw ciyk m ate goal o f im proving the sit m ent court should be avoided reasons given by the offender. C h ild se x u a l abu se cou n selor J a n H in d m a n d isp la ys d o lls u sed to uation. A co n tract with parents for children, m others will sup ' Affected greatly is an non- help chidren a c t o u t abuses. obligates them to im prove fo r p o rt kids, and the com unity w ill, ; offending spouse. The cycle of the health and safety of the be su p p o rtiv e. All th ese as-., ¿child sexual abuse usually fol abusers, victim s and non-of the victim, is m ost im portant. child or children with the penalty sum ptions were proved to be low s th e victim. O ften a w om an fending spouses. Each tried to He o r she must be relieved of fo r failure to com ply being a • wrong. Who was abused as a ehild will tell his o r her story, It rem ains guilt. It is a crime being reported referral to the prosecutor. S ex o ffe n se s in M alh eu r,' have children th a t are abused. th at m any unreported inciden rath er than telling on someone. Child abuse and neglect is not C ounty occurred to, children as A dult child abuse victims m arrj ces p i child sexual abuse exist. An im provem ent of self-esteem limited to particular income levels young as>2'/2 years o f age and to J som eone like their father a$ do Two thousand im prisoned child m ust be established. C hildren o r a p articu lar type of people. It ad u lts as old as 68 years o f age. many women. They have a poor sexual abuse offenders stated and teenage victims must be is som ething, though, th at m ust All incidents had a psychologi sexual attitude. They will p ro b they com m itted 300,000 such able to express their feelings. be dealt with and know ledge cal and em otional im pact on t h e . ably grow up to be a non- offenses. The last one resulted- The dam age m ust be assessed th a t help is available should be victim which needed to be d e a lt? , protective m other. They will in prison, But children still re and dealt w ith. All involved know n and used. C hildren in all with along with pupishing the 'have an abuseable attitude, one m ain the. victim at the tim e of agencies must show com passion cases m ust rem ain o f prim ary offender. th e offense and som etimes for when deali ng with the victim . th at says “I ’m second.”. im portance an d they m ust be It takes time fo r the offender ? The third involved person, the rest of their lives. protected.. T h at is everyone’s responsibility. Child abusers not “dirty old men” Prevention team looking fo r inp ut , , ....... . We are lo o k in g fo r interested Between T 00,000 and 500,000 M ost o f these abusers wallow in dents are harm ful, psychologi- peopieto jo in th e W a rm S p rin g s ¿preventionT eam . Support,ideas A m erican children will be m ol self-pity and have been m ol cally, to victims ested this year, Tew o f these ested as children. T heir fixation T herapy fo r all abused V1^ % nd in p u t is needed. We p lan to is on pubescent children. abuses will be reported. rims is recommended. Such o c c u r j^ e e t Qn j aiiUary 23,1985 from The ^’repressed ” m olester h a s' rencescan have deep e r n o t i o n a m ^ o & - ,;00 Studies have indicated that at fcpm . approxima,ttsiy.J9,p,ej'ceatx)f a lt - Jed ,ab n o rm al life fo rb e a rs andi -a n d psychological- im pacts O n ^ u n H y C o uh‘¿¿ling C e n te r, his sexual involvem ent m ay oc children. They feel it happened 4 A m erican w om en'and nine per cen t o f A m erican m en have cur a t mid-life, d uring divorce because o f som ething they did. ; T herapists try to stress to vie*’/ been sexually victim ized as chil o r a t som e stressful time. The m ost disgraceful form o f tims th at it was not their fault. dren, C hildren should be tau g h t t o 1 How you, think and feel ab out M ost abusers, researchers say, sexual abuse of children is felt are n o t “dirty old m en.” M ost to be incest. S tudies show th at protect themselves against abuse. yourself is called self-esteem. are under 30 years of age, with in approxim ately tw o-thirds of They m ust know it’s all right to ’ These feelings m ay be positive only ten percent o f abusers o y e r all in cest cases the abuser is a say no to an a d u lt A Child must? t>r negative. ; High Self-esteem shows you 50 years o f age. M ost m olesters fath er figure, iricludirig biologi-’ be allowed to tru st his instincts. are,fam iliar to the child victims. Cal fathers arid step-fathers. Simi If he feels uncbm fortable with to h a v e positive feelings ab out M ost abusers were abused them-' larities discovered through stu^ hugs and kisses frOrri soinfeone, ‘ yoursfelf. It can m ake you feel selves as children. The abu ser is* dies ofin cestu o u s fam iliessh o w ; he should not have to p u t up ; effective, productive, capable and the fath er to have a tendency to With it. A fnenacing sfiriation lòveablei generally a re p e a t offender. Low self-esteem indicates more D espite the belief by profes tyrannize and a m other to fear should alert the child and h e oh she should know he should yell negative feelings ab o u t oneself sionals th a t'th e re is no cure fo r his absolute authority. A lthough men are the prim or ru n away. They should be with feelings of ineffectiveness, a child m olester, an attem p t is being m ade to cure m olesters o r ary abusers, w omen, too, can be encouraged to tell “secrets” about ' incompetence, worthlessness and at least curve tendencies. Courts, abusers. Mariy of these abuses sexual abuse and they should being uqlbyed.J î also, are rriaking it easier fo r go Urireported and m any are particularly be taught th at sex Children to testify against ab u s socially n ot considered as harm - ual abuse is not the victim s’s ers. E ducators are teaching chil fu r to the victim. Professionals fault. d re n th e differen ce betw een feel, however, th at such ihei- “good touching,” “bad to u ch by Ed (D uso) Roley ing” and “secret touching” and (Bring your lunch) m g program s and com m unity The intent o f the team is to , problems. establish aw o rk ab le p revention' Please come on out and join plan unique to W arm Springs. us, we plan to meet ori a monthly C urrently the team would like bases. Q uestions áre ideas? Call tq^glan ¡a project to heighten,. com m unity awareness; of exist- ext. 205. High self-esteem im portant how to sav un o ’’ to adults. E xperts contend th at child m olesters tend to be weak, inse c u re ipen w ho need to fe e l they are loved and are in co n tro l of a relationship. M olesters falH n to two cate gories, according to researchers. The offender claims to be “in love w ith” children. Announcing enlistment Shaw nele B. Shaw , dau g h ter o f N at and M avis Shaw , T erre bonne, and g ran d d au g h ter of. T erry and C atherine C ourtney, W arm Springs, has enlisted in the A rm y under the Delayed Entry Prograiri. Shaw is scheduled to leave for basic train in g on Ju ly I, Feelings and thoughts about yourself. Accept challenges and , try new things. Be happier with yourself. H appy people are fun fo be around. Build s^lf-cpnfi- dence, giving wholehearted effort to perform ance. Remain, flexi ble, accepting new ¿ideas, and ways of doing things. D o n ’t get in.the cycle of¿low self-esteem where failures, be cause of lack of effort is not a full reflection of abilities and views of self and otheirs, is dis torted. W ays to think positively in clude: A cceptance-identifying arid accepting strengths and weak nesses; Set realistic goals; Learn to enjoy your own com pany a n d to be a lo n e w ith y o u r Jhoughts; D o w hat m akes you feel happy and fulfilled; Respect ypiirSelf and be proud of who you are; Offer yourself ericour- agém ent; P raise your achieve ments; Love the unique person you afe. Parents should be able to discuss sex 1985* following graduation from Ori N ovem ber 29th and 30th R edm ond High School, I attended a w orkshop at Kah- A fter basic training at F o rt 'N ee-Ta titled, “Qperi Closed Jackson, S outh C arolina, Shawl DoOrs: Issues and answ ers on tyill receive advanced training: the Sexual Abusé of C hidlren.” at the Defense Language Insti*1 ’ It was presented by J a n H ind tute in M onterey, C alifornia as m an who has studied the corre an electronic warfare-signal in-s lation between em otional p ro b tellìgence analyst. S he’ll later be lems of children and sexual abuse placed in Gerriiànv. over a period spanning riine years. I wish th at all parents could have attended as it would have been a great help in dealing with how to handle the subject of sex education. 1 A ccording to M rs. H indm an th ere is a wide gap between the sexual society we live in, com pared to how little tiine we devote to educating children about th éit bodies. She used Safeway stores m a gazine raçks, advertisem ents, pioVies arid television, lyrics and The school has a program titles of country and rock music to establish the sexual pressures titled, ‘*5peak up-Say N o” for which influence our children. k indergarten th ro u g h second •>' S ex e d u c a tio n sh o u ld be grade, and “ F or Petes Sake handled so that children know Tell’’for third and fourth grades' the correct nam es fo r their spe which deals with this topic. For cial body parts. M a n y jo u r let (fifth and sixth grades the school ter words which shock parents, nurse and one of the physicians referring to sexual parts are not from the clinic will present a appropriate because they don't sim ilar program . These p ro keep those parts special. These grams will be even more effec parts are private apd .special, tive in dealing with thé problem and only to be shared with a of sexual abuse of our children if reinforced by parents. person’s husband or wife. The Com m unity Counseling Mrs. H indm an explains that children should know that there te n t e r has qualified resource are three types of touches. Good people who will come into class touches such as norm al touch room s to assist with presenting ing and hugs, bad touches such these program s if teachers d o n ’t as hitting," shoving, etc.; arid* feel com fortable with this topic. F or interested parents, on the Secret touches w here private parts are touched. Parents should third M onday of this m onth at discuss these touches with their 7:00 p.m. in the school library children em phasizing that n o - . will be a previewing of these body has the right tb share program with a follow -up dis secret touches with them and cussion. th at its alright to say, “no ” : Evaluation shows positive results A npvaluatiori conducted fol- lowing the Child Sexual Abuse conferéricé held at Kah-Nee-Ta N bveiriber 29 and 30 resulted in sòme very positive resjpqrises. Moist participants felt the con ference to be very inform ative and interesting with value on the jo b . P articipants were inter ested in having oth er W arm 'Springs tribal employees partic ipate in th e sa’irié type b f w ork- veals to the public that sexuaf abuse is not uncom m on in a closed comm unity such as ours;” “ C hildren who are sexually a- bused are not bad people, they5 are victim s;” “Child abuse is here, let’s deal with the p ro b lem .” V J ,r t ? Some com m ents regard ing inform ation gained by p ar ticipants includes: Ideas and how Spilyoy Tymoo ph oto by S h tw ciyk to interview children; How to talk to your own children about B rid g e tte S c o t t jo in s o th e r J V cheerleaders to sp a rk enthusiasm in th e audience durin g M a d r a s H igh , Som e Comments made about sex and private parts of the b a sk e tb a ll gam es. the conference included: “It re- body; T hat Children have rights and saying no is one of them th a t we m ust let them know and do; T h at people are finally doing som ething to protect the children; How to deal with of fenders an d seeing a fam ily w orking tow ard food mental health; L ooking our for red flags, believing your children, some legal and counseling steps, w hat happens to the victims, offenders and the family; Know ing w hat to do ab o u t sexual abuse.
