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S pilyay T ymoo
It happens in Warm Springstoo
W h e n c h ild r e n in W a rm
S prings becom e the victim s of
abuse it becomes everyone’s prob
lem and everyone’s responsibil
ity to help th a t child.
P hysical and sexual abuse
and neglect affect a child’s wel
fare and can have long-lasting
effects on the child b o th psy
chologically arid physically.
Because W arm Springs, like
the rest o f the nation, does show
a child abuse an d neglect p ro b
lem, the Y outh Service Program
iti 1983 form ed an abuse team .
T eam leader and youth services
counselor M ildred K irk explains
the abuse team . “W e’re riot here
to take kids from families. O ur
ultim ate goal is to have children
Stay in the hom e. A dults m ust,
tak e care of the children and
n o t p u t them in a situation
where there is violence, neglect
and abuse.”
, C oncern fo r children did not
begin in 1983. A child neglect;
com m ittee was form ed in 1972
as a protection agency for chil
dren. Since th a t time counselors
and police have dealt with riiany
cases. N ow there is w ritten p o l
icy regarding abuse and neglect
of children in W arm Springs.
■ • Y outh Service D epartm ent
and Police personnel w otk toget
her in assisting children. Both
receive training in investigation
techniques and treatm en t o f an
abused child. R eferrals are re
sponded to by either agency. If
there is the possibility th a t a
ch ild ’s welfare is in danger p o
licemen respond im m ediately,
Sometimes accom panied by a
Y outh Services counselor.
C o m m u n ity m em bers w ho
becom e aw are of child abuse
an d neglect instances are eri-’
Couraged to call the Y outh Ser
vices counselors or the police.
C alls m ay be m ade ano n y m
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Conference discusses child sexual abuse
ously. The child’s Welfare, though,
is o f u tm o st im portance.
A child abu^e an d neglect
A tw o - d a y c o n f e r e n c e , to view his act as a crim e,
code is p a rt o f W arm S prings’ N ovem ber 29 an d 30, 1983, on
H indm an pointed out*, Before
Law an d O rd er Code: Section child sexual abuse opened the
treatm ent is effective he must
305.140 obligates citizens to re eyes o f m any particip an ts. A l
realize he is a crim inal.
po rt abuse. “Any person whether though spoken ab o u t secretly in
,;h i^ fh lr the .phild o r non-of-
private citizen, private official, the past, the problem of child ferider spouse sho u ld be in
o r public official who has rea sexual abuse is being brought to
volved in decision m aking. The
sonable gro u n d s to believe th a | light. A n increasing num ber of child Will feel the offense was
a child w ith w hom he has co n incidents are reported.
her fault, she will riot w ant to
tact has suffered abuse, or th at
S peaking on the problem of disrupt the family and the spouse
any ad u lt with whom he has sexual abuse against children*
will very often choose her hus
cp n tact has abused a child shall Ja n H indm an, form erly o f the band over a child. It is easier to
rep o rt such in form ation to the. M alheur C ounty M ental H ealth call the child a lia r than to adm it
W arm Springs T ribal Police De and C ounseling Center, em pha th at a husband is a child moles*
p artm en t o r the W arm Springs sized the im portance of agency ter.
Ju v e n ile D e p a rtm e n t f o r th cooperation, offender treatm ent
Police, prosecutors, court and
w ith...A ny person subm itting a and especially victim therapy.
therapists eventually learned the
rep o rt in good faith ...sh all have, • O utlining the p ro g ram she .type o f cooperation necessary
im m unity from any liability, h e lp ed d e v elo p in M a lh e u r ?j,o deal with families, offenders
civil or crim inal, th a t m ight County:, Hindm an acknowledges and victims. The prim ary goal,
otherwise be incurred or imposed the m any m istakes th a t were, . qf cpurse, is treatm en t of the
with respect to the m aking or m ade in dealing w ith abusers, ’ ¿victim .
content of such report. ”
v ic tim s a n d n o n -o f fe n d in g
The offender, H indm an ad
Ten to twelve rep o rts o f neg spouses. T here Were problem s, vised, will cry, will be arrogant,
lect an d child abuse are made too, in obtaining cooperation will be dishbriest. R easons for
each m onth, according to. Kirk. between involved agencies.
the abuse will range from “I ’ve
Neglect is the m ost predom i- ‘ Originally, it was assumed never had a good relationship
n an t offense in W arm Springs: certain steps would aid a ll in- ’ with an y o n e” to “ It’s better for
W ofk with the family often brings volved. The offender could be ’ pie to teach h er.” Pow er, self
im provem ent in the situ atio n , left in th e hom e, the child could ish n e ss, the forbidden and con*
explains K irk. “We will give help decide w hat to. d o ? the trol tu rn o ut to be the basic rea
them o p tio n s,” with the 'ulti offender will w ant to get treat- ’ sons for the abuse despite the
Sptfyoy Tymoo photo by S h tw ciyk
m ate goal o f im proving the sit m ent court should be avoided reasons given by the offender.
C h ild se x u a l abu se cou n selor J a n H in d m a n d isp la ys d o lls u sed to
uation. A co n tract with parents for children, m others will sup ' Affected greatly is an non-
help chidren a c t o u t abuses.
obligates them to im prove fo r p o rt kids, and the com unity w ill, ; offending spouse. The cycle of
the health and safety of the be su p p o rtiv e. All th ese as-., ¿child sexual abuse usually fol
abusers, victim s and non-of the victim, is m ost im portant.
child or children with the penalty sum ptions were proved to be low s th e victim. O ften a w om an
fending spouses. Each tried to He o r she must be relieved of
fo r failure to com ply being a • wrong.
Who was abused as a ehild will
tell his o r her story, It rem ains guilt. It is a crime being reported
referral to the prosecutor.
S ex o ffe n se s in M alh eu r,' have children th a t are abused.
th at m any unreported inciden rath er than telling on someone.
Child abuse and neglect is not C ounty occurred to, children as A dult child abuse victims m arrj
ces p i child sexual abuse exist. An im provem ent of self-esteem
limited to particular income levels young as>2'/2 years o f age and to J som eone like their father a$ do
Two thousand im prisoned child m ust be established. C hildren
o r a p articu lar type of people. It ad u lts as old as 68 years o f age. many women. They have a poor
sexual abuse offenders stated and teenage victims must be
is som ething, though, th at m ust All incidents had a psychologi sexual attitude. They will p ro b
they com m itted 300,000 such able to express their feelings.
be dealt with and know ledge cal and em otional im pact on t h e . ably grow up to be a non-
offenses. The last one resulted- The dam age m ust be assessed
th a t help is available should be victim which needed to be d e a lt? , protective m other. They will
in prison, But children still re and dealt w ith. All involved
know n and used. C hildren in all with along with pupishing the 'have an abuseable attitude, one
m ain the. victim at the tim e of agencies must show com passion
cases m ust rem ain o f prim ary offender.
th e offense and som etimes for when deali ng with the victim .
th at says “I ’m second.”.
im portance an d they m ust be
It takes time fo r the offender ? The third involved person,
the rest of their lives.
protected.. T h at is everyone’s
responsibility.
Child abusers not “dirty old men”
Prevention team looking fo r inp ut
,
,
....... .
We are lo o k in g fo r interested
Between T 00,000 and 500,000 M ost o f these abusers wallow in dents are harm ful, psychologi- peopieto jo in th e W a rm S p rin g s
¿preventionT eam . Support,ideas
A m erican children will be m ol self-pity and have been m ol cally, to victims
ested this year, Tew o f these ested as children. T heir fixation
T herapy fo r all abused V1^ % nd in p u t is needed. We p lan to
is on pubescent children.
abuses will be reported.
rims is recommended. Such o c c u r j^ e e t Qn j aiiUary 23,1985 from
The ^’repressed ” m olester h a s' rencescan have deep e r n o t i o n a m ^ o & - ,;00
Studies have indicated that
at
fcpm
. approxima,ttsiy.J9,p,ej'ceatx)f a lt - Jed ,ab n o rm al life fo rb e a rs andi -a n d psychological- im pacts O n ^ u n H y C o uh‘¿¿ling C e n te r,
his
sexual
involvem
ent
m
ay
oc
children. They feel it happened 4
A m erican w om en'and nine per
cen t o f A m erican m en have cur a t mid-life, d uring divorce because o f som ething they did. ;
T herapists try to stress to vie*’/
been sexually victim ized as chil o r a t som e stressful time.
The m ost disgraceful form o f tims th at it was not their fault.
dren,
C hildren should be tau g h t t o 1 How you, think and feel ab out
M ost abusers, researchers say, sexual abuse of children is felt
are n o t “dirty old m en.” M ost to be incest. S tudies show th at protect themselves against abuse. yourself is called self-esteem.
are under 30 years of age, with in approxim ately tw o-thirds of They m ust know it’s all right to ’ These feelings m ay be positive
only ten percent o f abusers o y e r all in cest cases the abuser is a say no to an a d u lt A Child must? t>r negative. ;
High Self-esteem shows you
50 years o f age. M ost m olesters fath er figure, iricludirig biologi-’ be allowed to tru st his instincts.
are,fam iliar to the child victims. Cal fathers arid step-fathers. Simi If he feels uncbm fortable with to h a v e positive feelings ab out
M ost abusers were abused them-' larities discovered through stu^ hugs and kisses frOrri soinfeone, ‘ yoursfelf. It can m ake you feel
selves as children. The abu ser is* dies ofin cestu o u s fam iliessh o w ; he should not have to p u t up ; effective, productive, capable and
the fath er to have a tendency to With it. A fnenacing sfiriation lòveablei
generally a re p e a t offender.
Low self-esteem indicates more
D espite the belief by profes tyrannize and a m other to fear should alert the child and h e oh
she should know he should yell negative feelings ab o u t oneself
sionals th a t'th e re is no cure fo r his absolute authority.
A lthough men are the prim or ru n away. They should be with feelings of ineffectiveness,
a child m olester, an attem p t is
being m ade to cure m olesters o r ary abusers, w omen, too, can be encouraged to tell “secrets” about ' incompetence, worthlessness and
at least curve tendencies. Courts, abusers. Mariy of these abuses sexual abuse and they should being uqlbyed.J î
also, are rriaking it easier fo r go Urireported and m any are particularly be taught th at sex
Children to testify against ab u s socially n ot considered as harm - ual abuse is not the victim s’s
ers. E ducators are teaching chil fu r to the victim. Professionals fault.
d re n th e differen ce betw een feel, however, th at such ihei-
“good touching,” “bad to u ch
by Ed (D uso) Roley
ing” and “secret touching” and
(Bring your lunch)
m g program s and com m unity
The intent o f the team is to , problems.
establish aw o rk ab le p revention'
Please come on out and join
plan unique to W arm Springs. us, we plan to meet ori a monthly
C urrently the team would like bases. Q uestions áre ideas? Call
tq^glan ¡a project to heighten,.
com m unity awareness; of exist- ext. 205.
High self-esteem im portant
how to sav un o ’’ to adults.
E xperts contend th at child
m olesters tend to be weak, inse
c u re ipen w ho need to fe e l they
are loved and are in co n tro l of a
relationship.
M olesters falH n to two cate
gories, according to researchers.
The
offender claims
to be “in love w ith” children.
Announcing enlistment
Shaw nele B. Shaw , dau g h ter
o f N at and M avis Shaw , T erre
bonne, and g ran d d au g h ter of.
T erry and C atherine C ourtney,
W arm Springs, has enlisted in
the A rm y under the Delayed
Entry Prograiri.
Shaw is scheduled to leave
for basic train in g on Ju ly I,
Feelings and thoughts about
yourself. Accept challenges and
, try new things. Be happier with
yourself. H appy people are fun
fo be around. Build s^lf-cpnfi-
dence, giving wholehearted effort
to perform ance. Remain, flexi
ble, accepting new ¿ideas, and
ways of doing things.
D o n ’t get in.the cycle of¿low
self-esteem where failures, be
cause of lack of effort is not a
full reflection of abilities and
views of self and otheirs, is dis
torted.
W ays to think positively in
clude: A cceptance-identifying
arid accepting strengths and weak
nesses; Set realistic goals; Learn
to enjoy your own com pany
a n d to be a lo n e w ith y o u r
Jhoughts; D o w hat m akes you
feel happy and fulfilled; Respect
ypiirSelf and be proud of who
you are; Offer yourself ericour-
agém ent; P raise your achieve
ments; Love the unique person
you afe.
Parents should be able to discuss sex
1985* following graduation from
Ori N ovem ber 29th and 30th
R edm ond High School,
I attended a w orkshop at Kah-
A fter basic training at F o rt 'N ee-Ta titled, “Qperi Closed
Jackson, S outh C arolina, Shawl DoOrs: Issues and answ ers on
tyill receive advanced training: the Sexual Abusé of C hidlren.”
at the Defense Language Insti*1 ’ It was presented by J a n H ind
tute in M onterey, C alifornia as m an who has studied the corre
an electronic warfare-signal in-s lation between em otional p ro b
tellìgence analyst. S he’ll later be lems of children and sexual abuse
placed in Gerriiànv.
over a period spanning riine
years.
I wish th at all parents could
have attended as it would have
been a great help in dealing with
how to handle the subject of sex
education.
1 A ccording to M rs. H indm an
th ere is a wide gap between the
sexual society we live in, com
pared to how little tiine we
devote to educating children
about th éit bodies.
She used Safeway stores m a
gazine raçks, advertisem ents,
pioVies arid television, lyrics and
The school has a program
titles of country and rock music
to establish the sexual pressures titled, ‘*5peak up-Say N o” for
which influence our children.
k indergarten th ro u g h second
•>' S ex e d u c a tio n sh o u ld be grade, and “ F or Petes Sake
handled so that children know Tell’’for third and fourth grades'
the correct nam es fo r their spe which deals with this topic. For
cial body parts. M a n y jo u r let (fifth and sixth grades the school
ter words which shock parents, nurse and one of the physicians
referring to sexual parts are not from the clinic will present a
appropriate because they don't sim ilar program . These p ro
keep those parts special. These grams will be even more effec
parts are private apd .special, tive in dealing with thé problem
and only to be shared with a of sexual abuse of our children
if reinforced by parents.
person’s husband or wife.
The Com m unity Counseling
Mrs. H indm an explains that
children should know that there te n t e r has qualified resource
are three types of touches. Good people who will come into class
touches such as norm al touch room s to assist with presenting
ing and hugs, bad touches such these program s if teachers d o n ’t
as hitting," shoving, etc.; arid* feel com fortable with this topic.
F or interested parents, on the
Secret touches w here private
parts are touched. Parents should third M onday of this m onth at
discuss these touches with their 7:00 p.m. in the school library
children em phasizing that n o - . will be a previewing of these
body has the right tb share program with a follow -up dis
secret touches with them and cussion.
th at its alright to say, “no ” :
Evaluation shows positive results
A npvaluatiori conducted fol-
lowing the Child Sexual Abuse
conferéricé held at Kah-Nee-Ta
N bveiriber 29 and 30 resulted in
sòme very positive resjpqrises.
Moist participants felt the con
ference to be very inform ative
and interesting with value on
the jo b . P articipants were inter
ested in having oth er W arm
'Springs tribal employees partic
ipate in th e sa’irié type b f w ork-
veals to the public that sexuaf
abuse is not uncom m on in a
closed comm unity such as ours;”
“ C hildren who are sexually a-
bused are not bad people, they5
are victim s;” “Child abuse is
here, let’s deal with the p ro b
lem .”
V J
,r t ?
Some com m ents regard
ing inform ation gained by p ar
ticipants includes: Ideas and how
Spilyoy Tymoo ph oto by S h tw ciyk
to interview children; How to
talk to your own children about
B rid g e tte S c o t t jo in s o th e r J V cheerleaders to sp a rk enthusiasm in th e audience durin g M a d r a s H igh , Som e Comments made about sex and private parts of the
b a sk e tb a ll gam es.
the conference included: “It re- body; T hat Children have rights
and saying no is one of them
th a t we m ust let them know and
do; T h at people are finally
doing som ething to protect the
children; How to deal with of
fenders an d seeing a fam ily
w orking tow ard food mental
health; L ooking our for red
flags, believing your children,
some legal and counseling steps,
w hat happens to the victims,
offenders and the family; Know
ing w hat to do ab o u t sexual
abuse.