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COFFEE BREAK Saturday, November 16, 2019 East Oregonian C5 DEAR ABBY Memories of childhood abuse occupy survivor’s thoughts Dear Abby: I have some bad mem- abuse. There are no “shoulds” when ories connected with my survivorship is involved. If mother, who was physically you feel the need to talk this abusive. It wasn’t consistent, through with your mother, but sometimes she would then do exactly that because lose it, and I was beaten quite you are entitled. She may not badly a few times. It weighs want to hear what you have on my mind intermittently, to say, but unless she’s on and I want to have a conversa- her deathbed, she should be tion with her about it. Then I strong enough to withstand J eanne remind myself that it occurred a frank conversation. How- P hilliPs ever, before you approach her, more than 40 years ago. ADVICE I’m 48 now, and she’s 74, I suggest you first talk with a and it would probably make therapist who is licensed and her extremely upset. Because I’m an experienced in counseling victims of adult, shouldn’t I be able to process this abuse. on my own? I’m inclined to let it go, Dear Abby: I own a hair salon and but it still pops up in my thoughts. Any love my job. I make a determined effort advice? — Flashbacks in the East not to bring my problems to work, to be Dear Flashbacks: You are a sur- positive and not gossip. Unfortunately, vivor of sometimes serious physical my clients don’t always return the favor. I understand people need a sound- ing board, but it’s exhausting to hear about every ache, pain and bruise as well as other negative tidbits. How do I tactfully let these people know my shoulders are only so broad, and their complaints are wearing me down? — Pulling My Hair Out in Idaho Dear Pulling Your Hair Out: I urge you to resist the temptation. “Hairdresser as Confidant and Con- fessor” has been in existence since the cosmetology profession started. If your clients need to get something off their shoulders (besides their tresses), give them the gift of a willing ear. This is so important that in some com- munities hairdressers are being taught the signs of domestic abuse and where to refer the victims. DAYS GONE BY 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Nov. 16, 1919 That Pendleton has splendid possibilities from a whole- sale standpoint has been proven by Sylvan G. Cohn, importer and wholesale dealer in men’s furnishing goods. A heavy stock of goods is carried here and Mr. Cohn says he has been very successful in securing business from Idaho, Washington and Oregon, obtaining considerable business even from Portland, where he has two regular accounts. Mr. Cohn is on the road much of the time, leaving the detailed handling of the local work to employes, Nat Kimball being the shipping clerk. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Nov. 16, 1969 Zoning is the key, the tool, that makes a comprehen- sive land use plan work. A recommendation that the city of Pendleton hire a full-time planning director to concentrate on zoning issues is likely to come out of the League of Ore- gon Cities convention. Eugene P. Roden, Pendleton council- man and council president, said, “The planning commission doesn’t have time to do all the work.” Pendleton now has the services of Ken Sweeney, planning director for Umatilla County, whose services are also needed by the county to meet a deadline for preparing a county zoning plan. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Nov. 16, 1994 Teatro Milagro and students from Hermiston High School will perform a new work, “Rey de la Gente Fru- gal,” a bilingual musical about racism and farm workers, Thursday. HHS is sponsoring the Portland-based troupe for a day of educational theater workshops concluding with the performance. The Milagro workshop program was designed as a way to reach out to Latino students who did not have the opportunity to participate in drama and music programs. THIS DAY IN HISTORY On Nov. 16, 1914, the newly created Federal Reserve Banks opened in 12 cities. In 1776, British troops captured Fort Washing- ton in New York during the American Revolution. In 1939, mob boss Al Capone, ill with syphilis, was released from prison after serving 7½ years for tax evasion and failure to file tax returns. In 1960, Academy Award-winning actor Clark Gable died in Los Angeles at age 59. In 1966, Dr. Samuel H. Sheppard was acquitted in Cleveland at his second trial of murdering his pregnant wife, Marilyn, in 1954. In 1981, actor William Holden was found dead in his apartment in Santa Mon- ica, California; he was 63. In 1982, an agreement was announced in the 57th day of a strike by National Football League players. In 2001, Investigators found a letter addressed to Sen. Patrick Leahy, D-Vt., containing anthrax; it was the second letter bearing the deadly germ known to have been sent to Capitol Hill. In 2006, Democrats embraced Nancy Pelosi as the first woman House speaker in history, but then selected Steny Hoyer as majority leader against her wishes. Thought for Today: “An American who can make money, invoke God, and be no better than his neigh- bor, has nothing to fear but truth itself.” — Marya Mannes, American critic (1904-1990). Universal Crossword Edited by David Steinberg November 16, 2019 ACROSS 1 Noted 1979 exile 5 Commenced 10 Miss, in Mexico: Abbr. 14 Prepare to take off 15 Carne ___ 16 Abound 17 Thing on a list 18 Marilyn, once 19 Ventura County resort town 20 Chrome button? 22 Quality of most triple chocolate cakes 24 *Works worth framing 26 Signs off on 29 Rhode Island is the smallest one 30 Hwy. intersections 31 Bridesmaid and Ghostbuster Kristen 33 Spots for sale 34 Language of Vientiane 35 Garfield’s favorite food 37 Monsters of folklore 41 “The ___ Squad” 42 Traditional 10th anniversary metal 43 “Fiddlesticks!” 44 Mother (and anagram) of Hera 46 Burn a little 48 Listening device user 49 Ballpark marathon, or hint to what can precede both parts of each starred answer 52 Raised, as letters 53 Very short robot 57 Empire that built Machu Picchu 58 “I might surprise you” 60 Real nerve 61 Camping supplies 62 Olympic weapons 63 Watt or volt 64 Force in Manhattan, briefly 65 Bridge positions 66 Trade show DOWN 1 Start to awaken 2 Strong negative emotion 3 Jump with 1.5 turns 4 Common on-camera ad-lib 5 *Outdoor concert venue 6 That, in Toledo 7 Attic rooms 8 Look up to 9 Org. co-founded by W.E.B. Du Bois 10 *Completely, informally 11 Swipe left on, on Tinder 12 Pokes fun at 13 Not quite right 21 Some community college degs. 23 Muslim hair covering 25 “Look what I did!” 26 Animal that can turn its head 270 degrees 27 Soul maker 28 Venus, to Serena, for “Tete-a-Tete” by Barbara Lin sudoku answers 32 34 36 37 38 39 40 42 44 45 46 47 49 50 51 54 55 56 59 short *Risk requirement *Prom purchase, often Aspirations Actress Lollobrigida Org. that gets many returns A toddler may dread taking one Sow’s digs Makes colorful, ‘60s-style 2012 ticket name Decorative disk on a car Himalayan guide Want ad abbr. Condescend First name in fragrance “___ One: A Star Wars Story” Tailless cat Minor deviation Kind of sax Convened
