COFFEE BREAK
Saturday, November 16, 2019
East Oregonian
C5
DEAR ABBY
Memories of childhood abuse occupy survivor’s thoughts
Dear Abby: I have some bad mem-
abuse. There are no “shoulds” when
ories connected with my
survivorship is involved. If
mother, who was physically
you feel the need to talk this
abusive. It wasn’t consistent,
through with your mother,
but sometimes she would
then do exactly that because
lose it, and I was beaten quite
you are entitled. She may not
badly a few times. It weighs
want to hear what you have
on my mind intermittently,
to say, but unless she’s on
and I want to have a conversa-
her deathbed, she should be
tion with her about it. Then I
strong enough to withstand
J eanne
remind myself that it occurred
a frank conversation. How-
P hilliPs
ever, before you approach her,
more than 40 years ago.
ADVICE
I’m 48 now, and she’s 74,
I suggest you first talk with a
and it would probably make
therapist who is licensed and
her extremely upset. Because I’m an
experienced in counseling victims of
adult, shouldn’t I be able to process this
abuse.
on my own? I’m inclined to let it go,
Dear Abby: I own a hair salon and
but it still pops up in my thoughts. Any
love my job. I make a determined effort
advice? — Flashbacks in the East
not to bring my problems to work, to be
Dear Flashbacks: You are a sur-
positive and not gossip. Unfortunately,
vivor of sometimes serious physical
my clients don’t always return the favor.
I understand people need a sound-
ing board, but it’s exhausting to hear
about every ache, pain and bruise as
well as other negative tidbits. How
do I tactfully let these people know
my shoulders are only so broad, and
their complaints are wearing me
down? — Pulling My Hair Out in
Idaho
Dear Pulling Your Hair Out:
I urge you to resist the temptation.
“Hairdresser as Confidant and Con-
fessor” has been in existence since
the cosmetology profession started. If
your clients need to get something off
their shoulders (besides their tresses),
give them the gift of a willing ear.
This is so important that in some com-
munities hairdressers are being taught
the signs of domestic abuse and where
to refer the victims.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Nov. 16, 1919
That Pendleton has splendid possibilities from a whole-
sale standpoint has been proven by Sylvan G. Cohn,
importer and wholesale dealer in men’s furnishing goods. A
heavy stock of goods is carried here and Mr. Cohn says he
has been very successful in securing business from Idaho,
Washington and Oregon, obtaining considerable business
even from Portland, where he has two regular accounts. Mr.
Cohn is on the road much of the time, leaving the detailed
handling of the local work to employes, Nat Kimball being
the shipping clerk.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Nov. 16, 1969
Zoning is the key, the tool, that makes a comprehen-
sive land use plan work. A recommendation that the city of
Pendleton hire a full-time planning director to concentrate
on zoning issues is likely to come out of the League of Ore-
gon Cities convention. Eugene P. Roden, Pendleton council-
man and council president, said, “The planning commission
doesn’t have time to do all the work.” Pendleton now has
the services of Ken Sweeney, planning director for Umatilla
County, whose services are also needed by the county to
meet a deadline for preparing a county zoning plan.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Nov. 16, 1994
Teatro Milagro and students from Hermiston High
School will perform a new work, “Rey de la Gente Fru-
gal,” a bilingual musical about racism and farm workers,
Thursday. HHS is sponsoring the Portland-based troupe
for a day of educational theater workshops concluding with
the performance. The Milagro workshop program was
designed as a way to reach out to Latino students who did
not have the opportunity to participate in drama and music
programs.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
On Nov. 16, 1914, the
newly created Federal Reserve
Banks opened in 12 cities.
In 1776, British troops
captured Fort Washing-
ton in New York during the
American Revolution.
In 1939, mob boss Al
Capone, ill with syphilis,
was released from prison
after serving 7½ years for
tax evasion and failure to
file tax returns.
In
1960,
Academy
Award-winning actor Clark
Gable died in Los Angeles
at age 59.
In 1966, Dr. Samuel H.
Sheppard was acquitted in
Cleveland at his second trial
of murdering his pregnant
wife, Marilyn, in 1954.
In 1981, actor William
Holden was found dead in
his apartment in Santa Mon-
ica, California; he was 63.
In 1982, an agreement
was announced in the 57th
day of a strike by National
Football League players.
In 2001, Investigators
found a letter addressed to
Sen. Patrick Leahy, D-Vt.,
containing anthrax; it was
the second letter bearing the
deadly germ known to have
been sent to Capitol Hill.
In 2006, Democrats
embraced Nancy Pelosi
as the first woman House
speaker in history, but then
selected Steny Hoyer as
majority leader against her
wishes.
Thought for Today: “An
American who can make
money, invoke God, and be
no better than his neigh-
bor, has nothing to fear
but truth itself.” — Marya
Mannes, American critic
(1904-1990).
Universal Crossword
Edited by David Steinberg November 16, 2019
ACROSS
1 Noted 1979 exile
5 Commenced
10 Miss, in Mexico: Abbr.
14 Prepare to take off
15 Carne ___
16 Abound
17 Thing on a list
18 Marilyn, once
19 Ventura County resort
town
20 Chrome button?
22 Quality of most triple
chocolate cakes
24 *Works worth framing
26 Signs off on
29 Rhode Island is the
smallest one
30 Hwy. intersections
31 Bridesmaid and
Ghostbuster Kristen
33 Spots for sale
34 Language of Vientiane
35 Garfield’s favorite food
37 Monsters of folklore
41 “The ___ Squad”
42 Traditional 10th
anniversary metal
43 “Fiddlesticks!”
44 Mother (and anagram)
of Hera
46 Burn a little
48 Listening device user
49 Ballpark marathon,
or hint to what can
precede both parts of
each starred answer
52 Raised, as letters
53 Very short robot
57 Empire that built Machu
Picchu
58 “I might surprise you”
60 Real nerve
61 Camping supplies
62 Olympic weapons
63 Watt or volt
64 Force in Manhattan,
briefly
65 Bridge positions
66 Trade show
DOWN
1 Start to awaken
2 Strong negative
emotion
3 Jump with 1.5 turns
4 Common on-camera
ad-lib
5 *Outdoor concert venue
6 That, in Toledo
7 Attic rooms
8 Look up to
9 Org. co-founded by
W.E.B. Du Bois
10 *Completely, informally
11 Swipe left on, on Tinder
12 Pokes fun at
13 Not quite right
21 Some community
college degs.
23 Muslim hair covering
25 “Look what I did!”
26 Animal that can turn its
head 270 degrees
27 Soul maker
28 Venus, to Serena, for
“Tete-a-Tete” by Barbara Lin
sudoku answers
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34
36
37
38
39
40
42
44
45
46
47
49
50
51
54
55
56
59
short
*Risk requirement
*Prom purchase, often
Aspirations
Actress Lollobrigida
Org. that gets many
returns
A toddler may dread
taking one
Sow’s digs
Makes colorful,
‘60s-style
2012 ticket name
Decorative disk on a car
Himalayan guide
Want ad abbr.
Condescend
First name in fragrance
“___ One: A Star Wars
Story”
Tailless cat
Minor deviation
Kind of sax
Convened