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Page 6B East Oregonian PEANUTS COFFEE BREAK Wednesday, December 21, 2016 DEAR ABBY BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ Woman abused as child needs help to overcome her hang-ups FOR BETTER OR WORSE BY LYNN JOHNSTON B.C. BY JOHNNY HART PICKLES BY BRIAN CRANE BEETLE BAILEY BY MORT WALKER GARFIELD BY JIM DAVIS Dear Abby: I am a 46-year-old When I was a teenager he struck woman with PTSD due to a history me once during a visit. He is also of physical abuse, mental abuse and manipulative and sometimes does incest that I experienced as a child. hurtful things. For example, a few I’m proud to say that it has not been years ago he wrote me letters to which repeated with my four children. I never responded. When I finally got My childhood history has made around to writing him back, he mailed me want sex only if I am in control my letters back to me (unopened) and or if I am role-playing rape. It has said I deserved to see how it felt to Jeanne caused a big problem with my fiancé. Phillips have letters go unanswered. I want this scenario all the time, and He has said he’s convinced he will Advice unfortunately it’s unhealthy. I’m not die within five years because he’s sure how to go about healthy sex with nearing the ages when his parents him. He is 10 years older than I am and not died. I think there’s something wrong with interested in “different” sex practices. him, and I’m afraid that after he passes on I’ll I love him very much and don’t want to feel like I didn’t make enough of an effort. mess up this relationship because of my sex How do I proceed with my relationship with issues. Can you advise me how to handle my father? — Cautious In The South Dear Cautious: Your father made terrible this? — Role-Playing In St. Paul Dear Role-Playing: If you haven’t life choices, and he’s spending the rest of his discussed the reason for your sexual issues life paying for them. I don’t blame you for with your fiancé, you need to explain the feeling anger at his inability to parent you. reason for them. From your letter, I am However, before advising you to write him guessing that you never had counseling to off, I would need to know why he lashed out help you resolve the abuse to which you were at you during your prison visit, even though subjected. If that’s correct, I am advising hitting is unacceptable. you to contact RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest When people are incarcerated, their ability National Network; rainn.org) or a local rape to reach out is severely limited, as I am sure crisis organization and ask for some help you know all too well. I don’t think the way now. The counselors are specially trained to your father handled your ignoring his letters help victims of various kinds of abuse, and was bad or wrong. If his silence stung you, the place to start resolving your issues would imagine how yours affected him. be there. Whether or not your father is dying is Dear Abby: I’m a woman in my 30s. beside the point. I think on some level you My father has been in prison since I was a know you have to treat him with more tot. I was raised by my mother who, in my compassion than you have, or you wouldn’t opinion, did a great job. My relationship with have written to me. I don’t know anyone who my father has been damaged for as long as I hasn’t made mistakes. Your father made a can remember. He will never get out, and part doozy. But you say your mother raised you of me is angry at him for making such poor right, and if that’s true it couldn’t hurt to treat him with some compassion. life choices. DAYS GONE BY 100 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Dec. 21, 1916 Lou Rayburn, night officer of the police force, is a crack shot and a number of families in meager circumstances have reason today to be thankful for that fact. At the turkey shoot yesterday in this city Rayburn secured nine turkeys and three geese as a reward for his prowess, and these he turned over to Chief Gurdane to give to families who cannot afford to buy birds for the Christmas dinner. 50 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Dec. 21, 1966 A livestock “leash law” slipped the loop Tuesday night and will be at large until Jan. 3 when it will again be placed in the Pendleton City Council’s bucking chute. About 20 resi- dents of the SW 6th, 7th and 8th street area were present at las night’s session. “Next time we will have 35 or 40,” a spokesman said, in support of the proposed law. The council voted unanimously last night to reconsider the proposed ordinance to outlaw livestock running at large. It had voted down the ordi- nance Dec. 6. 25 Years Ago From the East Oregonian Dec. 21, 1991 Garlic — renowned for its effect on food and renounced for its effect on breath — may soon be sweetening the wallets of farmers in northeast Oregon and southeast Washington. Rising national demand for garlic prompted Haas Foods Inc. to add a garlic dehydrating mill in Umatilla — the first outside California. Michael Preston, executive assistant at Haas Foods Inc. in Umatilla, said the mill should swing into operation within the next month. Oregon and Washington farmers are studying whether to plant the pungent perennial. THIS DAY IN HISTORY BLONDIE DILBERT THE WIZARD OF ID LUANN ZITS BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE BY SCOTT ADAMS BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART BY GREG EVANS BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN Today is the 356th day of 2016. There are 10 days left in the year. Winter arrives at 5:44 a.m. Eastern time. Today’s Highlight in History: On Dec. 21, 1891, the first basketball game is believed to have been played at the International YMCA Training School in Spring- field, Massachusetts; devised by James Naismith, “Basket Ball” involved the use of a soccer ball and two peach baskets, with nine players on each team. (The final score of this experimental game: 1-0.) On this date: In 1620, Pilgrims aboard the Mayflower went ashore for the first time at pres- ent-day Plymouth, Massa- chusetts. In 1864, during the Civil War, Union forces led by Maj. Gen. William T. Sherman concluded their “March to the Sea” as they captured Savannah, Georgia. In 1879, the Henrik Ibsen play “A Doll’s House” premiered at the Royal Theater in Copenhagen. In 1937, Walt Disney’s first animated feature, “Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs,” had its world premiere in Los Angeles. In 1940, author F. Scott Fitzgerald died in Holly- wood, California, at age 44. In 1945, U.S. Army Gen. George S. Patton, 60, died in Heidelberg, Germany, 12 days after being seriously injured in a car accident. In 1958, Charles de Gaulle was elected to a seven-year term as the first president of the Fifth Republic of France. In 1968, Apollo 8 was launched on a mission to orbit the moon. In 1971, the U.N. Security Council chose Kurt Wald- heim to succeed U Thant as Secretary-General. In 1976, the Liberian-reg- istered tanker Argo Merchant broke apart near Nantucket Island, off Massachusetts, almost a week after running aground, spilling 7.5 million gallons of oil into the North Atlantic. In 1991, eleven of the 12 former Soviet republics proclaimed the birth of the Commonwealth of Indepen- dent States and the death of the Union of Soviet Socialist Republics. Today’s Birthdays: Country singer Freddie Hart is 90. Talk show host Phil Donahue is 81. Movie director John Avildsen is 81. Actress Jane Fonda is 79. Actor Larry Bryggman is 78. Singer Carla Thomas is 74. Musician Albert Lee is 73. Conductor Michael Tilson Thomas is 72. Actor Josh Mostel is 70. Actor Samuel L. Jackson is 68. Movie producer Jeffrey Katzen- berg is 66. Actor Dennis Boutsikaris is 64. Singer Betty Wright is 63. Interna- tional Tennis Hall-of-Famer Chris Evert is 62. Actress Jane Kaczmarek is 61. Country singer Lee Roy Parnell is 60. Entertainer Jim Rose is 60. Former child actress Lisa Gerritsen is 59. Actor-co- median Ray Romano is 59. Rock musician Murph (The Lemonheads; Dinosaur Jr.) is 52. Actor-comedian Andy Dick is 51. Actor Kiefer Sutherland is 50. Thought for Today: “Many human beings say that they enjoy the winter, but what they really enjoy is feeling proof against it.” — Richard Adams, English author. PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN BY DANA SIMPSON BIG NATE BY LINCOLN PEIRCE
