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East Oregonian
PEANUTS
COFFEE BREAK
Wednesday, December 21, 2016
DEAR ABBY
BY CHARLES M . SCHULZ
Woman abused as child needs
help to overcome her hang-ups
FOR BETTER OR WORSE
BY LYNN JOHNSTON
B.C.
BY JOHNNY HART
PICKLES
BY BRIAN CRANE
BEETLE BAILEY
BY MORT WALKER
GARFIELD
BY JIM DAVIS
Dear Abby: I am a 46-year-old
When I was a teenager he struck
woman with PTSD due to a history
me once during a visit. He is also
of physical abuse, mental abuse and
manipulative and sometimes does
incest that I experienced as a child.
hurtful things. For example, a few
I’m proud to say that it has not been
years ago he wrote me letters to which
repeated with my four children.
I never responded. When I finally got
My childhood history has made
around to writing him back, he mailed
me want sex only if I am in control
my letters back to me (unopened) and
or if I am role-playing rape. It has
said I deserved to see how it felt to
Jeanne
caused a big problem with my fiancé. Phillips have letters go unanswered.
I want this scenario all the time, and
He has said he’s convinced he will
Advice
unfortunately it’s unhealthy. I’m not
die within five years because he’s
sure how to go about healthy sex with
nearing the ages when his parents
him. He is 10 years older than I am and not died. I think there’s something wrong with
interested in “different” sex practices.
him, and I’m afraid that after he passes on I’ll
I love him very much and don’t want to feel like I didn’t make enough of an effort.
mess up this relationship because of my sex How do I proceed with my relationship with
issues. Can you advise me how to handle my father? — Cautious In The South
Dear Cautious: Your father made terrible
this? — Role-Playing In St. Paul
Dear Role-Playing: If you haven’t life choices, and he’s spending the rest of his
discussed the reason for your sexual issues life paying for them. I don’t blame you for
with your fiancé, you need to explain the feeling anger at his inability to parent you.
reason for them. From your letter, I am However, before advising you to write him
guessing that you never had counseling to off, I would need to know why he lashed out
help you resolve the abuse to which you were at you during your prison visit, even though
subjected. If that’s correct, I am advising hitting is unacceptable.
you to contact RAINN (Rape, Abuse, Incest
When people are incarcerated, their ability
National Network; rainn.org) or a local rape to reach out is severely limited, as I am sure
crisis organization and ask for some help you know all too well. I don’t think the way
now. The counselors are specially trained to your father handled your ignoring his letters
help victims of various kinds of abuse, and was bad or wrong. If his silence stung you,
the place to start resolving your issues would imagine how yours affected him.
be there.
Whether or not your father is dying is
Dear Abby: I’m a woman in my 30s. beside the point. I think on some level you
My father has been in prison since I was a know you have to treat him with more
tot. I was raised by my mother who, in my compassion than you have, or you wouldn’t
opinion, did a great job. My relationship with have written to me. I don’t know anyone who
my father has been damaged for as long as I hasn’t made mistakes. Your father made a
can remember. He will never get out, and part doozy. But you say your mother raised you
of me is angry at him for making such poor right, and if that’s true it couldn’t hurt to treat
him with some compassion.
life choices.
DAYS GONE BY
100 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Dec. 21, 1916
Lou Rayburn, night officer of the police
force, is a crack shot and a number of families
in meager circumstances have reason today to
be thankful for that fact. At the turkey shoot
yesterday in this city Rayburn secured nine
turkeys and three geese as a reward for his
prowess, and these he turned over to Chief
Gurdane to give to families who cannot afford
to buy birds for the Christmas dinner.
50 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Dec. 21, 1966
A livestock “leash law” slipped the loop
Tuesday night and will be at large until Jan. 3
when it will again be placed in the Pendleton
City Council’s bucking chute. About 20 resi-
dents of the SW 6th, 7th and 8th street area
were present at las night’s session. “Next time
we will have 35 or 40,” a spokesman said,
in support of the proposed law. The council
voted unanimously last night to reconsider
the proposed ordinance to outlaw livestock
running at large. It had voted down the ordi-
nance Dec. 6.
25 Years Ago
From the East Oregonian
Dec. 21, 1991
Garlic — renowned for its effect on food
and renounced for its effect on breath — may
soon be sweetening the wallets of farmers in
northeast Oregon and southeast Washington.
Rising national demand for garlic prompted
Haas Foods Inc. to add a garlic dehydrating
mill in Umatilla — the first outside California.
Michael Preston, executive assistant at Haas
Foods Inc. in Umatilla, said the mill should
swing into operation within the next month.
Oregon and Washington farmers are studying
whether to plant the pungent perennial.
THIS DAY IN HISTORY
BLONDIE
DILBERT
THE WIZARD OF ID
LUANN
ZITS
BY DEAN YOUNG AND STAN DRAKE
BY SCOTT ADAMS
BY BRANT PARKER AND JOHNNY HART
BY GREG EVANS
BY JERRY SCOTT AND JIM BORGMAN
Today is the 356th day of
2016. There are 10 days left
in the year. Winter arrives at
5:44 a.m. Eastern time.
Today’s Highlight in
History:
On Dec. 21, 1891, the
first basketball game is
believed to have been played
at the International YMCA
Training School in Spring-
field, Massachusetts; devised
by James Naismith, “Basket
Ball” involved the use of a
soccer ball and two peach
baskets, with nine players on
each team. (The final score
of this experimental game:
1-0.)
On this date:
In 1620, Pilgrims aboard
the Mayflower went ashore
for the first time at pres-
ent-day Plymouth, Massa-
chusetts.
In 1864, during the
Civil War, Union forces led
by Maj. Gen. William T.
Sherman concluded their
“March to the Sea” as they
captured Savannah, Georgia.
In 1879, the Henrik
Ibsen play “A Doll’s House”
premiered at the Royal
Theater in Copenhagen.
In 1937, Walt Disney’s
first
animated
feature,
“Snow White and the Seven
Dwarfs,” had its world
premiere in Los Angeles.
In 1940, author F. Scott
Fitzgerald died in Holly-
wood, California, at age 44.
In 1945, U.S. Army Gen.
George S. Patton, 60, died
in Heidelberg, Germany, 12
days after being seriously
injured in a car accident.
In 1958, Charles de Gaulle
was elected to a seven-year
term as the first president of
the Fifth Republic of France.
In 1968, Apollo 8 was
launched on a mission to
orbit the moon.
In 1971, the U.N. Security
Council chose Kurt Wald-
heim to succeed U Thant as
Secretary-General.
In 1976, the Liberian-reg-
istered tanker Argo Merchant
broke apart near Nantucket
Island, off Massachusetts,
almost a week after running
aground, spilling 7.5 million
gallons of oil into the North
Atlantic.
In 1991, eleven of the
12 former Soviet republics
proclaimed the birth of the
Commonwealth of Indepen-
dent States and the death of
the Union of Soviet Socialist
Republics.
Today’s
Birthdays:
Country singer Freddie
Hart is 90. Talk show host
Phil Donahue is 81. Movie
director John Avildsen is 81.
Actress Jane Fonda is 79.
Actor Larry Bryggman is 78.
Singer Carla Thomas is 74.
Musician Albert Lee is 73.
Conductor Michael Tilson
Thomas is 72. Actor Josh
Mostel is 70. Actor Samuel
L. Jackson is 68. Movie
producer Jeffrey Katzen-
berg is 66. Actor Dennis
Boutsikaris is 64. Singer
Betty Wright is 63. Interna-
tional Tennis Hall-of-Famer
Chris Evert is 62. Actress Jane
Kaczmarek is 61. Country
singer Lee Roy Parnell is
60. Entertainer Jim Rose is
60. Former child actress Lisa
Gerritsen is 59. Actor-co-
median Ray Romano is 59.
Rock musician Murph (The
Lemonheads; Dinosaur Jr.)
is 52. Actor-comedian Andy
Dick is 51. Actor Kiefer
Sutherland is 50.
Thought for Today:
“Many human beings say
that they enjoy the winter,
but what they really enjoy
is feeling proof against it.”
— Richard Adams, English
author.
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
BY DANA SIMPSON
BIG NATE
BY LINCOLN PEIRCE