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3 li-,. " v. ''$; SHD to o charming, our awee girt graduate! Why can't aha be con tent to b for a IRUe while Juet ft girl? JUST a fflrll There la no lovelier thing In the world than "jurt ft girl." Tot half the time her .eventeenth . year aeee either an overgrown child or ft premature young woman. . Thla far from beautifying tendency he shows in various ways In man ners., either hoydeniah or prim; In speech, either babyish, or precociously worldly wise; but most of all In drees ,ftnd appearance. Of the two, the -prolonged little-girl etage Is better than the too-early young woman; but really there Is little to choose between them. The girl with her hair flying down her back, with a big floppy hat, clumsy boots, an aversion to gloves and a drees that ends at an awkward line just above her shoe-tops--ln other words, the normal girl of it or 14, what the English all a "flap-" per" and the Germans "bakflsch" 1 far from pleasing at 17 or 18. At the worst, however, there is hope for her. Eha can grow up. There ia seemingly nothing ahead of the premature adult but an equally early second childhood. . It Is all so slllyl I remember, when X ;. was a sophomore In high school, all of us who wore spectacles were obsessed ' with . a longing for noseglasaes as a tnark of achieved 'grownupness.' I was o proud of mine that I wore them in the bathtub and In bed. When I thjok what a "figure of fun" I must have 'cut with them I laugh aloud, and I think of It every time I see a girl in her teens similarly equipped and proud of it. That remind mm of another incident f my own "bakflsch" stage-the Hal- vim .;t Advice on Social Customs sFssBBf 'easwaiw' S, " 'WHElf SCEOOIi CLOSES JUST Uttle talk, my dear girl, anout the end of school daya and the "beginning of other work ft lit tle rore serious. Tou hJU come through the last term nd stand "now at the parting of the ways. I wish to speak about the road Chat lies before you. In the first glance there will be some Strong, rough places on that road. It iwlll not be a straight, easy one to travel. nr., am hiv o climb hills, surmount obstacles and overcome difficulties thqJ ODStSCies ana oveajunw uiunwiucr-uiw U. if you IntendTtP o onward anT . march forward. There are some persons who never move beyond the fork in the roads. With the excellent background of a good education they never attempt to con tinue their leasons in llfe'a school. Now, some one has said that in life if you do not go forward you Inevitably go back. Therefore, keep this faot in mind; no one is too well informed or thoroughly trained to require no further elf-development. ... . Keep up the friendships that havo SOLUTIONS TO SOCIAL PROBLEMS Shaking Hands DBUR Mrs. Adams. . . yt Please teU me if it Is proper for young girls and boys, II and U years ef age. to shake hands on being Introduced. Alio, should young girls shake hands er luat bow and make a pleasant remark? . 2. If a girl after meeting a young man Is the first to leave, should she Inform him that she Is glad to have mat him T 1. Is It considered m lack ef courteay to shake hands with aloves on, and is it necessary to apologize? . . . - 4. If a man paya girl's carfare, should . she thank himT . - X. T. a. 1. It 1 proper but not. necessary to li.iuli ahan halna- lntrmliip.e1 un less one is acting as hostess. The young man should allow the woman to take tha Initiative in this case and the younger fenuM wait fn thai alder womajt to show suun ft ooraavi weicoma ox u acquaintance. . - - 4 WUUIKU .,. m . allow him to express such pleasure. j, A woman needs never to make- an apology for offering a gloved -hand. tut a mta u.ngcu uw w , -. poem we, ne snpuia nwwie nam Before shaking iianda., 4. Ko; he is Apposed to pay her car Care K he is aoting as her escort. A Theater Party N- "?mrrfn5raf' rather Informal theater party. Tall me If it la necjaaary to Sena ; carrlagee for each sueat and what shall I do abou the tickets r I am not a person - with unlimited means. ,.a JtuuAtit-rt It is not necessary for you tojjrovida ft conveyance tor the guests. Tou can (thr wait in the theater lobby with " the tickets or send them to the personal invited. The latter plan is best, I think, ' r lAM.n t which W all "PUt OP" I 1 ...- S ji J x itll l .",1 -."aw i and-at 16. save tbe roark!-kept it up. Keep your hair down in a simple part and knot, with a plain been profltabla and Inspiring. Soma, through force of circumstances, must be dropped, but others should be en couraged, so that the matured outlook will ripen them. Tou cannot oavo "too many friends. i ' The best friend of all, who haa been ' with ydu for many years. Is your mother. . Do not forget that, girls. Ph. "haa ia-iven irman"tliliss"i te that you could greet trie last of school with ft smile. Now is the time for you to make sacrifices In t order that she may be happy, and that she may enjoy life. So, why not fre quently walk in awoet companionship with your mother along the new toad? She will enjoy your confidences, your point of view, and you cannot but profit from her mature experience. Never neglect any opportunity to bet ter conditions and to improve yourself. Work is a great tester of ability and L. .u.. kj ashamed to work. whether It la helping at home or out In . 1 TUii.im.l M.u. the business , i P!1' Be aaaamed to have some other P" .n...rf.iiifl thn able-bodied, canabie young woman who does nothing de serves your pity. . Learn something worth while evary day. Take tha Joya of life with a grateful hesrt, and accept the disap pointments bravely. Life and people are the moat , interesting things on earth, if you ara willing to make them so. Accept the lessons of the school of ex perience with an open, willing mind. In this way you will never atop growing. As each guest appears, the host er tha hostess of the occasion should rise ta offer greetings. Not Sure lTlf you are always thlnklna ef eome I one. always wlehlng to be in his company and even dreaming of hln are you ia love f Wj.th what are tbe leadln colors for this summer? Ujf, hlta be worn this summer? x W. n 1. ' Tou are evidently very fond of tha . person, but when one ia in love ona ia never In doubt 2. Blue, green, blacS: anjl whit and cerise, -I. Both. Book on Etiquette - t I Pleas tll roe where Z etui et the lateet book on auqaetta and 1Br0U . Such a book can be purchased at any bookstore. I am not at liberty to men tion any one, but you. will havo no trouble finding a good edition. Vt . , When to Go J Dear Mrs. Adams. When invited out to dine et etearteln hour, how many minutes before should 4 afrlve and when should I loave? . When escorting young woman, whom X bava recently met to and from, the theater in tha evening'. snouia I cfle ir her my arm her elbow to or should I simply Imnlv mri raan aselet her acreee the street? I am desirous of showing her due attention, but do not wish to overdo the thing. i AN ANXIOUS RBAOTR. It is proper for the guest to arrive about ten or fifteen minutes belere the law, Mr r-T&N 3 f f ir.- .ff; f - II 1 ft ill 1 II .1 i Ml lvl II A, If Hi iW4A bow at tha back, Just a long as you can, little girlie. Tou remember the onee-popular song with the refrain, Tou will be a long time dead?? Well, ou wiU be a lonr time crown up. Stay OUT BWr ft.giri long as yeu are aoie with vaur rate dresses reaching to the ground, "fussy" hats, . A ' Hour annointed. A ruest is privilei its ia.ve u inr moment after tbe din ner is concluded, but it is never polite to rush away from the house Immedi ately after the Isst course has been served.- As a rule, however, one usually remains until 19 o'clock or later. . A man should never' take hold of a woman's arm, but should offer his if his assistance is needed. Unless the street very much crowded or your compan ion Is old and infirm. It would be bet ter not to offer any help. A Stork Party Dear Mrs. Adsma. Wou KJJ?,, Mlrf Yes:bot onlv the most Intimate friends ahould be invited. A Tactless Child Dear Mrs. Adams. ' What can be said to a young child when she prrslita In staying to play with my - children until . mealtime? I do not wlah to hurt her feellnge. but I know her mother does not want me to Invite hfr to stay for meals all the time. WORRIED. If the child falls to obey the directions which her mother probably gives her before leaving, you should tell her thst you believe her mother will be anxious about her daughter, and for that rea son you cannot invite her to stay for dinner. Metis Gloves Dear Mrs. Adams. 1 know It Is proper for women te retain their gloves when entering the dining room, but I ahould like to know If it Is neceaaary for a man to do likewise? FRED. No; men do not wear gloves in the' 'drawing room or dining room In the vent of a. dinner. Wedding Anniversaries Dear Mrs. Adsms. ' Will yeu kindly print what each yeas Stands for la wedding anniversaries? First year Cotton. ; Second year Paper. 1 Third year Leather. i Fifth year Wooden. Seventh year Woolen. Tenth year Tin. Twelfth year Linen. Fifteenth ye-r Crystal. Twentieth year China. Twenty-fifth year Silver. Thirtieth year Pearl. Fortieth year Ruby. Fiftieth year Golden. , Seventy-fifth year Diamond. Exchanging Love Letters To a Chtldwife If you have proof that your husband and the young girl have been exchanging love letters, I advise you to appeal to him and then, if neces sary, go to the girl and have a quiet and dignified talk with her. Ask her to imagine herself in' your position. This may cause her to think, and when she realises how unkind she has been to you and how she haa been trifling wHh her reputation aha may cease all further action. i- , At thelVedding Dear Mr. Aeama. - ' . I. What Is the ereaer dress Tor the grwnv best man. aabers end the bride' father at a 4 o'clock w eddies? There is to be a i ata It necessary for the bride maids and (naid or nonor u wear bate at such wadding? t - - a What 1s the order ef precession te from tha altar? aad a. n ail tha bridesmaids aad tha maid ef honor carry flowers? Or M. Mc. L The correct dress for the men at an afternoon. wedding consists or a dark-blue or black frock coat, a single breasted white waistcoat, or one to match tha coat gray trousers, white ehlrt and cuffs,' poke or wing collar, pearl or iixht-oolored aaeot o Xour- By Mrs. HlnryISymes f - r j$wf? Tv:i x : -j. rx -u .n I: veils. Jewelry-do you think these make you beautiful? Far from It; on the other band, tney will spoil your beauty, if you have any, ana not at all produce It If you haven t. The only way to be really beautiful is to be natural, ana the only way for a young girl to be natural la to dress and look like a young girl. Bo, for your own sweet sake, stay young, little Miss Graduate, stay young! w. clothes. Elabo In-hand necktie, gray gloves, patent leather shoes and a high silk -hat. 2 Yea ' a. First, the ushers, walking two avnd two. end then the bridesmaids in alm-i liar order. Behind these moves they bride, leaning on the arm of her father and immediately preceded by her mala of honor, who walks alone. At the altar, the bride slips her hand from the arm of her father and puts It into the right hand of the groom, who baa advanced to meet her and leads her to the clergyman. When the ceremony is over, the bride places her left hand on the arm of her husband, and they move down the aisle, followed by tha maid of honor on the arm of the best man, while n the M ronue the bride- " maids, - each on the arm of an usher. In a Train Dear Mri. Adam. . . If when traveling on a train a man rnena should aak me to go Into the dining room, should I offer to pay for the sVU I Under such circumstances a woman should regard the man as the host of the occasion an not offer to pay her share of the expenses iacurred. At the Fountain Dear Mrs. Adams. , . When one glvei a reception In her Bern , should one provide dreaalng rooms for the men and women? Should the women keep WTienrah woman stops at a public foun tain for a drink ef water and a man cornea up immediately after, ahould ehe offer him the cup before taking a drink "JUj, . A dressing room ia provided for women and another for men. A servant should be In attendance in each case. The women retain their hats. you should be provided with an indi vidual cup, which can be purchased for . a very small sum at almost any de partment store. If every one could be made to do thls the spread of disease would not be so great. However, If it is absolutely necessary tfor you to use the cup provided, you need not oner " to the man. The Bridegroom 'wbat order"does the bridegroom walk te the altar at a church ddTng? When the eignal is given that the bride is at the church door, the bridegroom walks out from the vestry room behlna the clergyman, followed by the best man. He stands facing the congrega tion until the bride appears. As, she draws near to him he stepa forward, extending his right hand, and lead bar before the clergyman. Carfare and Collection DeaK Mrs. Adams. , , When a young man accompanies me to church should I allow him to pay my wfaTe. and should I allow him to give sae money for the collection JjjjoRT. It la quite proper for you to allow him to pay your fare, but you should provide your own collection money. Wedding Announcements Dear Mrs. Adams, " . . Ia It permissible to send out wedding an nouncements u wealed, thereby luinr a 1 ent stamp only? maki. The outside envelope inclosing the envelope containing the announcement card ahould always be sealed and ft Ir cent stamp placed thereon. Endearing Terms I. Adams. i rr Mrs When should tne woraa necjionanif. devotedly and fondly be used at the end of letters? , SOPHIE. , Such, endearing subscriptions are proper onlv between relatives or Inti mate friends. i , , f . c i . Beauty Queries Answered R EPLIES to letters sent to tne writer of this department win nrlnted In regular order, but no replies in print may be expected In less than three or four weeks. Correspondents desiring Immediate re plies to queries may get them by Inclosing a stamped self-addressed envelope. Personal Inquiries will re celve prompt. ttnUon--i-:aeoompanlad by itamped, and addressed envelope. To Remove Tartar Dn " ouid'ukt to know what t shsll use to darken my eyela.he and eyebrowr J. What shall I ue to keep tartar from C0.'n'yount."n,rythln, that wiH pre vent me from biting my nails? I elmply eannqg atop the habit. 1. Here ia the recipe for a stain which will darken the eyebrows and eyelaBties. Chinese Eyelash Btaln Oum arablo ram India ink 4H ounces Rosewater ounces Powder the Ink and rum and tr)tur small Quantities of the I'J"raw' h tbe roeewater until you get a "n",hlf liquid in a powder, and then add the re- falnder. 2 Two or three times a year you should visit your dentist and have hltn remove the tartar which collects on the teeth. Between visits you should use chalk or milk of msgnesla freely. A curved toothbrush is better than a straight one. The bristles should not be too stiff. . 8. Until you break yourself of the haibit, bind the tips of your fingers with gauze or. wear - fingers cut from old gloves, Sulphur for Dandruff IAsr nllii 'troubled with dandruff. I sm i nlriur cure. Mv hair . Is black. Would the sulphur chanie the color of my hair? aa. e km at all. SulDhur has a tendency to darken the hair; therefore, it Is per fectly aafe for you to use it. To Reduce the Hips , Deer Mrs. Symes. . "L ' Will you please let me know of aa exer cise to reduce the hlpe? I should like to do aomethlng for my oily fcltr. MABELLE O. The following exercise, if persevered with will reduce flesh round the hips: First, raise the outstretched arms above the head, the body retaining its ereot position ; then bend slowly forward from the waist, so that the fingers come as near touching the floor as possible, without straining in any way. This ia done without bending the knees. In re covering posftlon iet the arms relax and sink down as the body straightens up. Second, with hands placed lightly on the hips, the fingers pointing for ward, let the body drop forward easily, so that It Is bent at the waist. This must be done gently, as by Jerking more harm than good Is done. From this bent position roll the body round to the right, counting four for it to reach the position of being bent over the side, then to the back, being careful to do it Very easily at first, till the musclee have gained strength, for an exaggera tion of the 'movement may cause real pain. Then on to. the Jeft,.and back to the front. Practice again, only start toward the left , The . waist acta as a pivot on which the trunk awl ngs, and , the head is easily relaxed. Third- ' In this exercise the handa have the same , i - ' i ii mri v -f;4 !' - Nor aj? young Arty position, but now the body Is bent for ward from the waist, then back, then to the right and left. Each movement should occupy four counts. Take these exercises gently, but let the movements be firm and strong. Avoid the slightest strain of the muscles. No corsets should be worn while practicing them. Rub the following mixture Into the scalp once a day until the hair becomes less oily: Alcohol ...... Ik.... ..,,, jounces Witch haiel .:. I ounces Reaorcin ....,IX,,,. graina ... Liver Spots' TUa. Hf- Ovm.. I have had liver trouble for some time, .and am better now: but It haa left me with ugly liver spots. I have tried out ward remedlee without any results. I am told that the only way to remove them permanently la to have the electric needle used. Will you refer me to some one do ing that kind of work? M. M. The electric needle will not help In thla case, for it is impossible to remove tha pigments of the skin, and it is the dis coloration of the pigments which causa the brown spots. Disorders of the liver and the digestion will cause them to sp pear. and it will be some time after you are entirely cured of either before tha blemishes will disappear. Blackheads Dear Mrs. Symes. , Will you pleaae tell me a good cure for blackheads and enlarged pores on?.hIDnl,T I shall' first advise you not to use powder on your skin If you wish to cure the two blemishes. Every night before retiring cleanse your skin with a good soap, warm water and cream. One would not have blackheads if the pores were thoroughly cleansed every day. After the face has been rinsed and dried, apply the lotion for which I am giving the recipe: Boric acid 1 dram Distilled witch hazel ounces Apply with a piece of old linen or a bit Of absorbent cotton. Skin is Dry T. U a Crma I have tried using different soaps for my skin, but I find that It Is always atlff after washing, 'and I am sure that I rinae the "can you tell me how to reduce the line? I have used tannin, but it doea not help. How can I keep my feet from perspiring? I advise you not to use soap for a while, cream but to' cleanse the skin wltt, the for which I am giving the recipe. Cleansing Cream White wax Spermaceti Sweet almond oil Distilled water ... Glycerin Kaiicvila acid .. I ounces .. 1 ounces lt ounces ,. 2 ounces .. I ounces ..SO gralna If the lips are naturally thick, nothing can be done to reduce their w. ... It would not be wise to check the perspiration entirely, for it is necessary that the skin should throw oft a certain amount of waste matter in the form or sweat To gain comfort, however, the feet should be bathed twice a day in lukewarm water and then rubbed with alcohol, after which the powder made by tha fallowing recipe ahould be ap , plied:. . i - ' ? , v-.yivv.ff'V-.if " , "?, Salicylic acid Borio acid ....... ....,....... Oram. . Talcum powder .........' ounce- ':l . ;a V-f 'kt':JrSFIesh:"' - f LegS Are X,ljrji,; Dear Mra Symea. . ,m . aiy lege rrum n, m ,T. . " ' ha taken Wltn tne mai. srt.i t)u,f Ew"ie riSUce"W. -TtZF&t&t between n, . ;4 V 77fl7y'. but that doesn't mh to have any ' Possibly you do not walk rapidly, A brisk walk or. better atlll. runniajy will reduce the superfluous flesh. - J Sage Tea Mr hair was formerly a eailt browa hade: It la now turning red In plaem. Will aasa tea darken Itt How la it mad and how often should it be applied? BARBARA. I think It is advlsabla for you to use) he brown hair stain rather than the sage tea. Try a Uttlo on a strand of . hair first to see if it gives the desired) color. It should be applied with ft brualw Brown Hair Stain Oreen walnut shells ........... eunea Alum K ounce Pur oil ... euacee Heat tosetber in a water bath until the water haa been completely eraaorateftj Then express, niter and pertiuae. Peroxide Dear Mrs. Bymee. Pleaae tell ma if peroxide is fea- spots left by pimples POTS. Yes; H will bleach them. Desires Broad Shoulders 1 Dear Mrs, Symea. ... 1. Pleats publish an exercise that will broaden tbe abouldera. I li I am troubled with little white worms in the pores of the akin I ahould Ilka to know what to do to get rid of theiM and . prevent their return. - I. I am rather healthy, but vary pale. How , can I sain color? . 4. What can I do to wet ease me Magia mv evelaahea? ' a rieaae give me a good complexion ereaaa that will aot cause hair te grow. JAMS. L Stand erect. wHh tha feet neart together and tbe palms of the handa brought together above the bead. Throw the hands and forearms backward, keeping the arms on a line with tho shoulders, the elbows bent, and turn the) palms forward. Return to the first po-j altlon and repeat ten times. This exerJ else will strengthen the-muscles between the shoulder blades, whose function it is to hold the shoulders back. Ona can not hsve broad shoulders If one ia stoop shouldered. . I. To prevent the pores from becom ing clogged it is necessary to keep tha akin well cleansed. Ho one should re tire at night before washing tha face thoroughly with soap and warm water to remove the dust and dirt which has. .collected during the day. , - - J. To have a good complexion there must be evidence of good respiration, good digestion, proper excretion by tha owels, skin and kidneys, good condi tion of the blood and plenty ot outdoor exercise. A 4. Apply ft good quality of waseilna t them with ft camel's-hair brush every Hay . . ' er is tha . recipe for splendid, cream which will meet your require- . xnentsi r"-j i"'etT"---"-''-.--(-:" Kentucky Cold Cream . Roeewater .. Almond oil... Spermaceti .. White wax .. 4 ouneea ; , 4 eunreg) l ounce ............. I ounce Tn VrntMi n doittr Dear Mrs. Bymea ... .. I am a young girl of 11 and nave a geltetv I never can wear a low-neck dress oa ac count of it. What caa I do te remove thl defect? , BLONDE. No one should undertake to treat ft goiter without a reliable doctor's advice. One can never tell how sertoua toft growth may be. . ?3 Oily Hair Sar axiv. djuiw. . ... .. wilt you kindly advise ma what letten t . good for oily hair? . 0 C B. ' . Here Is the recipe for ft lotion whicA will make tha hair leaa oily: Formula for Oily Hair Alcohol .......- ouneee? Wlteh hazel . ouneea Beaorcln M grain Use daily, rubbing well into tbe scalp. ,' To Sweeten the Breath "1 Dear Mra Bymea " . Wilt you tell me what can be done for person who has a very strong breath? A RuaPKn. r . There is no way to keep tha breatV aweet if the general health la not good. Indigestion, constipation, liver trouhl , will cause bad breath. Decayed teeth, are very often at the seat of tha trouble, Unless the cause is removed you c&a . not expect cure. 4f. Corns and Bunions , t j . Dear Mra Bymea " Please publish remedy for corns sue) . , bunions. r. A. M. . Here ara the reclnes you desire. It I tmlr Vhci. and' .locking. If wiwXah. to avoid corns and bunion-, nceB8a!rv. however, that you wear Bunion Cure . Carbollo afid. .................... f fluid drsmj Tincture of iodlna.. ............ J fluid drama Glycerin "' drama Apply wltb a camei's-halr brush dally. Corn Cure Salicylic acid... ..................... dram Collodion 4 euiuS . Paint over the com once a day and scrape away the superfluous grewth at the and of tare, or four daya ----x;i'f'r: f"' Bust h Large . , ', IwTiI5 eklndly : hit m thrwogi. te columne how I mjtfjwduce s esoe.slvelj larga - aosti wbltf "Is vat at prorti.,. -with the rest of mt figure? l. W If you are willl.g, and aave gumi-ien :rength. to live on a diet you will 1 to decrease the bum. lt In ' very ; smattquanttty should be - OBt., . dy. Sweet -or starchy to'- ' should-be a voHed. - Ne ihvuM !") 1 t A i
