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N MllWt- I a vZ5 -1 f4 T ''v',.;wt. v JZtbj -tf Compare 18 1 111 ar 8 THERE a girl in the world who has not stood before ' the mirror nd wondered If she wa technical ly beautiful? Is there any woman who has not longed to know what pro portion means, that she inay Judge by the tape measure whether she is blessed with a good figure or not? If there is an exception to the general' rule, then I am not writing for her. If there Is a woman, old or young, who Is not Interested In her appearance, then I cannot hope to appeal to her with my doctrine of beauty, either natural or ac quired. There have been questions asked me t various times about the proportion for the feminine figure and I sympa-. thlze with these queries, and now I want to give a full, and satisfactory answer. And I think I can. The best I can do is to give the correct measurement of woman, not from modern, but from Gre cian standards. This only is possible. After that, every girl may work out the proportion for herself by taking her own type Into consideration. But remember, please, that there has never been a standard for the corseted woman. The only perfect standard Is the figure of Venus, who never knew confining clothes. The modern figure changes. One year it Is the fashion to have a very small waist. This means that the hips will be larger, and the figure of Venus cannot be taken as a model. Another year, as now, hips will be out of fashion and waists will be correspondingly large. To attain this end all the lines of the figure must be straightened; even the bust must be so draped that there is almost an im perceptible curve. The standard of the Greeks' required that a perfect woman should be 5 feet S Inches tall when she was standing flat on the floor. On the height the rest of the measurements were based. AVIth arms outstretched the distance from the tip of one middle finger to the tip of the other should exactly equal the height. The length of the head, from top to tip of chin, should equal one-tenth of the height; the foot, one-seventh of the height; the diameter of the chest, one-fifth of the height. The length of the forearm, from the elbow to the tip of the middle finger, should equal the distance from the elbow to' the center of the chest, when the arm Dinner Party Manners MOHE people have been frightened at the prospect of attending a formal dinner party than at any other form of entertainment; but . this excessive timidity is quite un necessary, for if the dinner is well ar ranged, there will not be a moment when the hostess does not lead the way. I will, however, review the de tails of a dinner for the benefit of the doubtful ones. In the first place, the guests should arrive within live minutes of the hour set. This allows time for them to go to the room appointed, remove their wraps and descend to the drawing room, where they greet their host and hostess. We will presume thedinner to be given in a private house, and in that case the dressing room for the men Will probably be on the same floor (the second), as the room for the women. In the latter there will, or should be, a maid In attendance, and en the dressing table there will be many little things that a woman would requlre-haifpins. pins, flower pins, brushes, combs, a hand mirror and, if possible, a needle and thread. This last ia. of course, In case of ao cldents. Unaccustomed people are, very often, too timid to ask the maid for what they want; but they need only remember that she Is there to help them and what they ask will not be out of tha ordinary. Never use the perfume of the hostess, for her room will probably be the one chosen aa a ,. dressing room, and do not use any or her personal belongings.- - 0 - JO tfwst lJ tJie 'icsf. ii.ii.i.nh'iartltri,iT,lHrt ; r v I U beld on a level with the shoulder, with elbow bent, so the hand touches the phest. The length of the foot should equal . the dlstnnce from the top of the fore arm to the chin. The roald will remove your carriage shoes and take your wraps from you, and when you are satisfied with your appearance you may go down to the drawing room. At a dinner party never arrange to meet even your hus band In the hall. Go down alone or with some friend that you have met In the dressing room. The arrangements for the men are similar to those for the women, except that there Is not necessarily a valet present to attend to masculine wants. At very formal parties there will be a butler at the foot of the steps, who will hand each man a tiny envelope upon a silver tray or salver. In this he will find a card bearing the name of the woman he is to take In to dinner. If he does not know her. he mentions the fact to his hostess when he greets her and she will present him. He then tells his partner that he believes he Is to have the pleasure of taking her in, and he should remain by her sldd, unless she Is surrounded by qthers. In that case he may wander away and speak to his friends, but when dinner is announced he should return promptly to her. AT TELE TABLE -At less formal parties the host ' or hostess will tell the men whom their partners will be. . A man taking his .partner to dinner will offer her his right arm, if the other men are thus escorting then- partners, or ha may merely walk at her left sido. , Be guided in this by the other men present. It is a custom! that varies in different parts of the country. At each olace at tha table there will be a dinner card with the name of the guest who fs to ait there, and when the seats are found, the men 'pull out tha chairs for the women, and when they are seated the men take their own ' chairs. Sometimes there are footmen who seat both men and women of course, the women first 'Oysters are usually served, and, aa they are always eaten with a small and rather peculiarly ahaped fork, tha posi f Mil - r iz it 'THE OREGON SUNDAY. JOURNAL,' PORTLAND, SUNDAY Si awi5sr Si N ' ws A woman of 5 feet 5 inches In height Should have a wutat that measures 27 Inches, and a bust that measures 34 inches, but the bust measure taken over the arms should be 43 Inches. The upper arm should be 13 Inches in tion of the silver may be judged by th position of this. If the tuble is properly set, this fork will be on the outside at the right hand, with a soup spoon next, and whatever other utensils are needed follow In order in a line extending toward the plate. Many dinners are begun1-with caviar, but the next fork In the line will be the oys:er fork, so it may still be used as a guide. If the hostess sets her table the ether way, as it were, the first fork will be beside the plate and the others in order extending in a line away from the plate. When in doubt, the experienced guest will always wait until the hosiers has picked up her fork or spoon, ami then lie or she will follow her example. Tills is the only really safe thing to do. At '.Very large dinners the guests begin to eat when they are served, but it Is al ways more polite to wait until every one at the 'table is served before starting. It is not necessary to eat all of every-i thing eet before you, .-ut it Is always better form to taste everything and look as though you were eating it- That is a duty you owe your hostess.. The best has been provided, and you should, at least, pretend to enjov it. In the meantime, talk to your dinner partner and do what you can to make the dinner agreeable. One woman or" one man at the head or foot of the 'table cannot keep a long line of people -entertained unless they do a little for themselves. Do not talk of things that may not be discussed by the other peo ple at the (able, and do not discuss tha other guests. Keep' the conversation general aa possible, and amusing, so the other guests may Join ou If they so desire. To do this it is not neoessary to ahout your -remarks, if they are mus- -Ids;, you will not lack an audience. After tha dessert 'be hostess looks round the table, and when she has at tracted the attention of the women thr all rise and retire to the drawing room, leaving the men to amok and talk alone. For this reason, toward the end of tha dinned , women should glance once In a while at th hostess, so when aha give tha signal they will be ready. . Whn the women have fathered in tha Health and Beauty MRSJHLNRY SYMES Sw f - 5 circumference, the thigh 25 inches, the calf of the leg 144 Inches, the ankle 8 Inches, and the weight should be 138 pounds. This is all that she may carry gracefully. These are the measurements prescribed "by the Greeks, the most artistic people the world has ever known, but we may not all hope to' attain this perfection. In fact, if we did we should find that the clothes of the present would not ' suit us at all. and at the moment the required weight would be almost 35 pounds too much. The measurements for the length of . the head, the feet, and the forearm are always correct, but the size of the waist and bust must conform to a modern standard. The Greeks were, however, not the only judges of beauty, for there are scientists who have given their lives to the matter and among these was Dr. Stratz. He held that the only per fect type of woman in existence Is i the Javanese, and his rules in regard to measurement are well worth at tention. He says that the height should be seven times the length of the head, sixteen times the length of the face and nine times the length of ether room each should try to be just as pleasant as sue was while at dinner. The absence of the men merely puts more responsibility upon the shoulders of the women. Remember. It Is they who will send out all future Invitations. When the men return to the drawing room It Is not necessary to immediately stop talking. The men soon find those to whom they wish to talk, and a man need not rejoin his dinner partner unless he so desires. It is not part of his duty. He should, however, say good-night to her. TIME TO GO The time for leaving must be decided Individually, but it is well to bear in mind that a dinner invitation does not usually Include an invitation for the night. An hour or so after you have left the table is long enough to stay. Do not wear out your welcome! When you go you need only say good-night to the people you are talking to and to your host and hostess, .and with these you must shake hands. Tha othera you need not speak to at all. Of course, the good-nights are all said before you go upstairs for your wraps. When you have them you cro down the stairs and out the front door. If a girl has her maid coma for her she may wait in the hall or dressing room some place where ha may easily be found. The men, too, make their adieus be fore, they go for their hats and coat. If a man is' taking a girl home, or a husband his wife, he gets his coat and waits for her at the front door, s they may go right out without again appear ing in the drawing rtntm or coining in contact) with the other guests: - I think I have now covered any point -that might be obscure to tha newly f edged debutante and to those who are Unaccustomed to formal entertainments. If there should be any point upon which I am- not quite clear, I hope that my friends will write for a mora lucid ex- 1... . v.r.'M i. Willi 11 K UUi IB a suit 7 lUki ivvi Ww atn - MORNING, NOVEMBER 22, 1 i 1 W-K 4- a a t. ' V 1 PERPLEXITIES SOLVED Not Worth Noticing WILL yon kindly ai!lne a voung elfl who la b;r,g much annoni by t youuc man who was once her V'lumiMul husband? landing wAcuulJ nut iid alunfi logulhcr, e agreed lc l-fak ih ngagemcnt.' We returned rich titht-is let ter! but two. which be lold ni i.e h' deiroyed. Since tluin I learned throuuh friendj that he kept those letters nl i khowing them to hla Irlenda. It la rather embnrrawnnif for trie, and 1 have appealed to him; but he only neer and says "the letters ara his. Is there no way 1 can make him return tha letter? A DISTRACTED GIR.U Mrs. Symes has handed me your letter, which was evidently intended to go In my Etiquette column. I hardly knuw what to tell you to do to the young man, who Is too despicable to talk a!out. Showing letters you wrote to him puts him in ft much worse position than it does you, and your friends will only feel contempt for him, not for you. It Is certainly unfortunate that you should be troubled so; but you should feel thank ful that 'you broke your engagement with him. Don't worry about It. for I am sure it will come out all right. Do not humble yourself by asking him for the letters. Ignore him and the letters, too. A Formal Reply Please tell me the correct form In wh'rh to answer a d:n.ter Invitation. Mrs. I EX If the Invitation Is worded in the usual way Mr. and Mrs. 'So-and-so request the pleasure, etc the answer Is. written In the same style '"Mr. and Mrs. John Doe accept with pleasure the kind invitation of Mr. and Mrs. KIchard Roe to dinner on Saturday evening, April nineteenth. 190g, at 8 o'clock." When writing the note the names, Mr. and Mrs. John Doe and Mr. and Mrs. Richard Roe. should occupy a line air by themselves. . Tha date' of tha dinner and the hour should always be repeated as I have Indicated, 'so that. .should there have been a mistake In tha invitation, ft' may be corrected before tha time of the en tertainment. ' If. however, yoti wish-to decline the Invitation yiu would write: "Mr. and Jdra. John Doe regret their inability to accent tha kind invitation of Mr. and lira Y?lia iH 13 si trt fi1nnr nn Rati Mrs. Richard Roe to dinner on Saturday 1& r 'MWfTMl fl'flsVsti'i .Ht tfcsBasu the hand. The leg should be four times the length of the head and the shoul ders two heads wide. This gives us an entirely new set of figures, which are really more satisfactory than those of the Greeks, for he does not pre suppose any given height. He works entirely in proportions, so that any woman, be she tall or short, may And out how nearly she approaches per fection. For the jjirl who does her measur ing without the aid of her tape meas ure there are a few simple rules. Her throat should be easily circled by the thumbs and econd fingers of her two evening, April nineteenth." If you are not going to the dinner It Is not necea sary for you to repeat the time, but tha entertainment and the date of same should both be written. Duties of Best Man Plena? tell rr hat are the duties or a best man at a wedding. L M. P. In olden times the best man was sup posed to attend to the financial end of the bridegroom's affairs, to hire the carrijiKe to be used by the bridegroom and himself, to attend to the trunks, to (linage the room at the hotel where ihu party was to spend Its honey moon. At tlie present time he fees the minister, the sexton and the organist if tiiere Is one. He holds the ring until the time routes for him to hand it to the bridegroom. He drives to the church with the bridegroom, and he waits at his right hand until the bride joins them at the altar, and he stands beside the groom during the ceremony. He holds lila own and the bridegroom's hut. and he sees that the carriages are rosily for the bridesmaids and guests. In other words, he does all that he ran to make things run easily and smoothly, and he attends to all affairs that the bridegroom is supposedly too nervous to see to. "Seeing Nellie Home" Is it light to Inwte your escort Into th house altar an evening entertainment? INEXPERIENCED. It is not good form to talk to anybody on your own front door steps without suggesting that they come In. unless it be entirely too late. In that case, you may men'ion the lateness of the hour, make a few courteous remarks, and then say, "Good-night, and thank you." Formal Calls I have lately niocV.l to a new neighbor- hood, and many iopJe have called upon me. lion soon should 1 return their rail? SUBURBANITE B Etiquette demands that every call . should bo paid Inside of two weeks, and It will be better if you could possibly mansse to daft weI1 within that length of time. ' " " H.ui : i hands joined together. Her thumb and middle finger stretched wide should span the length of her face; the thumb and middle finger of one hand joined should encircle the wrist. What could be easier than this? The face should be a perfect oval wlth the greatest width at the ends of the ,eycbrows just ' over the temples, and It should divide equally in three zones the first from that top of tha forehead to the ey'ebrows, the second from there to the base of tha nose, the third from that point to the end of the chin. The forehead should be neither high nor law, the nose should be straight-only slightly depressed at the bridge ,and just as long as the forehead is high? But in all this measuring you will say there is no mention of the hips. X . know it. Their" also ia one of the most difficult things to determine. . From the standpoint of the corseted woman without reference to classio require ments, I should say that a woman 6 feet 5 inches in height should have hips that measured between SB and 49 inehes. The hips of the present mo ment. With the fad for the dlrectolre at its height, . may measure exactly the same as the bust and be not a bit too small. The Judges of classic beauty hold, however, that the hips should be much wider than the shoulders. The hips are a matter of fashion and sometimes we dare to rival Verius! I have now given you the most au thentic figures that I can find, and, al though they may not bo universally satisfactory, I am sure that every one may user them as a basts of calcula tion. Should there be ahy further question I shall be glad to hear It. Mrs Symes' Aids to Correspondents OWING to the great amount of j mall received and tha limited i space given this department, ., . it Is absolutely impossible to answer letters in the Sunday Issue fol lowing their receipt. The letters must be answered in turn, and this ofttlmss requires three or four weeks. All correspondents who desire aa . immediate answer must inclose a self- . addressed stamped envelope for a re ply. This rule must also be 'complied with In regard to personal letters. A Perfect Figure I would like to know If my figure la tsj proportion. I am S feet 4 Inches tall, weigh 130 pounds. My hip measure Is 42 inehes, walit measure 14. laches and bust measure Inches. MAT F. -1 , According to the measurement for patterns your figure is quite correct ex cept that your bust Is too small. To suit the present style your bust should measure 3G Inches, your hips should measure not more than 40 inches.. Tou may reduce your hip measure by roll ing on the floor with your arms over your head. I am giving you a formula for Increasing the size of the bust. A Massage to Develop the Bust. Lanolin 1 ounce Cocoa butter t ounoe Sweet almond oil louse J'ul in ainall bowl, set In hot water un til melted. Ileal together and cool. Sack n grit, arter laying hot cloth on buat. rub it in by massaging gently and thor oughly In a circular direction for flfta minutes. More Haste, Less Speed 1 have put peroxide on my hair, and now I don't Ilka tt. What can I dor , TROUBLED. I think that time only will bring your hair buck to its natural color. Do not use any more peroxide and wash your hair with pure soap. In the course of time it will come around all right. Cucumber Cream Will you kindly send m a good formula ' for cucumber cream T I hav tried Very hard to eel this, and could Ond nothing like. K T. A 1 think the re lpe I am giving you will ; be satisfactory. Cucumber Cream Small cucumbers .. olive oil , i ottnree Lanolin I ounc j or White wax 1 drain bpermaeett I rra Heat olive oil. 611c up the oucumbera, not removlug the peel, and plat In the IL Leave for twenty-four hums, strain. Oily Hair . ' Mr hair is extremely l!y. and about a week after It I waahod it become so (lit- -"cult to arrange that 1 hav had to Chang . , my sty la of batr dreaatng. Co yow a g anything for at to dot . f ..... MisiroRTUWE. 1 am sure that t'fan help you. Th formula given below for ily Kur should b rubbed- on your ! n:..-. every two daya with absorbent " t . It la best to u absorbent cotton ( ,r tt may be thrown away after um-., ? Formula for Oily ,11 sir. Alcohol . ....................I...,. i Witch hal ... t ft . , Beeorcln Hi . ' - .' I ... " : x ' m - - 7