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P age A 7 C o p in g : R e s p e c t Y o u r C h i l d Here are some tips: W. F u i k . nek /) Spend most o f your tune teaching and Recently, I wrote about the many nega demonstrating what you want your child to tive effects that result from beating a child, do Try not to continually tell your child and why I am completely against this de what not to do Teach the right thing A void structive practice. focusing on the wrong thing Child beating is the by-product o f the 2) Always give easy-to-understandrea absence o f respect. The parent who beats sons fo r what you tell the child to do. Ask his child, does not respect him or her. the child fo r his/her ideas. Neither, does he respect himself. 3) Be courteous Respect your child's I o respect a person means to be aware o f feelings Don t try to control your child, that person’s feelings and to avoid offend hut he a patient teacher Be a good guide. ing them. Respect means thinking about 4) Be considerate and understanding, if your own behavior before you act and ask your child makes a mistake, he a teacher ing you rself this question: “ Will this not a dictator person's feelings be hurt by what I am 5) Be kind Treat your child the same going to do?” If your answer is yes, you way that you would want to he treated simply refrain from carrying out the behav 6) The most important years in child ior. I he normal individual gets no benefit rearing are the first three years o f life from hurting another person, except in During this time, your child is ju st begin cases of self-defense. ning Io develop an opinion o f him (her) No benefits are obtained from beating self. Help that opinion (self-image) to he a your child. If you feel the need to beat good one. Be positive. someone, then you need to see a counselor, 7) A w a rd y o u r c h ild f o r su ccess. fast It takes maturity, sophistication and Praise y o u r child, even fo r mistakes. intelligence, rather than volatile emotions A fter all, y o u r c h ild is only hum an - such as anger or hatred, to effectively deal he(she) will m ake mistakes, ju s t as adults with people. do. But a m istake does not turn a good I lie parent who beats his child is saying, ch ild had. “ 1 don't give a damn about your feelings. 8) I f you run into problems with your Beating you puts me in control. It gets rid child's behavior, consult the school psy o f my anger stress and insecurity. I don’t chologist, or a private child psychologist. care what it does to you ” This is a pathetic D on't panic. Determine i f your child is the attitude that, unfortunately, parents who problem, or i f your methods o f child rear beat their children do not realize is at the ing are at fault. bottom at their behavior. 9) Never, never refer to your child as < When the parent humiliates the child in stupid, dumb, ugly or had Praise, praise, the presence o f others, threatens the child praise, praise, your child with violence, talks abusively to the child Your child will eventually grow up and unfairly abuses the child, the negative D on't you want your child to be a mature, effect could last for a lifetime. Make no kind and respectful adult? Don’t you want mistake about it, psychological abuse is him or her to treat you with respect? D on't torture. you want your child to come to you when I fyou respect yourself, you will certainly he/she wants something important? 1 know respect others. Your children will raise that your answers are “yes." All o f these their children with the same respectful good things can begin for your child now, methods that you used to raise them. And with your respectful and loving training they will respect you, too. Remember: Nothing can come from any If you are not familiar with the modern kindofabuse. Ifyouabuseyourchid, it will methods of psychology that you can use to come back to torment you (and society) help raise your children, consult your li when he or she becomes an adult. brary and get a good book on basic psychol Write to Dr. Faulkner at: 5722 Green ogy or simply ask your city social services Street, Suite 302, Philadelphia, PA 19144 department to give you some advice. in D r . C harles Medically Fragile Children’s Unit collaborates (Statewide) - In its first year o f operation, the Medically Fragile Children's unit has served 52 children with intense medical and nursing needs, stretching limited resources by coordinating services, helping provide family support, in-home daily care, and au thorizing medical services. The unit was formed in January o f 1996 in the Oregon Department of Human Resources, and is a unique collaboration of the Office of Devel opmental Disability Services with the Se nior and Disabled Services Division, State Office to Children and Families, and the Office o f Medical Assistance Program. Chil dren receiving services are 18 years or younger, have very intense medical/nursing Mi,ft. rJ H H V f t f H f l H V H t d A lza e L ari G otdsby April 24,1997, Female 7 lbs lOoz; 20" M other: Nika R. Sanders Father: Albert L Goldsby Jr. needs, and many are on ventilators. Contact: Tina Kitchin. DHR’s Medically Fragile Children’s Unit, (503) 945-9795. SAFEWAY FOOD & DRUG it makes an impact!” . OMSI is joined by OR National Guard, Navy League, Walgreens Drug Stores, Key Bank o f OR The Oregonian, PGE, Adidas America, NW Osteopathic Medical Foun dation, TO SCO C orp., C oca-C ola and American Medical Response to sponsor I he Oregon Partnership’s 1997 March. Six other community Marches will be held across the state during the same week Marches for Washington and Marion county schools and the W illamina-Grand Ronde community will also be held on May 16th Gresham holds its March on May 23rd, Lincoln County on May 14th, and Coos Bay North Bend on May 17th. Overall, an esti mated 15,000 kids will march against drugs this May! New rehabilitative residential facility profit mental health agency that provides services to Andrea Place residents. Andrea Place will serve 15 people in a new rehabilitative residential program that includes an “ independent living” suite where residents will have the opportunity to prac tice cooking their own meals, doing their own laundry, and other independent living activities. Partners in the project include the A new home for persons with serious men tal illness will be opening in North Portland in May. “Andrea Place” is located on N. Ports mouth, just north o f Lombard Avenue and replaces the out-dated Perry Houses facility located nearby on N. Maryland. The new residence is within walking dis tance to many community amenities includ ing Delaunay Family o f Services, the non Mental Health and Developmental Disabil ity Services Division, the Oregon Depart ment o f Housing and Community Services, the Portland Development Commission, and the Enterprise Foundation. Contact: Vicki Skryha, MHDDSD, (503) 9 4 5 -9 7 2 2 ; D elo res M organ or Mary Denevan, Delaunay Family o f Services, (503) 286-1 107. Study “Fat-Free” label for children apples, celery and bananas all m ake good healthy snacks. Products like reduced-fat yogurt and skim and 2 percent milk are also good. However, stuff says, children need fat in their diets, especially during growth spurts. The energy fat provides them helps them maintain normal bodily functions and sup ports the increased growth in muscle, skin and bone. “ Based on present knowledge, 30 percent o f a child’s caloric intake should come from Parents should study the label carefully before buying "Fat-Free” foods for growing children. "In some cases, even where the dietary tat has been reduced, the serving size may have a considerable amount of calories,” says Dr. Janice Stuff at the USDA’s Children’s Nu trition Research Center. “Children may tend to eat more servings, which may cause them to gain more weight.” S tuff rem inds parents that fruits and vegetables are fat-free snacks. C arrots, fat. Fat satisfies a child’s appetite," said Stuff, an assistant professor o f pediatrics at Baylor College of Medicine in Houston. “Fat also helps the body absorb fat-soluble vita mins like A,D, and E. Some ot the fat-free offerings may not be as balanced in these vitam ins.” It’s not wise to completely cut fat out ot a growing child’s diet. “The daily required amount helps chil dren grow into strong, healthy adults. Stuff said. Family conference “Building on family strength” Family-centered social services and men tal health services are the emphasis o f a three-day conference that will bring hun dreds o f mental health professionals and family members to Portland May 8-10. The conference, “ Building on Family Strengths,” is presented by the Portland State University-based Research and Train ing Center on Fam i ly Support and Ch i Idren ’ s Mental Health. It will be held at the Portland Hilton, 921 SW Sixth Ave. Registration costs $240. For more information, call con ference coordinator Kaye Exo at 725-5558. The conference will showcase the latest research and programs relating to social services aimed at children and their fami lies. Special presentations will focus on im proving services to families with children and adolescents who have emotional, behav ioral or mental disorders. Beef Rib Eye Steak EXPIRES 5/13/97 The conference will attract researchers, family advocates, social service agency ad ministrators, policy makers and service pro viders. “ Family members who have ideas for research, researchers who conduct the stud ies, and advocates who can use study results for shaping policy all come together in one place.” said Barbara Friesen, director o f the Research and Training Center SAFEWAY ( 41 ) COUPON Lucerne Gallon Milk Bone-in • Valu Pack 4 or more steaks SAVE up to $1.72 lb. » 1%, 2%, Non Fal, Dairyland or Skim Supreme * First 1 with coupon Safeway Weekly Shopping Guide In Your Oregonian FOODday in the Portland Metro Area ...and save more shopping at Safeway! Enjoy Extra Savings With The SAFEWAY EXTRA Available at your Safeway store. Visit Safeways Web site at www.saieway.com PRICES EFFECTIVE MAY 1997 Sun 11 Mon Tue I Wed — n - Thur I 8 1 "’¡•¿a. Smaller packages, $3.17 lb. In-Store Savings Guide L a u ry n J a y sh o n - M o n et H elen M in n ie w e a th e r Female; April 19, 1997 7 lbs 5 1/2 oz; Length: 21" M other: Irene Minnieweather Father: Matthew Minnieweather^ “OMSI is delighted to be the destination for this year’s Say No To Drugs March! The commitment o f thousands o f kids to this important event makes a hopetul statement about the future o f our community .” The Oregon Partnership "Say No To Drugs” March is open to students from Portland Public, David Douglas and Parkrose school districts and all students from Clacka mas and Clark county school districts. This March is the culminating event for local youth who have received drug abuse prevention curriculum during the school year. Sheri Philips, Director of Public Af fairs for The Oregon Partnership says “Our goal is to keep kids off o f drugs! When kids participate in events that clearly uphold the public standard to be healthy and drug-free, The Oregon Partnership holds its 12th annual "Say No To Drugs” March on Friday, May 16, 1997 in downtown Portland. In the spirit o f this year’s slogan "W/e’ve Got Better Things To Do Than Drugs!”, OMSI (Or egon Museum ofScience and Industry )joins The Oregon Partnership to provide students with three hours o f open exhibits. Tony Martinez, morning traffic reporter for KPTV 12, will serve as master o f ceremo nies for the opening ceremony, featuring the Oregon City Girl’s Basketball Team, begin ning 9:30 a m at Tom McCall Waterfront Park. The 1.8 mile March steps off at 10:15 a m ., with participants marching east over the Burnside Bridge, south down Martin L uther King, Jr Blvd. to O M SI. 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