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Here are some tips:
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/) Spend most o f your tune teaching and
Recently, I wrote about the many nega
demonstrating what you want your child to
tive effects that result from beating a child,
do Try not to continually tell your child
and why I am completely against this de
what not to do Teach the right thing A void
structive practice.
focusing on the wrong thing
Child beating is the by-product o f the
2) Always give easy-to-understandrea
absence o f respect. The parent who beats
sons fo r what you tell the child to do. Ask
his child, does not respect him or her.
the child fo r his/her ideas.
Neither, does he respect himself.
3) Be courteous Respect your child's
I o respect a person means to be aware o f
feelings Don t try to control your child,
that person’s feelings and to avoid offend
hut he a patient teacher Be a good guide.
ing them. Respect means thinking about
4) Be considerate and understanding, if
your own behavior before you act and ask
your child makes a mistake, he a teacher
ing you rself this question: “ Will this
not a dictator
person's feelings be hurt by what I am
5) Be kind Treat your child the same
going to do?” If your answer is yes, you
way that you would want to he treated
simply refrain from carrying out the behav
6) The most important years in child
ior. I he normal individual gets no benefit
rearing are the first three years o f life
from hurting another person, except in
During this time, your child is ju st begin
cases of self-defense.
ning Io develop an opinion o f him (her)
No benefits are obtained from beating
self.
Help that opinion (self-image) to he a
your child. If you feel the need to beat
good one. Be positive.
someone, then you need to see a counselor,
7) A w a rd y o u r c h ild f o r su ccess.
fast It takes maturity, sophistication and
Praise
y o u r child, even fo r mistakes.
intelligence, rather than volatile emotions
A
fter
all,
y o u r c h ild is only hum an -
such as anger or hatred, to effectively deal
he(she)
will
m ake mistakes, ju s t as adults
with people.
do.
But
a
m
istake does not turn a good
I lie parent who beats his child is saying,
ch ild had.
“ 1 don't give a damn about your feelings.
8) I f you run into problems with your
Beating you puts me in control. It gets rid
child's
behavior, consult the school psy
o f my anger stress and insecurity. I don’t
chologist,
or a private child psychologist.
care what it does to you ” This is a pathetic
D
on't
panic.
Determine i f your child is the
attitude that, unfortunately, parents who
problem,
or
i
f your methods o f child rear
beat their children do not realize is at the
ing are at fault.
bottom at their behavior.
9) Never, never refer to your child as
< When the parent humiliates the child in
stupid,
dumb, ugly or had Praise, praise,
the presence o f others, threatens the child
praise,
praise, your child
with violence, talks abusively to the child
Your
child will eventually grow up
and unfairly abuses the child, the negative
D
on't
you
want your child to be a mature,
effect could last for a lifetime. Make no
kind
and
respectful
adult? Don’t you want
mistake about it, psychological abuse is
him
or
her
to
treat
you
with respect? D on't
torture.
you
want
your
child
to
come to you when
I fyou respect yourself, you will certainly
he/she
wants
something
important? 1 know
respect others. Your children will raise
that
your
answers
are
“yes."
All o f these
their children with the same respectful
good
things
can
begin
for
your
child now,
methods that you used to raise them. And
with
your
respectful
and
loving
training
they will respect you, too.
Remember:
Nothing
can
come
from any
If you are not familiar with the modern
kindofabuse.
Ifyouabuseyourchid,
it will
methods of psychology that you can use to
come
back
to
torment
you
(and
society)
help raise your children, consult your li
when he or she becomes an adult.
brary and get a good book on basic psychol
Write to Dr. Faulkner at: 5722 Green
ogy or simply ask your city social services
Street,
Suite 302, Philadelphia, PA 19144
department to give you some advice.
in D r . C harles
Medically Fragile Children’s Unit collaborates
(Statewide) - In its first year o f operation,
the Medically Fragile Children's unit has
served 52 children with intense medical and
nursing needs, stretching limited resources
by coordinating services, helping provide
family support, in-home daily care, and au
thorizing medical services. The unit was
formed in January o f 1996 in the Oregon
Department of Human Resources, and is a
unique collaboration of the Office of Devel
opmental Disability Services with the Se
nior and Disabled Services Division, State
Office to Children and Families, and the
Office o f Medical Assistance Program. Chil
dren receiving services are 18 years or
younger, have very intense medical/nursing
Mi,ft.
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A lza e L ari G otdsby
April 24,1997, Female
7 lbs lOoz; 20"
M other: Nika R. Sanders
Father: Albert L Goldsby Jr.
needs, and many are on ventilators.
Contact: Tina Kitchin. DHR’s Medically
Fragile Children’s Unit, (503) 945-9795.
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it makes an impact!” .
OMSI is joined by OR National Guard,
Navy League, Walgreens Drug Stores, Key
Bank o f OR The Oregonian, PGE, Adidas
America, NW Osteopathic Medical Foun
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American Medical Response to sponsor I he
Oregon Partnership’s 1997 March.
Six other community Marches will be
held across the state during the same week
Marches for Washington and Marion county
schools and the W illamina-Grand Ronde
community will also be held on May 16th
Gresham holds its March on May 23rd,
Lincoln County on May 14th, and Coos Bay
North Bend on May 17th. Overall, an esti
mated 15,000 kids will march against drugs
this May!
New rehabilitative residential facility
profit mental health agency that provides
services to Andrea Place residents.
Andrea Place will serve 15 people in a
new rehabilitative residential program that
includes an “ independent living” suite where
residents will have the opportunity to prac
tice cooking their own meals, doing their
own laundry, and other independent living
activities. Partners in the project include the
A new home for persons with serious men
tal illness will be opening in North Portland in
May. “Andrea Place” is located on N. Ports
mouth, just north o f Lombard Avenue and
replaces the out-dated Perry Houses facility
located nearby on N. Maryland.
The new residence is within walking dis
tance to many community amenities includ
ing Delaunay Family o f Services, the non
Mental Health and Developmental Disabil
ity Services Division, the Oregon Depart
ment o f Housing and Community Services,
the Portland Development Commission, and
the Enterprise Foundation.
Contact: Vicki Skryha, MHDDSD, (503)
9 4 5 -9 7 2 2 ; D elo res M organ or Mary
Denevan, Delaunay Family o f Services, (503)
286-1 107.
Study “Fat-Free” label for children
apples, celery and bananas all m ake good
healthy snacks. Products like reduced-fat
yogurt and skim and 2 percent milk are
also good.
However, stuff says, children need fat in
their diets, especially during growth spurts.
The energy fat provides them helps them
maintain normal bodily functions and sup
ports the increased growth in muscle, skin
and bone.
“ Based on present knowledge, 30 percent
o f a child’s caloric intake should come from
Parents should study the label carefully
before buying "Fat-Free” foods for growing
children.
"In some cases, even where the dietary tat
has been reduced, the serving size may have
a considerable amount of calories,” says Dr.
Janice Stuff at the USDA’s Children’s Nu
trition Research Center. “Children may tend
to eat more servings, which may cause them
to gain more weight.”
S tuff rem inds parents that fruits and
vegetables are fat-free snacks. C arrots,
fat. Fat satisfies a child’s appetite," said
Stuff, an assistant professor o f pediatrics at
Baylor College of Medicine in Houston. “Fat
also helps the body absorb fat-soluble vita
mins like A,D, and E. Some ot the fat-free
offerings may not be as balanced in these
vitam ins.”
It’s not wise to completely cut fat out ot a
growing child’s diet.
“The daily required amount helps chil
dren grow into strong, healthy adults. Stuff
said.
Family conference “Building on family strength”
Family-centered social services and men
tal health services are the emphasis o f a
three-day conference that will bring hun
dreds o f mental health professionals and
family members to Portland May 8-10.
The conference, “ Building on Family
Strengths,” is presented by the Portland
State University-based Research and Train
ing Center on Fam i ly Support and Ch i Idren ’ s
Mental Health. It will be held at the Portland
Hilton, 921 SW Sixth Ave. Registration
costs $240. For more information, call con
ference coordinator Kaye Exo at 725-5558.
The conference will showcase the latest
research and programs relating to social
services aimed at children and their fami
lies. Special presentations will focus on im
proving services to families with children
and adolescents who have emotional, behav
ioral or mental disorders.
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The conference will attract researchers,
family advocates, social service agency ad
ministrators, policy makers and service pro
viders.
“ Family members who have ideas for
research, researchers who conduct the stud
ies, and advocates who can use study results
for shaping policy all come together in one
place.” said Barbara Friesen, director o f the
Research and Training Center
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“OMSI is delighted to be the destination for
this year’s Say No To Drugs March! The
commitment o f thousands o f kids to this
important event makes a hopetul statement
about the future o f our community .”
The Oregon Partnership "Say No To
Drugs” March is open to students from
Portland Public, David Douglas and Parkrose
school districts and all students from Clacka
mas and Clark county school districts.
This March is the culminating event for
local youth who have received drug abuse
prevention curriculum during the school
year. Sheri Philips, Director of Public Af
fairs for The Oregon Partnership says “Our
goal is to keep kids off o f drugs! When kids
participate in events that clearly uphold the
public standard to be healthy and drug-free,
The Oregon Partnership holds its 12th
annual "Say No To Drugs” March on Friday,
May 16, 1997 in downtown Portland. In the
spirit o f this year’s slogan "W/e’ve Got Better
Things To Do Than Drugs!”, OMSI (Or
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The Oregon Partnership to provide students
with three hours o f open exhibits.
Tony Martinez, morning traffic reporter
for KPTV 12, will serve as master o f ceremo
nies for the opening ceremony, featuring the
Oregon City Girl’s Basketball Team, begin
ning 9:30 a m at Tom McCall Waterfront
Park. The 1.8 mile March steps off at 10:15
a m ., with participants marching east over
the Burnside Bridge, south down Martin
L uther King, Jr Blvd. to O M SI. Pat
LaCrosse, Executive Director at OMSI says,
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