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A6 THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THuRSDAY, JANuARY 10, 2019 Loudmouthed newcomer TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. Dear Annie: I’ve played cious for that. But at the basketball with an informal same time, she’s ruining the team of women for well over dynamics of the group. I 10 years. We’ve now cele- don’t feel close enough to her brated most of our 40th birth- to suggest getting help for her days together, and though drinking problem. Besides, she flaunts it and some in the group of DEAR 20 or so have come does not appear to ANNIE and gone, we’ve been want to change. a pretty close and Any suggestions? supportive cluster of — Troubled in friends. We play b-ball Toledo Dear Trou- twice a week, go for coffee after morning bled: Alcohol games and occasion- abuse ruins lives. ally go out for a drink ANNIE LANE The kindest thing Creators you and your team- after evening ones. Syndicate Inc. mates could do for About six months this heavy-drinking ago, a new player joined our ranks. She loves “loudmouth” is not to refer to being part of the group and her as that! The only way to is a great player. But frankly, get closer to her and be kind she is a loudmouth and huge to her is to have a frank con- drinker. Though I haven’t versation with her about the heard direct complaints about effects her drinking is hav- her — because my friends are ing on the team. If your team- too kind to talk behind her mates are truly as kind as you back — I can see it on their say they are, you should tell faces. It’s a pained expres- her the truth. Dear Annie: If you want sion. It’s downright embar- rassing when she’s drunk and to find yourself, do something yelling insults about any one for others. One of your read- ers said she was annoyed that of us at a bar or restaurant. This isn’t the kind of team a friend would call her twice that members get kicked out a week to talk. It invaded her of. My friends are too gra- time for herself. Listening is a gift, and most of us are not good at it. As a spouse, I am a terrible listener. I am trying to do a better job. But I do know that sometimes people just want to vent, and some of us can’t help but want to fix what we hear. I think ladies have their nails done so they will have someone listen to them. Ladies pay $25 for a half- hour of talking, and they end up with shiny fingernails to boot. And they vent and often solve their own concerns. What a gift it is to listen to others. Guys, are you listen- ing? — Husband for 42 Years Dear Husband: Inter- esting notion about the nail salons. Whether or not that hypothesis is correct, you’re right that to listen to some- one is to give him or her a gift. A few thoughts on “vent- ing”: When one partner just wants to vent, I’ve found it’s helpful when the venter states upfront that he or she is just looking to vent and not soliciting advice. But one should also be careful not to make complaining a primary pastime. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Only a fool would go looking for trouble. However, when trouble comes with the territory, dive right in. Employ your emo- tional and spiritual facilities like faith, courage and passion. Left unused, they will diminish. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). In the past, there were vast stretches of unspoiled, unknown land to explore. Now all the unknown territories are in the land of ideas. You’re an adventurer, prepared to discover something there today. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Today’s success secret: Prime yourself with a positive self-talk session be- fore the main actions of the day. Decide how you want things to play out, and then psych yourself into the frame of mind that will make it go that way. CANCER (June 22-July 22). In families, everyone takes a role. Those roles fit together to create a unit. It’s like you become who you need to be to make that unit function. And it doesn’t always fit your idea of who you would like to be or who you are. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). There’s a spirit of indepen- dence taking hold in you, and you’d really like to see what you can accomplish on your own before you seek advice or partnership. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Because you know how to laugh at life, you don’t get stressed out over the same things that make other people so ner- vous. It’s beautiful to be around, and it’s the quality that will put you in a unique position today. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Knowing that people see in others what they recognize in themselves, you will very carefully choose what you call out in others, as well as what you praise and compliment. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When you enter a room, the energy of the room changes as everyone gets a sample of what you bring in. You can hide what you feel, and others might consciously miss it, but unconsciously they cannot help but sample it. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). While some strive to be well-liked, others are actually afraid of coming into favor. It can be uncomfortable to be liked, as it can come with expectations and more attention than some people want to receive. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Pretending is an important part of development. It’s how people learn. So while pretentiousness gets a bad rap, it’s part of the process, and utterly forgivable. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You embrace responsibility. The essence of responsibility is ownership. It claims things, relationships and other situations and says “mine,” mine to figure out, care for, take pleasure in; mine to lose or keep. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The biblical proverb suggests, “As you sow, so shall you reap.” The trou- ble is that many seeds look alike. This is true both figuratively and literally. Just plant what you have and hope for the best. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 11). Being able to recognize the profound beauty in a moment is your cosmic birthday gift. This solar return will bring you many such moments — sacred, loving experiences that, for years to come, will flood your heart with gratitude when recalled. March brings a reunion. June shows a stellar financial opportunity. Cancer and Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 10, 4, 28, 2 and 15.
