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A6 THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TuESDAY, DEcEmbER 18, 2018 A lack of gratitude Dear Annie: Over the you who’s written to me, years, my son, his wife and I’ll outline your three appar- our granddaughter have been ent options: 1) Keep sending the recipients of many gifts gifts, and make peace with from my wife and me. Unfor- the lack of thank-yous. 2) tunately, other than the Continue sending DEAR holidays when we are gifts and resenting ANNIE in the same room with the lack of thank- them as they receive yous. 3) Stop send- ing gifts. gifts, we never receive It sounds as any recognition that if the first option they have received the isn’t going to work items or any thank- for you. The sec- yous for the gifts. These gifts are ANNIE LANE ond option would Creators given because we are most likely lead Syndicate Inc. thinking of them. It is to a buildup of frustrating and so dis- resentment that appointing to us and lessens would eventually create a our desire to keep giving. wall between you and your I believe I should express son. So that leaves the third these feelings with my son. option. I don’t see anything My conclusion is that in wrong with stopping. If they raising my son, I must have haven’t been bothering to neglected to properly convey express gratitude for their proper etiquette and respect- gifts, then they ought not ful actions to him. My wife miss them much. And if your believes we should just not son asks you why the pres- say anything. How do we ents stopped, just be honest. proceed? — Sad in Wisconsin Tell him you figured he and Dear Sad: It’s wrong not his family didn’t care much to send a thank-you for a gift, for them, as you never heard plain and simple. If your son back from them about any. had written to me, that’s what Dear Annie: Thank I’d tell him. But because it’s you for your words of wis- dom to “Not Sure in Nor- folk” regarding the use of handicapped restrooms and train seats. Your last sen- tence should have been in bold print: “Not all disabil- ities are obvious.” You are 100 percent right. A lot of us do not want to draw attention to our disabilities by having to ask someone to yield the Americans with Disabilities Act seat to us on a commuter train. I asked a 25-ish young man to move so I could sit in an ADA seat and was met with “You’re not disabled. You’re just lazy.” Before I could respond, other riders came to my defense. I then rolled up my pant leg to show the brace I wear on both feet for my foot drop issue (nerve damage from an unsuccess- ful back surgery). The embar- rassed young man got up and moved to a new train car.— uncle Dino Dear Dino: I hope that flush of shame was enough to burnish a sense of decency into these folks’ hearts. Thanks for taking the time to share your story. TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). It’s time to reach out and risk. Follow your daring impulse, pitch your idea or extend your offer. Regardless of whether you get the result you were hoping for or not, the spontaneity will invigorate you. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’re not in it alone; the others just haven’t joined you yet. They don’t yet know enough to come into the picture. So start telling people what you’re doing, and what you need. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). No one is born with character. Character is the natural outcropping of your choices, mainly the little ones today. Each small challenge is a chance to rise up and meet the moment with grace. CANCER (June 22-July 22). It may help you to think of your thoughts as items scattered around the rooms of your mind, some of little or no value, others pearls. You can go in and tidy up just as you would your home. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Children need different things at age 5 than they do at age 13, and here you are, grown, and still growing, needing different things as you go. In a new stage, you might not be sure what you need, but experiments will show you. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You can like a person and still dislike the person’s behavior. It won’t help to criticize though. For now, just observe with a compas- sionate heart. It’s very likely things will turn around on their own. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There’s a lot of information out there you don’t need to or want to know. The way to filter it is to figure out what you do want to know and go deeper and deeper into that area of knowl- FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE edge. All else will fade on the periphery. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). The words of William Shakespeare in “King Henry IV” will apply. “The better part of valor is discretion, in which, better part I have saved my life.” Your life isn’t at stake, but your enjoy- ment may be. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). A person who is time rich and cash poor is in a far better position than one in the opposite situation. With the drop of one responsibility, your time could open up unexpectedly. This is a golden opportunity indeed. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Success will be a matter of sorting. There will be a few things to match up: What you have to give, what you like to give, who needs such a thing, and who meets your qualifica- tions of exchange. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Ambitions will drive you forward, and, because you choose such inter- esting ones, they drive you forward in novel ways, involving fascinating people and culminating in one- of-a-kind scenarios. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The power of habit is not to be underestimated. A strong habit can conquer any number of complex emotional conditions. It can settle the wilderness of the mind. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 19). You’re stepping up your game this year, simply because you’ve done what you can where you’re at and you’re ready to go to the next level. This will involve exciting changes. Three standout events will reflect your status, solidify your alliances and crystalize your memory of this re- markable time of life. Sagittarius and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 40, 33, 38 and 18.
