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A6 THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THuRSDAY, DEcEmbER 13, 2018 She’s feeling snubbed Dear Annie: My hus- within yourself to let this go. band is friends with a cou- Retaliation is for war, not ple from college with friendship. Send them that whom we have exchanged Christmas card, and put this Christmas cards and grad- behind you. I have a feeling uation announce- you’d feel better for DEAR ments over the past it in the long run. ANNIE 25-plus years. They Dear Annie: have three sons, all This is in response of whom we sent to “Senior Dat- ing Adventures.” a card and money Although some of to when they grad- uated from high the points you made school. However, are valid and may when our daughter ANNIE LANE apply to this gentle- Creators man, I feel that you graduated in May, Syndicate Inc. missed the fact that they sent nothing the woman seemed — not even a card. to lose interest when he — Slighted Dear Slighted: Just asked for a hug on the 34th because you sent their chil- date, which continued on dren graduation gifts doesn’t the next two dates. mean they were obligated to It is not uncommon for do the same for yours. A gift senior women to enjoy and given with strings attached even seek out the compan- is really just a trap. Also, ionship of dating. How- there are plenty of benign ever, many are not looking explanations for their not for a sexual relationship. sending a gift. Maybe This woman has been wid- they’re not so well-off as owed twice, and she may you think (we never know be done with needing a man what goes on behind closed for an intimate relationship. doors), or maybe they just Though many seniors still forgot. Regardless, I urge have sexual relations, many you to try to find the grace women say they would love to have someone to social- ize and go out with but are really not looking for any- thing physical. They may enjoy the company of a certain gentleman but are not necessarily physically attracted to him or inter- ested in having sex with him. I agree that this gentle- man had his feelings hurt, but your answer to him seemed to blame him for not being confident and fix- ating on the relationship. He seemed to just be trying to understand where he had gone wrong. I live in Florida, am in my late 60s and know many women who had wonderful (and some not-so-wonder- ful) marriages and/or rela- tionships with men but now are not dating because they are not looking for another intimate relationship at this point. They are happy with who they are. — mary Lou Dear Mary Lou: I’m printing your letter because you’ve shared valuable insight on another explana- tion for his date’s behavior. TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Gratitude is like stretch- ing. It’s preparation for the vigor ahead, easing the way for effort, warding off injury. People don’t do gratitude for the same reason people don’t stretch. It’s so easy they forget. Don’t let that be you. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Sometimes you wonder whether you should even go to the expense of buying event tickets when the best part of going out is the anticipation of it, and that’s absolutely free. Put something new on the books. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Many material things bring more torment than delight, as the mainte- nance, cartage, storage and display of these things, coupled with the fear of losing them, can be more acute than any joy of ownership. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The ennui is not relievable by purchase. The retail rush lasts some- where between 15 minutes and two hours, and then the ennui settles back in. It will take a big project to send the ennui running. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Among other things, love has been compared to fever, dreaming and anesthesia. Certainly, that’s one version — and a very pleasant, though temporary, one at that. So enjoy! CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Everything looks original to the one who’s never seen it before. Put you work in front of fresh eyes of all ages to get a different perspective on what you’re doing. The feedback will help you hone in on a more lucrative direction. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Avoiding sadness today is like standing in the ocean and avoiding wetness. Sadness (like joy, excitement, frustration, trepidation, curiosity ...) is part and parcel with the experience of the day. It will quickly wash over you. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The question is not whether you’re better off than you were. That thought journey has the potential to meander high and low but ultimately will lead straight into a wall. The thought journey you want to go on begins with “What now?” VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’re not afraid of responsibility, and when you commit yourself, you go all in. Somehow, making up your mind to do a thing reduces your fear. It’s like each action you choose comes with a side order of courage. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ll find it interesting when people you’ve known for a long time have a different recollection than you do about your shared history. Perhaps both versions are equally valid. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re so respectful and appreciative of even the most accessible joys because you know that sometimes a lot more work goes into presenting them than most people would guess. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Modesty isn’t always about what you say; it’s often a move that comes before that — the avoidance of being spotlighted at all. A low profile will keep you in the good graces of humility. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 14). Your life will be lush with mutual appreciation. Your love is like Mir- acle-Gro. Those you nurture will thrive, and it’s your pleasure to watch this happen. Highlights to come include travel done in style, a group effort to launch your project and the happy resolution to what was an ongoing conflict. Capricorn and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 4, 39, 22 and 18.
