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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THuRSDAY, DEcEmbER 13, 2018
She’s feeling snubbed
Dear Annie: My hus- within yourself to let this go.
band is friends with a cou- Retaliation is for war, not
ple from college with friendship. Send them that
whom we have exchanged Christmas card, and put this
Christmas cards and grad- behind you. I have a feeling
uation announce-
you’d feel better for
DEAR
ments over the past
it in the long run.
ANNIE
25-plus years. They
Dear
Annie:
have three sons, all
This is in response
of whom we sent
to “Senior Dat-
ing Adventures.”
a card and money
Although some of
to when they grad-
uated from high
the points you made
school. However,
are valid and may
when our daughter ANNIE LANE apply to this gentle-
Creators
man, I feel that you
graduated in May,
Syndicate Inc.
missed the fact that
they sent nothing
the woman seemed
— not even a card.
to lose interest when he
— Slighted
Dear Slighted: Just asked for a hug on the 34th
because you sent their chil- date, which continued on
dren graduation gifts doesn’t the next two dates.
mean they were obligated to
It is not uncommon for
do the same for yours. A gift senior women to enjoy and
given with strings attached even seek out the compan-
is really just a trap. Also, ionship of dating. How-
there are plenty of benign ever, many are not looking
explanations for their not for a sexual relationship.
sending a gift. Maybe This woman has been wid-
they’re not so well-off as owed twice, and she may
you think (we never know be done with needing a man
what goes on behind closed for an intimate relationship.
doors), or maybe they just Though many seniors still
forgot. Regardless, I urge have sexual relations, many
you to try to find the grace women say they would love
to have someone to social-
ize and go out with but are
really not looking for any-
thing physical. They may
enjoy the company of a
certain gentleman but are
not necessarily physically
attracted to him or inter-
ested in having sex with
him.
I agree that this gentle-
man had his feelings hurt,
but your answer to him
seemed to blame him for
not being confident and fix-
ating on the relationship. He
seemed to just be trying to
understand where he had
gone wrong.
I live in Florida, am in
my late 60s and know many
women who had wonderful
(and some not-so-wonder-
ful) marriages and/or rela-
tionships with men but now
are not dating because they
are not looking for another
intimate relationship at this
point. They are happy with
who they are. — mary Lou
Dear Mary Lou: I’m
printing your letter because
you’ve shared valuable
insight on another explana-
tion for his date’s behavior.
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Gratitude is like stretch-
ing. It’s preparation for the vigor ahead, easing the
way for effort, warding off injury. People don’t do
gratitude for the same reason people don’t stretch.
It’s so easy they forget. Don’t let that be you.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Sometimes you wonder
whether you should even go to the expense of
buying event tickets when the best part of going out
is the anticipation of it, and that’s absolutely free. Put
something new on the books.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Many material things
bring more torment than delight, as the mainte-
nance, cartage, storage and display of these things,
coupled with the fear of losing them, can be more
acute than any joy of ownership.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The ennui is not
relievable by purchase. The retail rush lasts some-
where between 15 minutes and two hours, and then
the ennui settles back in. It will take a big project to
send the ennui running.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Among other things,
love has been compared to fever, dreaming and
anesthesia. Certainly, that’s one version — and a very
pleasant, though temporary, one at that. So enjoy!
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Everything looks
original to the one who’s never seen it before. Put you
work in front of fresh eyes of all ages to get a different
perspective on what you’re doing. The feedback will
help you hone in on a more lucrative direction.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Avoiding sadness today
is like standing in the ocean and avoiding wetness.
Sadness (like joy, excitement, frustration, trepidation,
curiosity ...) is part and parcel with the experience of
the day. It will quickly wash over you.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The question is not whether
you’re better off than you were. That thought journey
has the potential to meander high and low but
ultimately will lead straight into a wall. The thought
journey you want to go on begins with “What now?”
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’re not afraid of
responsibility, and when you commit yourself, you go
all in. Somehow, making up your mind to do a thing
reduces your fear. It’s like each action you choose
comes with a side order of courage.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ll find it interesting
when people you’ve known for a long time have a
different recollection than you do about your shared
history. Perhaps both versions are equally valid.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re so respectful
and appreciative of even the most accessible joys
because you know that sometimes a lot more work
goes into presenting them than most people would
guess.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Modesty isn’t always
about what you say; it’s often a move that comes
before that — the avoidance of being spotlighted at
all. A low profile will keep you in the good graces of
humility.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 14). Your life will be
lush with mutual appreciation. Your love is like Mir-
acle-Gro. Those you nurture will thrive, and it’s your
pleasure to watch this happen. Highlights to come
include travel done in style, a group effort to launch
your project and the happy resolution to what was
an ongoing conflict. Capricorn and Aquarius adore
you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 4, 39, 22 and 18.