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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, NOVEMBER 19, 2018 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Is it too late for an obituary? Dear Annie: I have a work way to commit to record some- colleague whose married son one’s life when the person has died about six months ago of passed on to the next. Addition- ally, according to a 2017 Niel- cancer. His son was in his 40s. My friend is upset that his sen Scarborough study, 69 per- son’s wife never put an obitu- cent of adults in the U.S. read ary in the newspaper. Seeing as the newspaper, so it’s an ideal it is still bothering him, medium for reaching DEAR I said he should put one the community. There in the paper himself. most likely are some ANNIE But he thinks it is too people who knew his late now. son at one point but It seems as if more fell out of contact and and more people are just would not otherwise posting funeral informa- know of his death. tion on social media and Encourage your friend not putting it in newspa- to contact the local Lane pers. I understand why Annie paper about submitting Creators Syndicate Inc. he wants it in the news- an obituary commem- paper, as it would cre- orating the life of his ate more of a permanent record beloved son. of his son’s passing. Although, Dear Annie: I have been I realize that posting on social a faithful reader of this col- media is easier and gets to the umn for some time and have appropriate audience. Your never seen the subject of para- thoughts? Should he put it in noid personality disorder here. I the newspaper even six months was diagnosed with depression later, or is it too late? — Are many years ago, but it was only Obituaries Over? recently that PPD was diag- Dear Are Obituaries nosed. When I Googled para- Over?: It’s never too late to noid personality disorder, I was honor our loved ones. Despite shocked to see that I match the the ubiquity of social media, disorder symptom for symptom. printing an obituary in the That explains why I have been newspaper remains the best paranoid and angry for so long. I am now estranged from most of my family and friends. After constantly having to put up with my suspicious nature and anger, they have disowned me, including my husband, who divorced me. My kids don’t want anything to do with me, and I am not allowed to see my grandchildren. I feel helpless to fight for them to be back in my life, because I have hurt them greatly. If I tried to explain that it was this mental illness that made me act that way, they might be even more apprehensive of me. I sus- pected everyone in my life to be my enemy, and in the end, that’s what everyone became. Could you please let your readers know what the symp- toms of paranoid personality disorder are and that there are support groups available online? — My Own Worst Enemy Dear Own Worst Enemy: I am so sorry that this disorder has cost you so much. I am glad to hear you’ve found some sup- port, and I hope things improve for you in time. Thank you for opening up and sharing your experience here so that others might learn from it. 5A By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Like most people, you unconsciously seek out what you believe might heal the wounds of the past. Unlike most people, you wake up midreach to question your own motives. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your areas of deep sensitivity and feeling needn’t be quite so protected in light of your choice to be in environments that support you fully. So you can let your guard down a bit. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What if you knew that your belief in someone was the essential ingredient that would allow that person to grow into who he or she wanted to be? Act as if this is so, and you’ll bring magic to your world. CANCER (June 22-July 22). To need security is only natural. Those who’ve had it don’t think about this as much as those who’ve been without it. When things shake up a little, it’s good, but no one wants to live like every day is an earthquake. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Believe your heart. Listen to what it tells you. It’s OK to feel that you’re somehow lacking, even though the picture looks about right. This could be about people being there for you, but not in the way that you need. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It’s safe to move forward. It still could turn out to be a prickly arrangement, but you can handle it, and besides, there is opportunity in that, too. Such challenges will build emotional muscle tone. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Turbulence isn’t passion, but it might look like it to some- one who doesn’t know better. The excitement of conflict produces similar symptoms, so it’s a fair mistake, but one you don’t have time for today. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Though you may not say that you approve of yourself, it shows in your every action today. You’ve a comfort level, a confidence, and all you do will be congruent with your inner drive. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Communicating well starts with a feeling that you can — that no one is going to leave or get too upset if you bring up an uncomfortable truth. Your success in re- lationships will be due in part to the emotional maturity of all involved. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll rely on ma- chines, and your life will be better for it as long as you remember that machines can’t think. Rather, they make deductions based on data. Bring your considerable intuition and emotional insight to the equation, too. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). A touch of fantasy can be excellent for relationships, but when fantasy becomes the preferred mode, the re- lationship never gets a chance to thrive. Avoid the dynamic of needing to save or be saved. TODAY’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 20). You enjoy making people happy, but it’s really not your job to please the world. Drop that idea, and suddenly a healthier set of priorities and boundaries begins to shuffle up your life. At first it seems that it’s your turn to be happy, and then you realize you don’t have to take turns. You get your needs met on a daily basis. Leo and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 4, 44, 48 and 16. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Extreme indepen- dence is an illusion. People need interaction to survive. Don’t be fooled by someone who seems fine as a solo act. Even introverts bene- fit from fellowship, however awkward it may be. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE
