THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, NOVEMBER 19, 2018
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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
Is it too late for an obituary?
Dear Annie: I have a work way to commit to record some-
colleague whose married son one’s life when the person has
died about six months ago of passed on to the next. Addition-
ally, according to a 2017 Niel-
cancer. His son was in his 40s.
My friend is upset that his sen Scarborough study, 69 per-
son’s wife never put an obitu- cent of adults in the U.S. read
ary in the newspaper. Seeing as the newspaper, so it’s an ideal
it is still bothering him,
medium for reaching
DEAR
I said he should put one
the community. There
in the paper himself.
most likely are some
ANNIE
But he thinks it is too
people who knew his
late now.
son at one point but
It seems as if more
fell out of contact and
and more people are just
would not otherwise
posting funeral informa-
know of his death.
tion on social media and
Encourage your friend
not putting it in newspa-
to contact the local
Lane
pers. I understand why Annie
paper about submitting
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
he wants it in the news-
an obituary commem-
paper, as it would cre-
orating the life of his
ate more of a permanent record beloved son.
of his son’s passing. Although,
Dear Annie: I have been
I realize that posting on social a faithful reader of this col-
media is easier and gets to the umn for some time and have
appropriate audience. Your never seen the subject of para-
thoughts? Should he put it in noid personality disorder here. I
the newspaper even six months was diagnosed with depression
later, or is it too late? — Are many years ago, but it was only
Obituaries Over?
recently that PPD was diag-
Dear
Are
Obituaries nosed. When I Googled para-
Over?: It’s never too late to noid personality disorder, I was
honor our loved ones. Despite shocked to see that I match the
the ubiquity of social media, disorder symptom for symptom.
printing an obituary in the That explains why I have been
newspaper remains the best paranoid and angry for so long.
I am now estranged from
most of my family and friends.
After constantly having to put
up with my suspicious nature
and anger, they have disowned
me, including my husband, who
divorced me. My kids don’t
want anything to do with me,
and I am not allowed to see my
grandchildren.
I feel helpless to fight for
them to be back in my life,
because I have hurt them greatly.
If I tried to explain that it was
this mental illness that made me
act that way, they might be even
more apprehensive of me. I sus-
pected everyone in my life to be
my enemy, and in the end, that’s
what everyone became.
Could you please let your
readers know what the symp-
toms of paranoid personality
disorder are and that there are
support groups available online?
— My Own Worst Enemy
Dear Own Worst Enemy:
I am so sorry that this disorder
has cost you so much. I am glad
to hear you’ve found some sup-
port, and I hope things improve
for you in time. Thank you for
opening up and sharing your
experience here so that others
might learn from it.
5A
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Like most people,
you unconsciously seek out what you believe
might heal the wounds of the past. Unlike most
people, you wake up midreach to question your
own motives.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Your areas of
deep sensitivity and feeling needn’t be quite
so protected in light of your choice to be in
environments that support you fully. So you can
let your guard down a bit.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What if you knew
that your belief in someone was the essential
ingredient that would allow that person to
grow into who he or she wanted to be? Act
as if this is so, and you’ll bring magic to your
world.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). To need security
is only natural. Those who’ve had it don’t think
about this as much as those who’ve been
without it. When things shake up a little, it’s
good, but no one wants to live like every day is
an earthquake.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Believe your
heart. Listen to what it tells you. It’s OK to feel
that you’re somehow lacking, even though the
picture looks about right. This could be about
people being there for you, but not in the way
that you need.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It’s safe
to move forward. It still could turn out to be a
prickly arrangement, but you can handle it, and
besides, there is opportunity in that, too. Such
challenges will build emotional muscle tone.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Turbulence
isn’t passion, but it might look like it to some-
one who doesn’t know better. The excitement
of conflict produces similar symptoms, so it’s
a fair mistake, but one you don’t have time for
today.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Though you
may not say that you approve of yourself, it
shows in your every action today. You’ve a
comfort level, a confidence, and all you do will
be congruent with your inner drive.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Communicating well
starts with a feeling that you can — that no one
is going to leave or get too upset if you bring
up an uncomfortable truth. Your success in re-
lationships will be due in part to the emotional
maturity of all involved.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll rely on ma-
chines, and your life will be better for it as long
as you remember that machines can’t think.
Rather, they make deductions based on data.
Bring your considerable intuition and emotional
insight to the equation, too.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). A touch of fantasy
can be excellent for relationships, but when
fantasy becomes the preferred mode, the re-
lationship never gets a chance to thrive. Avoid
the dynamic of needing to save or be saved.
TODAY’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 20). You enjoy
making people happy, but it’s really not your
job to please the world. Drop that idea, and
suddenly a healthier set of priorities and
boundaries begins to shuffle up your life. At
first it seems that it’s your turn to be happy, and
then you realize you don’t have to take turns.
You get your needs met on a daily basis. Leo
and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are:
8, 4, 44, 48 and 16.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Extreme indepen-
dence is an illusion. People need interaction
to survive. Don’t be fooled by someone who
seems fine as a solo act. Even introverts bene-
fit from fellowship, however awkward it may be.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
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ROSE IS ROSE