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6A FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Husband torn apart by adultery Dear Annie: Many years ago, I business. We had a suite on the sec- was in the U.S. military. I was sent to ond level and rented it to a single Southeast Asia and served three six- man. One time, I returned early and month tours. On my last tour, I sus- found him coming out of my bed- pected my wife had an affair, but I room in my robe. That was all I could had no proof. While I was in train- take. I filed for legal separation and ing for a job after I was released moved back to our home state. from active duty, I heard After five years of legal DEAR that my wife had spent the separation, I met a widow night with one of the men who was a bit younger than ANNIE from the base. I confronted I was and asked my ex to her, but she lied to me; her file for divorce. We had good friend eventually told been married for over 40 me the truth. I believe she years. I knew she couldn’t was faithful to me after that support herself, so I gave for maybe 15 years. But our her several thousand dol- lars a month and all the cash relationship was strained. Lane investments I had. There was passion, but there Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. My second wife and I was always that element of have been together now for distrust. One day, I returned from a busi- over 15 years. She insists I have no ness trip in the middle of the night communication with my ex. It has two days early and went to the low- been very hard to persuade the ex er-level guest room to sleep. That to not communicate. We had a son, morning, the phone rang. I picked it who is now deceased. His children, up, and she was on the phone with a my grandchildren, do not know man. I heard him describing things the truth. They blame me for the he wanted to do to her that night. I divorce. I have not told them all the went to her bedroom and told her sordid details and probably never what I had heard. She repented. I will. They do not care to have a rela- tionship with me. forgave again. Five years later, I bought us a I write this in hopes that some- house in another state. I had to go one who has experienced a similar back to our home state every other case of dishonor will recognize the month for two to three weeks for situation and get counseling for the wayward spouse and himself or her- self to salvage their family and their relationship. — Still in Misery in Missouri Dear Still in Misery: Thank you for being so vulnerable in shar- ing this to help others. But it’s not too late to help yourself. I would encourage you to take a more proac- tive — rather than reactive — role in your relationships and life. For instance, it does sound as if it is wise for you to keep your dis- tance from your ex-wife, as toxic relationships have a way of retain- ing their potency long after their end. However, if you don’t talk to her, it should be because you recog- nize it’s healthiest for you not to, not because your current wife forbids it. Also, if your grandchildren are adults now, you might try writing them letters expressing your side of the story. No sordid details are needed. Just tell them that things aren’t so cut-and-dried as they seem and that you wish you could be closer to them. You’ve got nothing to lose by saying that much. Lastly, I hope you yourself are currently in counseling, as there is understandably a lot of emotional scar tissue from everything that’s happened. Perhaps you and your wife could go together. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, NOVEMBER 14, 2018 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your social savvy will serve you nicely. You’ll know when someone is lying or telling the truth. You’ll build on the truth and leave the lies alone, as those aren’t worth chasing. They’ll spin in circles and collapse on their own. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). The thing that used to keep you from doing what you felt like doing no longer applies to your situation. You’re free, if you want to be. Go be a part of whatever is pushing or pulling your forward. Get the experience. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). If ideas were stars, there’s one that’s your North Star right now, constant and bright. Follow faithfully and you won’t have to be worried that you’re going in circles. Keep your eye on it, and you’ll know where you are. CANCER (June 22-July 22). In some areas you may feel too inexperienced to help another, but even a 5-year-old has something to teach a 4-year-old, if not those much, much older. Don’t underestimate the value of your observations. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). In movies, the devil shows up bearing gifts, but he always winds up taking much more than he gave. “A fool judges people by the presents they give him.” — Chi- nese proverb. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Who would savor disappointment? For starters, it’s not savory. In fact, it often tastes bitter. But if you can stomach it, a closer examination of a past disappoint- ment will absolutely prevent a future one. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). It’s very easy to sing the praises of people so far away (physically distant, famous or dead) that they can’t possibly be proven unworthy of the accolades. But the good reputation of our nearest and dearest is FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE hard earned. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). As you think more about it, you may not be so sure that what you want will really satisfy you. Take a short pause before transactions. An honest moment of self-reflection will save you money and trouble. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). As fun as it would be to be the primary controller of the uni- verse, the challenge of the day will have to do with adapting to the fact that there’s an ample portion of life that can’t be bent to human will. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The conflict is in each side wishing the other would behave differently, a wish that is basically useless today. Accepting the other person’s behavior and building on it ... that’s the start of productivity. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). When the struggle is about being “good” or “bad,” it’s an opportunity to consider the unmet needs at play. There’s something you need that makes the “bad” thing so appealing, and it could be filled in less risky or harmful ways. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll feel it’s unnecessary, but speak up and be assertive anyway just to make your presence known. There’s a balance to be struck. You want people to feel comfortable around you but not so com- fortable they’re inconsiderate. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 15). Count this among your more ambitious and curious years. You’ll be driven to move beyond the many things you already do well. Highlights include: the resources necessary to explore new avenues, a perfect application for obscure talents and knowledge, and the assemblage of a tight team to do lucrative work. Libra and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 2, 33, 24, 16 and 9.
