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6A FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Invited, invited, invited, not invited Dear Annie: A former my husband should keep in touch co-worker of my husband’s invited with him. Am I being unreason- us to his son’s wedding. We received able? — Steamed in Connecticut Dear Steamed: Goodness. the usual “save the date” card one year prior to the ceremony. For the Months of incessant phone calls and whole year, he asked us whether confirmations and then a last-min- we would be attending every other ute cancellation after all that back- and-forth — this man week. About six months DEAR sounds like a ball of ner- before the wedding, my vous energy, wound up husband’s contract was not ANNIE tighter than an eight-day renewed, and he was tem- porarily unemployed. The clock. His wife doesn’t co-worker still kept ask- sound much better. ing us whether we would Though I understand be coming, and when we your taking offense, I received the actual invita- wouldn’t take it person- ally. This has everything tion in the mail, he called Lane to do with them and noth- practically every day to Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. ing to do with you two. If ask us to send in the card your husband wishes to to let him know we would be attending and what our din- continue talking to them, that’s his ner selections were. He then called choice (though I would advise him and asked us whether we wanted to that any plans he and this man make stay overnight in one of the rooms should be entered into the datebook he had reserved for guests at a local with pencil, not ink). You’re not hotel. This was two weeks before obligated to be friends with them. the wedding. After we declined the But there’s also no point in staying room invitation, he called us back angry with them. Let off that steam and told us that his wife didn’t think before it burns you. we should come to the wedding Dear Annie: Recently, you because my husband was unem- printed a letter from “Crying ployed and it would be a hardship Grandma.” I agree wholeheartedly for us to come. He still calls our that she needs to seek counseling of house as if nothing ever happened. I her own to identify why she made was totally insulted and do not think such an egregious error in judgment. With that being said, I see it as an opportunity to address a real issue happening in the educational system that you lightly touched on. Many children are inappropri- ately diagnosed with attention defi- cit hyperactivity disorder for a vari- ety of reasons. Parents, schools and doctors alike believe that bet- ter diagnostic tools have opened the floodgates in identifying stu- dents who need medication. This is far from the truth. For example, when a child can’t read, that begins to cause anxiety, and it is often mis- interpreted as ADHD. The majority of children experiencing symptoms at school are doing so because of a language-based learning disability. About 1 in 5 students have such a disability. Dyslexia is the most com- mon one. The bottom line is that parents need to request a complete and thor- ough neuropsychological exam- ination that is conducted by a team that has experience assessing lan- guage-based learning disabilities. This is only the tip of the iceberg, but it is a step in the right direction. Often there is something else going on that doesn’t require medication. — Dawn W. Dear Dawn: Well said. Thanks for writing. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 13, 2018 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You remember difficult times, who helped you out of them and who put you in them. Where it gets really compli- cated is when both categories point to the same person. You’re still figuring out how to place your trust. Take your time. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Science has proven via brain scans that it actually gives people pleasure to be nice. So let someone be nice to you without feeling guilty or moving to immedi- ately repay the favor. Relax and let the pleasure sink in for all. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ve changed. It was that book you read, that friend you hung out with, that food you started eating regularly. One of those things changed you — no, all of them did — which inspires you to keep choosing excellent influences. CANCER (June 22-July 22). The information you receive will have many levels. It may be only mildly interesting or useful until you get a little deeper. Seek clarity. A good teacher won’t mind when you ask for specifics. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The project is getting costly and taking a lot longer than you thought it would. You’re starting to wonder if it’s worth what you’re putting in. Don’t worry. A hefty return on investment will come once you finish the work and clear the path. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’re better at compartmentalizing than most, and this has allowed you to keep going and reap the benefits of perseverance. Now it’s time to get back into some of those “compartments” and remember what you stowed there. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Don’t get overly concerned about how you’re coming off around people who already know you. It’s how you make FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE them feel about themselves that matters. Your image plays but a minor and indirect role in this. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). All that you’ve done has been for particular reasons. They were the best decisions you could make given what you had to work with, and you’ve had many good re- sults. Commit to learning more and trust yourself. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). To be truly effective in carrying the mantle of leadership, you have to model the program you represent. Walk it, talk it, live it. People will follow you not because of what you represent but because of who you are. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Those who badly fear mistakes will only take the safest ac- tions, bringing as little of themselves as possible to the task. A tolerance for mistakes will bring the best outcome. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). What if the power of a person were measured in joy? What would you do to get happier and simultaneously more influential over your world? Whatever it is, put it at the top of your list. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You would think that if each person took 50 percent responsibility for an outcome, then the task would be covered. But it won’t work that way. If it fails, they can blame each other. Each person has to take 100 percent of the responsibility. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 14). Rela- tionships improve across the board. It’s not that they were ailing, but they become more helpful, communicative, comfortable and fun. This touches every part of your life. Other highlights in the months to come include home improve- ments, an once-in-a-lifetime encounter and a free pass when you need it. Libra and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 1, 30, 12, 47 and 9.
