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FEATURES
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
Invited, invited, invited, not invited
Dear Annie: A former my husband should keep in touch
co-worker of my husband’s invited with him. Am I being unreason-
us to his son’s wedding. We received able? — Steamed in Connecticut
Dear Steamed: Goodness.
the usual “save the date” card one
year prior to the ceremony. For the Months of incessant phone calls and
whole year, he asked us whether confirmations and then a last-min-
we would be attending every other ute cancellation after all that back-
and-forth — this man
week. About six months
DEAR
sounds like a ball of ner-
before the wedding, my
vous energy, wound up
husband’s contract was not
ANNIE
tighter than an eight-day
renewed, and he was tem-
porarily unemployed. The
clock. His wife doesn’t
co-worker still kept ask-
sound much better.
ing us whether we would
Though I understand
be coming, and when we
your taking offense, I
received the actual invita-
wouldn’t take it person-
ally. This has everything
tion in the mail, he called
Lane
to do with them and noth-
practically every day to Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
ing to do with you two. If
ask us to send in the card
your husband wishes to
to let him know we would
be attending and what our din- continue talking to them, that’s his
ner selections were. He then called choice (though I would advise him
and asked us whether we wanted to that any plans he and this man make
stay overnight in one of the rooms should be entered into the datebook
he had reserved for guests at a local with pencil, not ink). You’re not
hotel. This was two weeks before obligated to be friends with them.
the wedding. After we declined the But there’s also no point in staying
room invitation, he called us back angry with them. Let off that steam
and told us that his wife didn’t think before it burns you.
we should come to the wedding
Dear Annie: Recently, you
because my husband was unem- printed a letter from “Crying
ployed and it would be a hardship Grandma.” I agree wholeheartedly
for us to come. He still calls our that she needs to seek counseling of
house as if nothing ever happened. I her own to identify why she made
was totally insulted and do not think such an egregious error in judgment.
With that being said, I see it as
an opportunity to address a real
issue happening in the educational
system that you lightly touched
on. Many children are inappropri-
ately diagnosed with attention defi-
cit hyperactivity disorder for a vari-
ety of reasons. Parents, schools
and doctors alike believe that bet-
ter diagnostic tools have opened
the floodgates in identifying stu-
dents who need medication. This
is far from the truth. For example,
when a child can’t read, that begins
to cause anxiety, and it is often mis-
interpreted as ADHD. The majority
of children experiencing symptoms
at school are doing so because of a
language-based learning disability.
About 1 in 5 students have such a
disability. Dyslexia is the most com-
mon one.
The bottom line is that parents
need to request a complete and thor-
ough neuropsychological exam-
ination that is conducted by a team
that has experience assessing lan-
guage-based learning disabilities.
This is only the tip of the iceberg,
but it is a step in the right direction.
Often there is something else going
on that doesn’t require medication.
— Dawn W.
Dear Dawn: Well said. Thanks
for writing.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, NOVEMBER 13, 2018
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). You remember
difficult times, who helped you out of them and
who put you in them. Where it gets really compli-
cated is when both categories point to the same
person. You’re still figuring out how to place your
trust. Take your time.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Science has proven
via brain scans that it actually gives people
pleasure to be nice. So let someone be nice to
you without feeling guilty or moving to immedi-
ately repay the favor. Relax and let the pleasure
sink in for all.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ve changed. It
was that book you read, that friend you hung out
with, that food you started eating regularly. One of
those things changed you — no, all of them did
— which inspires you to keep choosing excellent
influences.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). The information
you receive will have many levels. It may be only
mildly interesting or useful until you get a little
deeper. Seek clarity. A good teacher won’t mind
when you ask for specifics.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The project is getting
costly and taking a lot longer than you thought it
would. You’re starting to wonder if it’s worth what
you’re putting in. Don’t worry. A hefty return on
investment will come once you finish the work
and clear the path.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’re better at
compartmentalizing than most, and this has
allowed you to keep going and reap the benefits
of perseverance. Now it’s time to get back into
some of those “compartments” and remember
what you stowed there.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Don’t get overly
concerned about how you’re coming off around
people who already know you. It’s how you make
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LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
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WIZARD OF ID
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ROSE IS ROSE
them feel about themselves that matters. Your
image plays but a minor and indirect role in this.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). All that you’ve done
has been for particular reasons. They were the
best decisions you could make given what you
had to work with, and you’ve had many good re-
sults. Commit to learning more and trust yourself.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). To be truly
effective in carrying the mantle of leadership, you
have to model the program you represent. Walk it,
talk it, live it. People will follow you not because of
what you represent but because of who you are.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Those who
badly fear mistakes will only take the safest ac-
tions, bringing as little of themselves as possible
to the task. A tolerance for mistakes will bring the
best outcome.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). What if the power
of a person were measured in joy? What would
you do to get happier and simultaneously more
influential over your world? Whatever it is, put it at
the top of your list.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You would think
that if each person took 50 percent responsibility
for an outcome, then the task would be covered.
But it won’t work that way. If it fails, they can
blame each other. Each person has to take 100
percent of the responsibility.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 14). Rela-
tionships improve across the board. It’s not that
they were ailing, but they become more helpful,
communicative, comfortable and fun. This
touches every part of your life. Other highlights
in the months to come include home improve-
ments, an once-in-a-lifetime encounter and a
free pass when you need it. Libra and Capricorn
adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 1, 30, 12,
47 and 9.