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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, OCTOBER 30, 2018 FEATURES His girls come first before her Dear Annie: I’ve been dating month later. It was also my birth- a gentle, kind and loving man for day. We discussed doing some- a while. He goes to church, con- thing together for my birthday and stantly reads his Bible and plays then having dessert with my par- Christian music. We get along great. ents so I could see my dad for a We have conversations for hours, bit. His daughters decided to cook and we laugh and cry together. But lunch for him at noon, which was fine with me, as we could the problem is that he is so DEAR still be at my parents’ place close to his three grown by 3 or 4 in the afternoon daughters, especially his ANNIE for dessert and my birth- youngest, that I feel com- pletely left out at times. day cake. When we were For instance, we with his daughters, the recently went out to dinner, time kept passing, and and his youngest daugh- nothing was said. I finally ter happened to come into asked him when we would the restaurant. We had not be going. He told me that Lane been dating long at that Annie no woman would inter- Creators Syndicate Inc. fere with his relationship point, and I was used to with his daughters and that him looking at me as we sat across from each other. She came in he was not going to tell them that and sat down beside him, and that he had plans. I reminded him that was the end of our date. He turned we had made an agreement to see in his chair to face her and talked my parents. His only response was and smiled at her the whole time. that his girls will always come first. His smile was bigger than I had I also told him they are old enough ever seen. It was almost like watch- to understand that we have to share ing a schoolboy with his new girl. him. He still refused. But they had just had lunch together Is this a red flag, or am I being the day before. They have lunch selfish? His daughters are 22, 38 together at least three times a week. and 40. I forgot to mention that the He was ignoring me so much, with youngest daughter left after an hour his attention centered only on her, to spend time with her mom and that it was extremely awkward. stepdad and her boyfriend and his Father’s Day came about a dad. — Are Red Flags Flying High? Dear Red Flags: It sounds as if you two are ships sailing in completely different directions. You began your letter by saying that you are in a relationship with a gentle, kind and loving man, but your stories about him show that his gentle, kind and loving side is reserved for his daughters, espe- cially the youngest, even if it is at your expense. Seeing as he clearly stated that his girls come first and you don’t like that — understand- ably — it is probably time to move on. Dear Annie: This is in response to “On My Own in Georgia,” who regrets not having children. This woman should check out the schools in her city. There are so many children who could bene- fit from her knowledge. There are also boys and girls clubs that could use her knowledge and wisdom. My husband and I could not have children, so we adopted a 5-year- old boy from Korea. I would do it again. — No Regrets Dear No Regrets: I’m happy to print this letter, as it’s great advice. A 2016 report by the Stanford Center on Longevity found that children and older adults benefit equally and greatly from spending time together. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Patience is a flat- tering emotion. It looks good on everyone, and it especially suits you today. Halloween alter ego: Your warrior spirit could shine through Jon Snow or Daenerys Targaryen. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). A loved one will lean on you, and you’ll likely be glad for the op- portunity to be of service. Halloween alter ego: A character from the cartoon “Bob’s Burgers” speaks to the bovine in you. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Today’s main feature will arrive with a humble presence and continue to grow in importance. Halloween al- ter ego: A couple’s costume is the ideal for the twins, for instance, the two sides of an Oreo or a pair of sneakers. CANCER (June 22-July 22). No one is expecting you to fix all the problems, only to make facing them a little less lonely. Hallow- een alter ego: A seaside classic is perfect for the crab. Consider the realm of mermaids or “SpongeBob SquarePants.” or a famous judge would be ideal. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Expect big things from those in your inner circle. Hallow- een alter ego: A character from a Halloween movie such as the classic monster Michael Myers or Mavis from “Hotel Transylvania.” SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ll notice a change in your reasons for doing a job. Hal- loween alter ego: You will be most satisfyingly complete with a group costume. For instance, going out as the cast of “Stranger Things.” CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You will upgrade yourself in small but meaningful incre- ments. You identify with the intelligent forces of the universe so your Halloween alter ego is perfectly aligned with Einstein or Edna from “The Incredibles.” AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). There is magic in your voice, so speak up. You’re likely to influence a decision or make a difference. Hal- loween alter ego: a game character such as Brite Bomber or Dark Voyager from “Fortnite.” LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When you believe something is going to be easy, you make it easy for yourself. So think a good thought, and then open the door. Halloween alter ego: Black Panther, Hello Kitty or any number of feline options. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). If you step back and throw up your hands, you’ll be amazed at how things sort themselves out. Halloween alter ego: A peaceful mood prevails, pointing costume options toward a gentle unicorn or a Bob Ross painting. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Loved ones are the best at pushing your buttons because experience has taught them where said buttons are. Halloween alter ego: an earthy nurturer like Mother Earth, Little Bo Peep or Farmer John. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 31). Dream big because the smooth way life runs will make this one of your best years, espe- cially if there’s a shining goal to slide toward. The things that are not aligned with who you really are get uncomfortable, and you either shake them off or find an adjustment to make your life work better. Capricorn and Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 2, 22, 19 and 40. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Kindness and acceptance are not only virtues; they are your most useful habits. Halloween alter ego: A political character like lawyer Saul Goodman FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE
