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6A FEATURES Annoyed at a band concert Dear Annie: I had something ushers around to help. I was amazed happen this weekend and am won- someone could be so inconsiderate. dering what the solution should Should we all have had to stand have been and who was in the right. up the whole time? I didn’t think My friend and I flew to San Diego that would have been fair to the from Indianapolis for a fabulous people behind us. This concert was concert featuring three great bands. attended by mainly “older people,” We spent quite a bit for our baby boomers. What do DEAR tickets, flights, hotel, car, you think? Is it OK to stand etc. the whole time for a con- ANNIE Unfortunately, there cert? — Baffled and Hurt was a woman sitting in Dear Baffled: The short front of us who stood the answer is that it depends. entire time (except for The long answer involves maybe the last 30 minutes considering a few factors. — probably because she First is the type of music. was so drunk). She danced It would be bizarre to stand Lane and flailed about. She was Annie at a symphony, but it would Creators Syndicate Inc. blocking three people’s be almost as odd to sit for view. The concert was 5½ a DJ playing dance music. hours long. Second is the seating arrange- After the last band had played a ments. If seats aren’t assigned and couple of songs, I tapped her on the people are free to move around, back and patiently said, “You prob- obstructing someone’s view by ably don’t realize it, but when you standing might still be rude, but it’s stand up, you are blocking three not the slap in the face it would be if people’s view.” She said, “Too bad.” the person were stuck there. I said, “We spent a lot of money on Third (and most important) is these seats and would like to be able what the people around you are to use them.” She said, “So did I.” doing. If most of your neighbors I said, “We flew halfway across the are standing, stand (or sit, but don’t country for this.” She said, “So did spend all night glowering about I, and I’ll stand up if I want to. I it); if most of them are sitting, sit. don’t care if you all can see or not. Attending a concert is a social expe- Not my problem.” There were no rience, and sometimes you just have to go along to get along. The best audience members, like the best performers, know how to read a room. Dear Annie: I can relate to “Love Is the Answer,” who does not want to visit loved ones when they are in pain or dying. I have a very strong visual and auditory memory. I can describe my elementary class- rooms and classmates of 50-plus years ago in great detail, right down to the bulletin boards the teacher put up and who mispronounced “syn- onym” as “cinnamon.” And while I remember many happy times with my parents, the memories of their physical declines and the sounds of their final breaths are painfully clear, as well. I’ve been accused of shelter- ing myself too much for avoiding experiences that I feel would be too intense. The truth is, visual and audi- tory memories stay with me forever, so I need to protect myself when I can. Others may see it as refusing to face reality, but it is actually men- tal self-preservation. — Out of Sight but Never Out of Mind Dear Out of Sight: I was unaware that some people have such intense sensory memories. Thanks for adding even more depth to this conversation. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, OCTOBER 24, 2018 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). You know what you can do, and you’re confident in that. Since you don’t need others to validate your worth, you may forget to validate theirs. But here’s the thing. Other people need to hear it. Give acknowledgment freely. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Look around and you’ll notice that this place wasn’t in your life plan. In fact, you couldn’t have imagined you’d be here, and now it seems like the most natural fit that could be. Trust that fortune will favor you similarly in the future. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). People open up to you whether you want them to or not. You’ll hear secrets. You’ll hear stories that don’t make sense. But that’s OK. You’ll form an opinion based on what you feel, not what you understand. CANCER (June 22-July 22). While it would be foolish to launch your ship straight into a storm, it’s also true that there’s always a storm out there somewhere. Those who wait for calm seas everywhere will never launch. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The meal can start a lot of ways — with soup, a salad, a cheese platter — but it almost never starts with candy. Maximum sweetness is something to work up to because there’s nowhere to go from there. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). A fun friend would be thrilled to monopolize your after- noon, and if you take this route, you’ll have the kind of good time that will make you wonder why you didn’t do it sooner. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Would you rather be weak and look strong or be strong and look weak? Don’t answer — you’re too smart to commit to one look. You play each situation as needed, and you let neither FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE pride nor modesty get in the way. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). What looks pretty in pictures may only be happening in the instant of a camera click. Can it be sus- tained over time? This remains to be seen. Keep the principle in mind while you peruse today’s images of so-called real life. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You know that you are enough just as you are. You don’t have to prove yourself by showing what you can do or spending lavishly. If you chose to do these things, it will be out of enjoyment, not insecurity. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Those on the inside seem to know more than those on the outside, but this is only a social illusion. You can be a part of any group you want to be a part of today. Introduce yourself. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re building something new. Without firm, hard, strong principles, this thing can’t stand. You also need open clearings for light, air, and a good flow of people and ideas to come in and out. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Someone who believes in you and encourages you —this is no small luxury to have in your life. Many never get this and live without feeling particularly understood or valued. Celebrate your supporters. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 25). The solar year will be marked by your determi- nation and tenacity. You’ll apply it mostly to things outside of the personal realm, and your love life and relationships will naturally fall into place. Know what your work is worth and be sure to charge that and you’ll be well on your way to a financial goal in 2019. Gemini and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 39, 29, 48, 13 and 20.
