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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, OCTOBER 18, 2018 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Do parents need to know? Dear Annie: I wrote to parents held your documents you several months ago. I’m hostage before, I think you’d “Trapped by Parents.” I have be wise to keep your plans to a disability that has caused yourself for the time being. me to have great difficulty You are an adult, and you do in both obtaining and retain- not have to disclose your every ing jobs. The resulting lack of decision to your parents, espe- cially when it would income has forced me DEAR very likely create fur- to live with my par- ther tension and strife ents. My parents are ANNIE for everyone involved. obsessed with the It’s not dishonesty; it’s idea that employment privacy. Perhaps you is the only answer. can be more open with Yet many others have them in the future, once suggested that I apply you are settled and have for Social Security established healthy Disability Insurance. Lane boundaries. Best of luck My parents have the Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. with your hearing. key to the safe-de- posit box with the Dear Readers: needed documents and have Recently, I printed a letter from been refusing to let me access “Paulie,” who wonders why it. I took your advice and qui- people sometimes say “I apol- etly ordered my own copies ogize” instead of “I’m sorry.” through the relevant agencies. She thinks the former is less Meanwhile, I have applied for sincere than the latter. I told her disability and will soon have a that I was sure I’d hear from a hearing. Should I be successful lot of readers on this subject, in obtaining it, do you have any and hear I did. The following suggestions about how to tell are a few different takes on the my parents? — Behind Their topic. Backs Longtime teacher: As Dear Behind: The best a schoolteacher for 28-plus prophet of the future is the past, years, I always tried to get chil- and considering the way your dren to own their responsibil- 5A By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ity in situations and “apolo- gize” or say “I’m sorry.” And I reminded the person who was receiving the apology not to say “it’s OK” but instead to say “I appreciate your apol- ogy, but I’ll believe that you mean it when you change your actions.” Words are nice, but they’re meaningless unless the individual truly shows he or she is sorry by choosing not to repeat the offense. JSH: I grew up in the rural South. The word “sorry” was sometimes used to reference someone who was considered lazy or unmotivated. For exam- ple, “a sorry, good-for-nothing slob.” So I was taught to use “I apologize” to make amends instead, as the word “sorry” carried a very different con- notation that one should not use to describe his or her own character. M. Brown: “Sorry” is an adjective; “apologize” is a verb. Linguistically, verbs are stronger than adjectives, because verbs state actions and adjectives just mod- ify nouns. So an act to “apol- ogize” conveys a stronger position than feeling “sorry.” ARIES (March 21-April 19). On the one hand you know what you must do, and on the other you just don’t feel like it. And getting your feelings aligned in the direction of your goals isn’t quite as easy as you’d like, but if you can do this, you can do anything. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Relationships should not be left unattended for too long. They are like gardens that, untended, will grow in strange directions or not at all. You care, so you’ll put the time in to make a thing beautiful. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It is each person’s responsibility to fill up the emotional tank. Do you know what you need? Today it’s physical exercise, professional fulfillment and interest- ing hobbies that will contribute most signifi- cantly to your well-being. CANCER (June 22-July 22). The luckiest thing you can do today is to go where you’ve never been. Don’t wait for someone you know to join you. Take yourself. Something as sim- ple as breathing different air will make a big difference to your mood. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Don’t be surprised if you get what you wanted and find out that it doesn’t stop the yearning. It’s just a sign that it wasn’t what you wanted after all. Strive to understand, in the deepest way, what you really need. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). People show and feel caring differently. The closer these match up, the happier the relationship will be. Chances are, someone is caring for you in ways you don’t recognize as care. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The outside world will feel like a dream. If this doesn’t suit your sensibility, turn to your inside world which is where you’ll feel most awake. There, discov- ery awaits you. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It would be nice to wake up feeling full of confidence, but it doesn’t always work that way. For instance, today it works like this: Someone believes in you and then you start believing in yourself more, too. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). People will inspire you with their stories and maybe you’ll even start a program based on the inspiration. Know that things will happen differently for you because every person’s journey is differ- ent. Just focus on yours. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). It will be lucky to stimulate your mind with challenges not found at home. You don’t know what ex- actly these challenges will be, and you don’t have to seek them either. Just go out into the world and they’ll be there for you. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re due an apology. Even though many of the mistakes that were made were unintentional, you still feel a deficit — like something has to be made right. Until this happens, there’s a sense of being incomplete. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). When you see it, you take pleasure in the happiness of others. You prefer to do this in person, as even the prettiest picture on social media can be secretly unhappy. You want to see the joy for yourself. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 19). The adventures will have higher stakes and bigger payoffs. It’s because you’ve established a cer- tain basis of trust between you and yours... and more importantly between you and you. Other delights of the solar return will include the sweet revenge of success, a moment of poetic justice and a fun purchase. Gemini and Cancer adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 30, 2, 22 and 28.
