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6A FEATURES Handling Alzheimer’s and invites Dear Annie: My father has late- ing, and we all felt better afterward stage Alzheimer’s and is in a nurs- because we had figured out how ing home. Do I send an invitation to help. She was surprised by how addressed to my dad and mom, my off-putting she can be to old play- mom alone or my mom plus one? I ers and new players and by how want to acknowledge the fact that he some have felt intimidated by her is still alive, but I don’t want to act citing rules and the proper way to play. The chairwoman has as if I have my head stuck in DEAR agreed to run the group the ground. I’m more inter- ested in respecting them as with changing weekly vol- ANNIE unteers to make things a couple and as individu- als than in formal etiquette. more fair and to help her. Without your excellent I appreciate any advice you input and advice, we most can offer. — Conflicted Daughter likely would have ended the Dear Conflicted group. Thank you again for Daughter: The very fact showing that honesty and Lane that you are writing this let- Annie working together are ways Creators Syndicate Inc. ter expressing your con- to resolution. We really cern shows that you are would have been stuck not an ostrich with your head stuck without your advice. — Happy and in the ground. Quite the opposite. Satisfied Golf Gal You are aware of everyone’s feel- Dear Golf Gal: Talk a hole- ings and want to respect them as a in-one! Your letter made my day. couple. Address the invitation to Thanks for the follow-up. I’m b about oth your mom and your thrilled my advice helped, but the dad. Though he might not be men- main kudos goes to you for using tally all there, he is still alive and honest, kind and open communi- thus deserving of the invitation. cation to solve what had become a Dear Annie: I wrote to you about serious problem in your golf circle. the falling-apart golf group for I always love hearing from read- ladies. We took your suggestion ers who have taken my advice, to about talking to the chairwoman see how it worked out, whether it about the issues. Four of us went to solved the problem or it made it speak to her. We were kind and car- worse. Readers: If you’ve ever taken my advice, please drop me a line. Dear Annie: I am writing in response to your suggestion to “Wants to Keep the Peace on Our Peaceful Road” to hang a sign on the portion of the street where speeding is not an issue. It sounds as though Sally the Sign Purchaser thinks that drivers need to bend to her will, versus thinking that she should be responsible for her pets and grandchildren. If I were her neighbor, I, too, would want to politely decline hanging up her sign. Let’s be real. Drivers understand the hazards of the road. A sign indi- cating that pets or children may be present is completely unnecessary. According to a survey conducted by the American Pet Products Asso- ciation, 68 percent of U.S. house- holds, or about 85 million fami- lies, own a pet. In 2012, according to census data, 66 percent of house- holds were family households. With percentages that high, a sign is not warranted. Sally needs to be the responsible one; her neighbors, their guests and others traveling in the neighborhood should not be going above and beyond for a careless and entitled neighbor. — Dawn W. Dear Dawn W.: Yes, per- haps I was a bit too sympathetic to the sign purchaser in my original response. Thank you for the data. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, OCTOBER 16, 2018 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Since most work will be done by, through and with the cooperation of people, anything you do to enhance your individual effectiveness will positively impact the performance of the entire team. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You can theorize all the livelong day, but you’ll never know what will happen until you try it out in real life. Your cosmic gift of the day is the guts to jump in and put your ideas to the test. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There are things important enough to do whatever the odds are of succeeding. When it’s a matter of right and wrong, the odds are irrelevant. As for the rest, it’s only smart to look at the statistics. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Unless you disrupt the tendency, you’ll drift into a comfortable pattern. This may not be a bad thing; it just depends on what you really want for yourself and how badly you want it. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). People may wear a familiar face as they listen to you, but you never quite know how they are processing the information internally. That’s why it will be important to ask questions and be alert to cues. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). People work- ing things out together — it’s a form of love, or maybe it just is love. That’s what you’ll get today, and even better, you’ll appreciate it. Special connections: Gemini and Libra. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Pay attention to how other people pay attention. It will tell you what you need to know about how to plan your next move. There are no bad po- sitions, but there are some that are easier FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE to navigate than others. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You care about relationships more than you care about being right, and these things go together very, very well. Compassion, softness and tolerance are what will hold you in good stead today. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You needn’t fear the change that’s on the hori- zon. You’re adaptable, and you will quickly figure out what’s in it for you. It’s right to be a little selfish about this. You need to get a sure footing before you can help others. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Try and concentrate exclusively on what you want to happen. Giving any attention to what you don’t want will only diffuse your power to make good things happen. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The challenge on the table will take a certain amount of physical ability and a whole lot more brain-wringing concentration. You’re gifted in both areas, and you should have no problem. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Natural talent can only take a person so far. It is better not to rely on gifts and to instead put in the work, because then you know how to get results and you can repeat the process. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 17). It’s a nonstop learning process this year. As soon as you master one area, you’ll move on to the next. At this rate, you’ll soon be at the top of your field of interest. Other delights of the solar return will include a visit from afar, unexpectedly generous gifts sprinkled through the seasons and fun up- dates to your domestic scene. Gemini and Leo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 1, 27, 38 and 31.
