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Handling Alzheimer’s and invites
Dear Annie: My father has late- ing, and we all felt better afterward
stage Alzheimer’s and is in a nurs- because we had figured out how
ing home. Do I send an invitation to help. She was surprised by how
addressed to my dad and mom, my off-putting she can be to old play-
mom alone or my mom plus one? I ers and new players and by how
want to acknowledge the fact that he some have felt intimidated by her
is still alive, but I don’t want to act citing rules and the proper way to
play. The chairwoman has
as if I have my head stuck in
DEAR
agreed to run the group
the ground. I’m more inter-
ested in respecting them as
with changing weekly vol-
ANNIE
unteers to make things
a couple and as individu-
als than in formal etiquette.
more fair and to help her.
Without your excellent
I appreciate any advice you
input and advice, we most
can offer. — Conflicted
Daughter
likely would have ended the
Dear
Conflicted
group. Thank you again for
Daughter: The very fact
showing that honesty and
Lane
that you are writing this let- Annie
working together are ways
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
ter expressing your con-
to resolution. We really
cern shows that you are
would have been stuck
not an ostrich with your head stuck without your advice. — Happy and
in the ground. Quite the opposite. Satisfied Golf Gal
You are aware of everyone’s feel-
Dear Golf Gal: Talk a hole-
ings and want to respect them as a in-one! Your letter made my day.
couple. Address the invitation to Thanks for the follow-up. I’m
b about oth your mom and your thrilled my advice helped, but the
dad. Though he might not be men- main kudos goes to you for using
tally all there, he is still alive and honest, kind and open communi-
thus deserving of the invitation. cation to solve what had become a
Dear Annie: I wrote to you about serious problem in your golf circle.
the falling-apart golf group for I always love hearing from read-
ladies. We took your suggestion ers who have taken my advice, to
about talking to the chairwoman see how it worked out, whether it
about the issues. Four of us went to solved the problem or it made it
speak to her. We were kind and car- worse. Readers: If you’ve ever taken
my advice, please drop me a line.
Dear Annie: I am writing in response
to your suggestion to “Wants to Keep
the Peace on Our Peaceful Road” to
hang a sign on the portion of the
street where speeding is not an issue.
It sounds as though Sally the Sign
Purchaser thinks that drivers need
to bend to her will, versus thinking
that she should be responsible for
her pets and grandchildren. If I were
her neighbor, I, too, would want to
politely decline hanging up her sign.
Let’s be real. Drivers understand
the hazards of the road. A sign indi-
cating that pets or children may be
present is completely unnecessary.
According to a survey conducted
by the American Pet Products Asso-
ciation, 68 percent of U.S. house-
holds, or about 85 million fami-
lies, own a pet. In 2012, according
to census data, 66 percent of house-
holds were family households.
With percentages that high, a sign is
not warranted. Sally needs to be the
responsible one; her neighbors, their
guests and others traveling in the
neighborhood should not be going
above and beyond for a careless and
entitled neighbor. — Dawn W.
Dear Dawn W.: Yes, per-
haps I was a bit too sympathetic to
the sign purchaser in my original
response. Thank you for the data.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, OCTOBER 16, 2018
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Since most
work will be done by, through and with the
cooperation of people, anything you do to
enhance your individual effectiveness will
positively impact the performance of the
entire team.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You can
theorize all the livelong day, but you’ll never
know what will happen until you try it out
in real life. Your cosmic gift of the day is the
guts to jump in and put your ideas to the
test.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). There are
things important enough to do whatever
the odds are of succeeding. When it’s a
matter of right and wrong, the odds are
irrelevant. As for the rest, it’s only smart to
look at the statistics.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Unless
you disrupt the tendency, you’ll drift into a
comfortable pattern. This may not be a bad
thing; it just depends on what you really
want for yourself and how badly you want
it.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). People may wear
a familiar face as they listen to you, but you
never quite know how they are processing
the information internally. That’s why it will
be important to ask questions and be alert
to cues.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). People work-
ing things out together — it’s a form of love,
or maybe it just is love. That’s what you’ll
get today, and even better, you’ll appreciate
it. Special connections: Gemini and Libra.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Pay attention to
how other people pay attention. It will tell
you what you need to know about how to
plan your next move. There are no bad po-
sitions, but there are some that are easier
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
to navigate than others.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You care
about relationships more than you care
about being right, and these things go
together very, very well. Compassion,
softness and tolerance are what will hold
you in good stead today.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You
needn’t fear the change that’s on the hori-
zon. You’re adaptable, and you will quickly
figure out what’s in it for you. It’s right to be
a little selfish about this. You need to get a
sure footing before you can help others.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Try and
concentrate exclusively on what you want
to happen. Giving any attention to what you
don’t want will only diffuse your power to
make good things happen.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The
challenge on the table will take a certain
amount of physical ability and a whole lot
more brain-wringing concentration. You’re
gifted in both areas, and you should have
no problem.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Natural talent
can only take a person so far. It is better
not to rely on gifts and to instead put in the
work, because then you know how to get
results and you can repeat the process.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Oct. 17). It’s
a nonstop learning process this year. As
soon as you master one area, you’ll move
on to the next. At this rate, you’ll soon be
at the top of your field of interest. Other
delights of the solar return will include a
visit from afar, unexpectedly generous gifts
sprinkled through the seasons and fun up-
dates to your domestic scene. Gemini and
Leo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6,
1, 27, 38 and 31.