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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, AUGUST 3, 2018 FEATURES Suspicion of wife’s infidelity Dear Annie: My wife and I Since then, I have not been have been married for several able to regain communication with years. “Cindy” seemed to be “the Don. Calls have not been returned. one” — someone who completed As I thought more and more my life and truly loved me. about it, I realized that this didn’t However, at one point after we necessarily mean that Don was were married, I found out she was himself doing something — but receiving inappropriate it did seem likely that he DEAR emails from a co-worker. knew of something going She said they were on. ANNIE just jokes between two I got up the courage to “friends.” She insisted that confront my wife about she had never been physi- this conversation with cally unfaithful to me. She Don and basically got the also insists that there is no old brushoff. She couldn’t such thing as an “emo- recall any “recent” times tional affair.” of running into Don or any Lane I then ended up catch- Annie recent conversations. Creators Syndicate Inc. ing up with a friend of To make matters even mine, “Don,” on the phone. stranger, she keeps all her Don is usually extremely talkative. electronic devices locked with pass As soon as I brought up some con- codes, which she refuses to share cerns about my wife, the con- with me. I’ve given her the pass versation abruptly became very codes to all my devices. awkward. He began stammer- Why am I writing to you? I ing — making such comments as, guess it’s just to validate my feel- “Well, when a very pretty woman ings — to hear that I don’t deserve gets older and gets attention and this. And I’m hoping you can point compliments from other guys, she, me toward some type of solution. — Deja Vu All Over Again and uh, well ...” At that point, I stopped him and Again said, “Just what are you talking Dear Deja Vu: You have my about?” After a long pause, he said, validation. Something is definitely “I think that you’d be better off up with your wife. It may not have talking to your wife about this.” to do with Don, but there’s some- body, and it may not be physical, but it’s at least emotional. (There is such a thing as emotional cheat- ing, even if your wife doesn’t believe it.) At the very least, there is a communication breakdown between you two. Marriage coun- seling could provide you both with the tools you need to begin repair- ing your relationship. Dear Annie: Please refrain from using subjective labels — such as elderly, senior and aging — when referring to people over a certain age. These labels are loaded with negative stereotypes. How would you like to be called “elderly” if you were a healthy, vigorous and youthful-looking 75-year-old per- son? If a person is frail or infirm, then say the person is “medically frail.” And “aging” is a word that applies to every living entity from day one. The correct term for this demographic is “older adult.” Or better yet, just give their age (if it is relevant) and leave off the labels, just as you would not use labels for race, color, sexual orientation, etc., that carry negative connotations. — Oregon Reader Dear Oregon Reader: I try to be mindful of such things, but sometimes I slip up. Thank you for the reminder. Language matters. 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). It’s the perfect time to streamline. Cut out the unnecessary to make room for new energy to drop in. This applies across the board, from closets to rela- tionships to work. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Instead of seeing the world as good or bad, acceptable or not, try seeing it as “for me” or “not for me.” This leads to your own enjoyment or move- ment. It also leads to peace. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). This isn’t always going to be who you are. An exciting transfor- mation is underway. Even as you do what it takes to make your current life work, you are thinking of your next move. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Ask for feed- back, and encourage honesty. This means you have to be tough enough to take it and be demonstrably grateful for it, too. If you can achieve this, you’ll learn just what you need to know to take it to the next level. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). “That’s not for me”: Often you can confidently say this just from looking at whatever “that” is. But today you’ll come across possibilities that fall into a gray area. As long as they are not too expensive, be daring. You have to try new things to find your next favorite. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Imagine your dream partner telling you, “If you were mine, I would ...” and then fill in the blank. Now do that thing for yourself. It’s what you really deserve. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). An exciting turn of events is in the works, but this only benefits you if you are flexible enough to steer into the turn. It will require a fast decision and then the confidence to fully commit. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You may receive a compliment or two along with some validating signals that you’re on the right track. Do not relax. Avoid the tempta- tion to bask in your glory. Stay focused on improving. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). If you share a home with others, chances are you do not all require and enjoy the same food. Focus on your part of it. And whatever your living situation, it’s time to hone your diet without regard to outside influence. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Choosing whom to reach out to and possibly befriend is a crucial decision that will affect you for years to come. Ask yourself, “Is this someone I would like to be like?” AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). People have trusted you with the kind of information that, if leaked, could sink them. You may be tempted to say what you really should not. It would hurt less to slip with your feet than your mouth. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). For those who can tell the difference between the issues and the nonissues, this will be a pleasant day. Happiness is focusing on what can and/or must be changed and leaving the rest alone. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Aug. 4). The people you find interesting also want to be around you. There will be a lot of laughing with friends. You’ll share a responsibility and watch how it brings out the best in every- one. Also, when it doesn’t, you’ll jump at the chance to help one another. What makes this solar return great are the bonds you share. Capricorn and Scorpio adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 40, 22, 11 and 39.
