THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, AUGUST 3, 2018
FEATURES
Suspicion of wife’s infidelity
Dear Annie: My wife and I
Since then, I have not been
have been married for several able to regain communication with
years. “Cindy” seemed to be “the Don. Calls have not been returned.
one” — someone who completed
As I thought more and more
my life and truly loved me.
about it, I realized that this didn’t
However, at one point after we necessarily mean that Don was
were married, I found out she was himself doing something — but
receiving
inappropriate
it did seem likely that he
DEAR
emails from a co-worker.
knew of something going
She said they were
on.
ANNIE
just jokes between two
I got up the courage to
“friends.” She insisted that
confront my wife about
she had never been physi-
this conversation with
cally unfaithful to me. She
Don and basically got the
also insists that there is no
old brushoff. She couldn’t
such thing as an “emo-
recall any “recent” times
tional affair.”
of running into Don or any
Lane
I then ended up catch- Annie
recent conversations.
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
ing up with a friend of
To make matters even
mine, “Don,” on the phone.
stranger, she keeps all her
Don is usually extremely talkative. electronic devices locked with pass
As soon as I brought up some con- codes, which she refuses to share
cerns about my wife, the con- with me. I’ve given her the pass
versation abruptly became very codes to all my devices.
awkward. He began stammer-
Why am I writing to you? I
ing — making such comments as, guess it’s just to validate my feel-
“Well, when a very pretty woman ings — to hear that I don’t deserve
gets older and gets attention and this. And I’m hoping you can point
compliments from other guys, she, me toward some type of solution.
— Deja Vu All Over Again and
uh, well ...”
At that point, I stopped him and Again
said, “Just what are you talking
Dear Deja Vu: You have my
about?” After a long pause, he said, validation. Something is definitely
“I think that you’d be better off up with your wife. It may not have
talking to your wife about this.”
to do with Don, but there’s some-
body, and it may not be physical,
but it’s at least emotional. (There
is such a thing as emotional cheat-
ing, even if your wife doesn’t
believe it.) At the very least, there
is a communication breakdown
between you two. Marriage coun-
seling could provide you both with
the tools you need to begin repair-
ing your relationship.
Dear Annie: Please refrain from
using subjective labels — such as
elderly, senior and aging — when
referring to people over a certain
age. These labels are loaded with
negative stereotypes. How would
you like to be called “elderly” if
you were a healthy, vigorous and
youthful-looking 75-year-old per-
son? If a person is frail or infirm,
then say the person is “medically
frail.” And “aging” is a word that
applies to every living entity from
day one. The correct term for this
demographic is “older adult.” Or
better yet, just give their age (if it
is relevant) and leave off the labels,
just as you would not use labels for
race, color, sexual orientation, etc.,
that carry negative connotations.
— Oregon Reader
Dear Oregon Reader: I try
to be mindful of such things, but
sometimes I slip up. Thank you for
the reminder. Language matters.
3C
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). It’s the perfect
time to streamline. Cut out the unnecessary
to make room for new energy to drop in. This
applies across the board, from closets to rela-
tionships to work.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Instead of
seeing the world as good or bad, acceptable
or not, try seeing it as “for me” or “not for me.”
This leads to your own enjoyment or move-
ment. It also leads to peace.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). This isn’t always
going to be who you are. An exciting transfor-
mation is underway. Even as you do what it
takes to make your current life work, you are
thinking of your next move.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Ask for feed-
back, and encourage honesty. This means
you have to be tough enough to take it and
be demonstrably grateful for it, too. If you can
achieve this, you’ll learn just what you need
to know to take it to the next level.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). “That’s not for me”:
Often you can confidently say this just from
looking at whatever “that” is. But today you’ll
come across possibilities that fall into a gray
area. As long as they are not too expensive,
be daring. You have to try new things to find
your next favorite.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Imagine your
dream partner telling you, “If you were mine,
I would ...” and then fill in the blank. Now do
that thing for yourself. It’s what you really
deserve.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). An exciting turn of
events is in the works, but this only benefits
you if you are flexible enough to steer into the
turn. It will require a fast decision and then
the confidence to fully commit.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You may
receive a compliment or two along with
some validating signals that you’re on the
right track. Do not relax. Avoid the tempta-
tion to bask in your glory. Stay focused on
improving.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). If you
share a home with others, chances are you
do not all require and enjoy the same food.
Focus on your part of it. And whatever your
living situation, it’s time to hone your diet
without regard to outside influence.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Choosing
whom to reach out to and possibly befriend
is a crucial decision that will affect you for
years to come. Ask yourself, “Is this someone
I would like to be like?”
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). People have
trusted you with the kind of information
that, if leaked, could sink them. You may be
tempted to say what you really should not.
It would hurt less to slip with your feet than
your mouth.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). For those who
can tell the difference between the issues
and the nonissues, this will be a pleasant day.
Happiness is focusing on what can and/or
must be changed and leaving the rest alone.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Aug. 4). The
people you find interesting also want to be
around you. There will be a lot of laughing
with friends. You’ll share a responsibility and
watch how it brings out the best in every-
one. Also, when it doesn’t, you’ll jump at the
chance to help one another. What makes this
solar return great are the bonds you share.
Capricorn and Scorpio adore you. Your lucky
numbers are: 6, 40, 22, 11 and 39.