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6A FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Friend seems too controlling Dear Annie: I have a problem pointment with her facial expres- with my neighbor. I don’t know sion or voice. What should I do? — whether it’s her or me. She is a great Needing to Be Heard neighbor, has become a friend, is Dear Needing to Be Heard: always helpful and is kindhearted. Her facial expressions and voice But the thing is that she seems too are mechanisms she is using to controlling. She pressures me to do make you feel guilty. It sounds as if it’s working. Caring about things with her. Sometimes DEAR another’s feelings is a good it works out well and I’m thing, of course, but not at glad she pressured me to do ANNIE the expense of your fami- an activity that I found out ly’s happiness. You might later I enjoyed. However, try to go on the offensive when my husband and I rather than play defense. do join in, we find that we Have fun with your friend, are expected to spend far but only on your terms. If too much time socializ- ing — for example, when she insists on guilting you, Lane we go on camping trips. Annie better to cut ties. Creators Syndicate Inc. Other times, we are forced Dear Annie: I have a to abide by her schedule, problem I can’t solve. My participate in tightly controlled pot- husband works in a small auto repair lucks and shop for and take specific shop. He is one of two mechanics. gifts to holiday gatherings. Obviously, because there are only When I speak up, it seems she two of them, they have to alternate does not hear me — as if she only vacations. We have school-aged hears what she wants to hear. I’ve children, and the other worker’s told her several times I do not want children are preschool-aged. Every to join her and her family members year, the other guy gets the man- in Las Vegas for a specific conven- ager to put up the vacation calen- tion. I don’t tell her my specific rea- dar when my husband is not there sons for not wanting to participate, and takes all the school breaks. My because I might hurt her feelings. I husband has the highest seniority in simply say, “Thank you, but I’m not our state. Yet the manager lets the interested.” When she finally does other guy take all the vacations first. hear me, she conveys bitter disap- We have not had a family vaca- tion in almost two years because of this. The crowning glory is that this guy signs up for all these vaca- tions and then, at the last moment, decides not to take them. Usually, he decides the week before or just shows up at work. By then, it’s too late for us to make travel plans. I’m so frustrated because my husband doesn’t want to make “a big deal” out of it. He is close to retirement and doesn’t want to make waves. His boss is too lazy to care. I’m so angry that I want to march down to his shop and tell both the guy and the manager what I think of them, which probably wouldn’t be allowed in your column. There has to be some sort of law that prohibits this. Any ideas? I’m tired of seeing my children’s disappointed faces. — Frustrated and Angry Dear Frustrated and Angry: Simmer down, little teapot. Before you blow your lid on your hus- band’s partner, you might want to have a conversation with your hus- band about being a little more pro- active with his vacation requests. It sounds as if your husband’s partner takes the initiative to get to his boss first, and it’s time for your husband to beat him to the schedule. Try planning a vacation way in advance so he can get the time off approved. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, JULY 17, 2018 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Whatever world you’d like to join, you can do so in some small way from wherever you are. The internet and the library will be your ticket to connections that only a few decades ago would have been nearly impossible to reach. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Loneliness is often worse for those who have people around whom they cannot or do not relate to. It’s caused by a lack of communication and understanding. Loneliness is alleviated through listening, not talking. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Life builds and breaks everyone in different ways. Assume nothing about the process. It could be that building makes us weak and breaking makes us strong or the other way around. Roll with it, and do your best with what comes. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Unmet expec- tations are inevitable in a complex existence. Sensitive, intelligent creatures are bound to be disappointed by life from time to time. It’s your resilience that will define you. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). A lot of what people need recognized by one another is information that’s hard to share, perhaps because it goes against the rules of society or is just not com- monly talked about. Regardless, those who open up will be comforted. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Your complexity of mind comes with benefits and drawbacks. On the one hand, you’re creative and can solve problems that others can’t. But you’re often met with incomprehension. Don’t let that bother you. You’re doing great. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Don’t you miss you? You’re overdue for an uninterrupted, distraction-free stint — long enough for you to FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE get into a meaningful conversation with your own psyche. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). No, you’re not imagining the signals: You’re catching exactly what’s being thrown out there. Someone finds you elegant, mysterious and alluring. The next move is yours. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). To ponder why things are the way they are is to go down a rabbit hole. There will be treasures to pick up along the way, but ultimately this is not prog- ress. More helpful questions include “What’s the best next move?” CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Hold on to a sincere and ambitious view of what life could be. You’re in a good club. You’re in great compa- ny. You’re part of a long and grand tradition. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). When you think odd or contrary thoughts, you might be the only one around thinking them at that moment, but you’re not the only one on earth ever to go down that road. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Send out mes- sages from your heart, and then don’t expect anyone to understand right away. Someone will, eventually. But for now it’s important to honor your feelings sincerely without bending them toward validation. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 18). Attitude is everything this year, and yours will be predominantly optimistic and tenacious. August shows you taming wilder instincts and buckling down to get a big project finished. The later part of 2018 shows you handling things for your family. Past debts will be settled in Jan- uary; you’ll be paid in many forms, including money. Capricorn and Aries adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 1, 11, 4, 30 and 15.
