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6A FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Just let me pay you back Dear Annie: We know an sands of people. Maybe you elderly couple who are on a could volunteer your resources very low income, and we have to one that you care about. helped them a lot. Not long Dear Readers: I received ago, their car needed to be a lot of mail in response to fixed, and my husband paid the “Over It,” who was tired of garage and gave the mechanic his girlfriend’s brother tagging a tip. We did this not along. Here are a few DEAR expecting repayment. letters that stuck out. Well, the woman has Dear Annie: Peo- ANNIE ple with Asperg- gotten angry at us for er’s syndrome often not letting her repay have difficulty with us, which she can- not afford to do. It social cues and social honestly wasn’t that interactions. I know much. No amount of because my 23-year- polite refusal helps. old son has Asperg- Lane er’s. He is currently Now she pretty much Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. in graduate school and doesn’t talk to us. is doing well, but he Were we wrong? — Able to Be Generous Paying It has great difficulty in social situations. He does not know Forward Dear Able to Be Gener- how to initiate conversations, ous: For some people, pride especially with strangers. He is more important than money. cannot read body language You should allow this lion and and has difficulty recogniz- lioness to repay you and not ing humor. These are just a try to push your own wishes few aspects of the manifes- onto them. It was very kind of tation of this disorder in him. you to pay for their car; now be Others have different symp- kind to them and respect their toms, which vary in degree. wishes. Just tell her that you The point is, given an Asperg- er’s diagnosis, the brother may really value her friendship. There are many charities not recognize that he is a third that help hundreds of thou- wheel and may not have the tools in his toolbox to under- stand when “Over It” would prefer to be without his com- pany. Learning more about the disorder and its manifestations could help “Over It” gain com- passion and understanding for this man, who could someday be a brother-in-law. — Proud Mom Dear Proud Mom: I defi- nitely agree that the onus is on “Over It” to become more informed and more tolerant. Here’s a letter from another woman who has a son with Asperger’s. Dear Annie: After read- ing the letter from “Over It,” I just had to express my anger at his referring to his girlfriend’s brother as a “moron.” Shame on him! Asperger’s is a learn- ing disability. You were correct in telling this man to move on so this woman can find some- one who has a bigger heart and is accepting of people who are different. — Mom of a Loving Son With Asperger’s Dear Mom of a Loving Son With Asperger’s: Thanks for writing. You’re right. “Over It” needs to get over his prejudices. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JULY 11, 2018 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your love is a rare and beautiful gift best invested where it can be appreciated. If you’re not getting feedback that you’re appreciated, then you’re probably not. You deserve better! Go find it. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). If you got into love a little deeper than was good for you, you have it in you to save your own heart like a hero. Of course, it’s a lot easier just to choose the right people upfront — people who can love you back and just as hard. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). People on the offense will make moves to defend themselves, and this creates conflict. So if you want to avoid conflict, refrain from threatening people’s beliefs, possessions or position. CANCER (June 22-July 22). In order for some- thing to make you happy, you must really feel as though you’ve earned it. When you’re putting in the quality attention and work, even the tiniest things can bring you a great sense of accom- plishment and elation. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You love your friends and family, but the most satisfying relationships featured today will be with mere acquaintance. When people barely known to you do kind things, it restores your trust in the good of humanity. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). A deeper look into your possessions will reveal what you have, what you thought you’d lost and what you’d totally forgotten about. It will also help you avoid making unnecessary purchases in the future. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). “Taking stock” is a term used by merchants accounting for their wares to track what’s available, what’s been sold, ordered, broken or stolen. Take stock of current resources, material and immaterial; FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE you’ll soon reopen “shop.” SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). For whatever reason, others seem fine with all that’s going on. But everyone is different. Suddenly you’ll feel creative. This is a response to discomfort — your way of trying to cope or adapt to conditions that don’t naturally suit you. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Do people really belong to each other? It depends on whom you ask. This will be the question at the heart of the action: To what extent do and/or should you allow yourself to be controlled by others? CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’ll combat difficult people with tolerance, acceptance and love. You’ll win with this approach, not a trophy or a monetary award but something more valu- able: peace and self-respect. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You like people, but you also thrive on solitude. Lately, you hav- en’t had enough tranquility to do the deep think- ing that connects you with the most intelligent and creative parts of yourself. Arrange for it! PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Follow instruc- tions and you’ll be a hit with the boss. Whether the “boss” in this instance is a friend, a partner or your actual boss, deference to authority is a skill that will serve the whole team well today. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 12). The Chinese word “guanxi” describes a network of trusting relationships essential to conducting business. This year, such a network will bring happiness and prosperity to you. You’ll develop a system of measuring goodwill. Those who learn your ways and earn your trust will get your business, your love or both. Sagittarius and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 20, 4, 16 and 23.
