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FEATURES
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
Just let me pay you back
Dear Annie: We know an sands of people. Maybe you
elderly couple who are on a could volunteer your resources
very low income, and we have to one that you care about.
helped them a lot. Not long
Dear Readers: I received
ago, their car needed to be a lot of mail in response to
fixed, and my husband paid the “Over It,” who was tired of
garage and gave the mechanic his girlfriend’s brother tagging
a tip. We did this not
along. Here are a few
DEAR
expecting repayment.
letters that stuck out.
Well, the woman has
Dear Annie: Peo-
ANNIE
ple with Asperg-
gotten angry at us for
er’s syndrome often
not letting her repay
have difficulty with
us, which she can-
not afford to do. It
social cues and social
honestly wasn’t that
interactions. I know
much. No amount of
because my 23-year-
polite refusal helps.
old son has Asperg-
Lane
er’s. He is currently
Now she pretty much Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
in graduate school and
doesn’t talk to us.
is doing well, but he
Were we wrong? —
Able to Be Generous Paying It has great difficulty in social
situations. He does not know
Forward
Dear Able to Be Gener- how to initiate conversations,
ous: For some people, pride especially with strangers. He
is more important than money. cannot read body language
You should allow this lion and and has difficulty recogniz-
lioness to repay you and not ing humor. These are just a
try to push your own wishes few aspects of the manifes-
onto them. It was very kind of tation of this disorder in him.
you to pay for their car; now be Others have different symp-
kind to them and respect their toms, which vary in degree.
wishes. Just tell her that you The point is, given an Asperg-
er’s diagnosis, the brother may
really value her friendship.
There are many charities not recognize that he is a third
that help hundreds of thou- wheel and may not have the
tools in his toolbox to under-
stand when “Over It” would
prefer to be without his com-
pany. Learning more about the
disorder and its manifestations
could help “Over It” gain com-
passion and understanding for
this man, who could someday
be a brother-in-law. — Proud
Mom
Dear Proud Mom: I defi-
nitely agree that the onus is
on “Over It” to become more
informed and more tolerant.
Here’s a letter from another
woman who has a son with
Asperger’s.
Dear Annie: After read-
ing the letter from “Over It,” I
just had to express my anger at
his referring to his girlfriend’s
brother as a “moron.” Shame
on him! Asperger’s is a learn-
ing disability. You were correct
in telling this man to move on
so this woman can find some-
one who has a bigger heart and
is accepting of people who are
different. — Mom of a Loving
Son With Asperger’s
Dear Mom of a Loving
Son With Asperger’s: Thanks
for writing. You’re right.
“Over It” needs to get over his
prejudices.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, JULY 11, 2018
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your love is a rare
and beautiful gift best invested where it can be
appreciated. If you’re not getting feedback that
you’re appreciated, then you’re probably not. You
deserve better! Go find it.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). If you got into love
a little deeper than was good for you, you have
it in you to save your own heart like a hero. Of
course, it’s a lot easier just to choose the right
people upfront — people who can love you back
and just as hard.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). People on the
offense will make moves to defend themselves,
and this creates conflict. So if you want to
avoid conflict, refrain from threatening people’s
beliefs, possessions or position.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). In order for some-
thing to make you happy, you must really feel as
though you’ve earned it. When you’re putting in
the quality attention and work, even the tiniest
things can bring you a great sense of accom-
plishment and elation.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You love your friends
and family, but the most satisfying relationships
featured today will be with mere acquaintance.
When people barely known to you do kind
things, it restores your trust in the good of
humanity.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). A deeper look into
your possessions will reveal what you have,
what you thought you’d lost and what you’d
totally forgotten about. It will also help you avoid
making unnecessary purchases in the future.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). “Taking stock” is a
term used by merchants accounting for their
wares to track what’s available, what’s been
sold, ordered, broken or stolen. Take stock of
current resources, material and immaterial;
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
you’ll soon reopen “shop.”
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). For whatever
reason, others seem fine with all that’s going
on. But everyone is different. Suddenly you’ll
feel creative. This is a response to discomfort —
your way of trying to cope or adapt to conditions
that don’t naturally suit you.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Do people
really belong to each other? It depends on
whom you ask. This will be the question at the
heart of the action: To what extent do and/or
should you allow yourself to be controlled by
others?
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’ll combat
difficult people with tolerance, acceptance and
love. You’ll win with this approach, not a trophy
or a monetary award but something more valu-
able: peace and self-respect.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You like people,
but you also thrive on solitude. Lately, you hav-
en’t had enough tranquility to do the deep think-
ing that connects you with the most intelligent
and creative parts of yourself. Arrange for it!
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Follow instruc-
tions and you’ll be a hit with the boss. Whether
the “boss” in this instance is a friend, a partner
or your actual boss, deference to authority is a
skill that will serve the whole team well today.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 12). The
Chinese word “guanxi” describes a network of
trusting relationships essential to conducting
business. This year, such a network will bring
happiness and prosperity to you. You’ll develop
a system of measuring goodwill. Those who
learn your ways and earn your trust will get your
business, your love or both. Sagittarius and
Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8,
20, 4, 16 and 23.