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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, JULY 5, 2018 FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE They’re disrespecting him Dear Annie: What advice would you coexist with someone who, you give to a divorced man regard- because he feels guilty, keeps pun- ing “moving on?” My boyfriend ishing himself? It’s not my place and his ex-wife have been divorced to tell him what to do, I have for 10 years, yet she continues to learned through my own coun- manipulate him and behave spite- seling. When I try to help him fully toward him. She and their adult work through the many incidents children show no consider- that occur, he tells me DEAR ation for my boyfriend’s that I’m biased because I wishes. And I see him do “don’t like them.” What I ANNIE a lot of tiptoeing because don’t like, Annie, are their God forbid he upset the actions. They show such “posse.” He tried to estab- disrespect, and if they lish that he’d like to see his can’t respect their own adult children in settings father, really, whom are other than his ex-wife’s they going to respect? home, but that rarely hap- Could he end up taking Lane pens. And he is expected Annie this nonsense until the day Creators Syndicate Inc. to still go to her house for he dies? Will he ever free birthday gatherings. himself? I’m afraid that He has made some minor without counseling, he will never changes, which I hope, for the sake truly just put his foot down, say of his sanity, he adheres to. I sug- what he needs to and free himself gested that he seek counseling, but of this abuse. Enough is enough! — to no avail. He puts his foot down, Anonymously Bewildered but as soon as she says “sorry” once, Dear Anonymously Bewil- he picks his foot back up and goes dered: The advice I would give to back for more of the same disre- this man matters little if he’s not spectful treatment. It is completely the one who’s asking. And there’s absurd that he thinks he has a good the rub. You seem to recognize this relationship with his ex or even with — you mentioned that you know his adult children. The kids show you can’t help anyone but your- self — so I imagine your letter was him no respect. I have learned I can’t change written more out of exasperation anyone but myself, but how do than anything else. I certainly sym- 5A By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. pathize. It’s frustrating to watch the people we love go through the same painful episodes again and again. But unless and until he him- self decides that enough is enough, I’m afraid you’re in for a lot of reruns. My advice to you, seeing as you’re the one who wrote me, is to change the channel — if not by ending the relationship, then by disengaging from his family drama. I strongly recommend that you continue going to counseling, because it sounds as though it’s providing you helpful self-insight. Dear Annie: I get a therapeu- tic massage in my chiropractor’s office and a dermabrasion treat- ment in my dermatologist’s office. Recently, someone in the latter office suggested that I should be tipping for these personal services. I never imagined that tipping in a doctor’s office would be expected or even appropriate. I am hoping some of your doctor readers will respond. — Tipped Off Dear Tipped Off: I’ve never heard of tipping at a doctor’s office. You’re a patient, not a cus- tomer. The fact that someone there told you that you should be tipping sounds a little fishy to me, but stay tuned, and I’ll let you know if I hear from doctors on this subject. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Beware of col- lective delusion. When you have an unpopular opinion, it’s easy to think that you’re the delu- sional one — when you’re actually the only one who understands the reality of what’s going on. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Take a picture of the moon or a sunset and it becomes clear that life often looks a lot better than the picture of life. But then there are times when the picture looks better. You’ll go out of your way because of a photograph. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). In the animal kingdom, enemies are simply other creatures competing for resources. In human terms, enemies seem more nefarious. Are they? Figure out if the opposition is sinister or just competing for the same thing as you. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll be wise to spend several hours cultivating good fortune by way of talking with others, sharing your heart, serving, helping and cleaning and clear- ing your environment to make way for good luck to drop on in. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Dissatisfaction is part of the human experience, so don’t blame yourself or anyone else. Offer yourself some kindness, and wish the best for everyone around you. You’ll be surprised how that turns it around for the better. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You can only experience life from your own point of view. So even though you know that you are not the center of the universe, you have to live as though you are, taking the very best care of yourself that you can. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Socrates said, “I know only one thing: that I know noth- ing.” And if Socrates (widely regarded as one of the finest minds of antiquity) knew nothing, then you really have to excuse yourself for being under-informed today. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). This is not a game you win once and become champion of forever. Life’s battles are fought over and over. Truly, some of them are getting old. But persist anyway. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Friendship is the most valuable thing that the day has to offer. A spontaneous opportunity to connect will pop up and it will be worthwhile for you to veer from your original plan and be social. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Don’t skimp on the details today. It’s important to be faithful in your attention and commitment to small things because it’s the small things that will build your strength. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ve been paying attention. Your best guess is a strong one. Act on it. Don’t talk about it first or you could talk yourself out of it. Action will begin a fortunate chain reaction. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 6). Your life will reflect certain trends of the time, though in many ways you’ll be a thought leader. You’ll be heard, admired, followed and loved. The money is extra good in September and November. You’ll travel to win deals and more in 2019. Personal vitality will increase because of the change you make in February. Gemini and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 10, 3, 33, 28 and 40. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ll gravitate to the strong personalities, the intimidating pres- ence, the people who are sure to impress and even intoxicate you. Get ready: They’re sure to throw you off balance. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE
