THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, JULY 5, 2018
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TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
They’re disrespecting him
Dear Annie: What advice would you coexist with someone who,
you give to a divorced man regard- because he feels guilty, keeps pun-
ing “moving on?” My boyfriend ishing himself? It’s not my place
and his ex-wife have been divorced to tell him what to do, I have
for 10 years, yet she continues to learned through my own coun-
manipulate him and behave spite- seling. When I try to help him
fully toward him. She and their adult work through the many incidents
children show no consider-
that occur, he tells me
DEAR
ation for my boyfriend’s
that I’m biased because I
wishes. And I see him do
“don’t like them.” What I
ANNIE
a lot of tiptoeing because
don’t like, Annie, are their
God forbid he upset the
actions. They show such
“posse.” He tried to estab-
disrespect, and if they
lish that he’d like to see his
can’t respect their own
adult children in settings
father, really, whom are
other than his ex-wife’s
they going to respect?
home, but that rarely hap-
Could he end up taking
Lane
pens. And he is expected Annie
this
nonsense until the day
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
to still go to her house for
he dies? Will he ever free
birthday gatherings.
himself? I’m afraid that
He has made some minor without counseling, he will never
changes, which I hope, for the sake truly just put his foot down, say
of his sanity, he adheres to. I sug- what he needs to and free himself
gested that he seek counseling, but of this abuse. Enough is enough! —
to no avail. He puts his foot down, Anonymously Bewildered
but as soon as she says “sorry” once,
Dear Anonymously Bewil-
he picks his foot back up and goes dered: The advice I would give to
back for more of the same disre- this man matters little if he’s not
spectful treatment. It is completely the one who’s asking. And there’s
absurd that he thinks he has a good the rub. You seem to recognize this
relationship with his ex or even with — you mentioned that you know
his adult children. The kids show you can’t help anyone but your-
self — so I imagine your letter was
him no respect.
I have learned I can’t change written more out of exasperation
anyone but myself, but how do than anything else. I certainly sym-
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By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
pathize. It’s frustrating to watch
the people we love go through the
same painful episodes again and
again. But unless and until he him-
self decides that enough is enough,
I’m afraid you’re in for a lot of
reruns. My advice to you, seeing
as you’re the one who wrote me,
is to change the channel — if not
by ending the relationship, then
by disengaging from his family
drama. I strongly recommend that
you continue going to counseling,
because it sounds as though it’s
providing you helpful self-insight.
Dear Annie: I get a therapeu-
tic massage in my chiropractor’s
office and a dermabrasion treat-
ment in my dermatologist’s office.
Recently, someone in the latter
office suggested that I should be
tipping for these personal services.
I never imagined that tipping in a
doctor’s office would be expected
or even appropriate. I am hoping
some of your doctor readers will
respond. — Tipped Off
Dear Tipped Off: I’ve never
heard of tipping at a doctor’s
office. You’re a patient, not a cus-
tomer. The fact that someone there
told you that you should be tipping
sounds a little fishy to me, but stay
tuned, and I’ll let you know if I
hear from doctors on this subject.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Beware of col-
lective delusion. When you have an unpopular
opinion, it’s easy to think that you’re the delu-
sional one — when you’re actually the only one
who understands the reality of what’s going on.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Take a picture
of the moon or a sunset and it becomes clear
that life often looks a lot better than the picture
of life. But then there are times when the
picture looks better. You’ll go out of your way
because of a photograph.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). In the animal
kingdom, enemies are simply other creatures
competing for resources. In human terms,
enemies seem more nefarious. Are they?
Figure out if the opposition is sinister or just
competing for the same thing as you.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’ll be wise to
spend several hours cultivating good fortune
by way of talking with others, sharing your
heart, serving, helping and cleaning and clear-
ing your environment to make way for good
luck to drop on in.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Dissatisfaction is
part of the human experience, so don’t blame
yourself or anyone else. Offer yourself some
kindness, and wish the best for everyone
around you. You’ll be surprised how that turns it
around for the better.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You can
only experience life from your own point of
view. So even though you know that you are
not the center of the universe, you have to live
as though you are, taking the very best care of
yourself that you can.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Socrates
said, “I know only one thing: that I know noth-
ing.” And if Socrates (widely regarded as one
of the finest minds of antiquity) knew nothing,
then you really have to excuse yourself for
being under-informed today.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). This is not a
game you win once and become champion of
forever. Life’s battles are fought over and over.
Truly, some of them are getting old. But persist
anyway.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Friendship is the
most valuable thing that the day has to offer. A
spontaneous opportunity to connect will pop
up and it will be worthwhile for you to veer from
your original plan and be social.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Don’t skimp on
the details today. It’s important to be faithful in
your attention and commitment to small things
because it’s the small things that will build your
strength.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ve been
paying attention. Your best guess is a strong
one. Act on it. Don’t talk about it first or you
could talk yourself out of it. Action will begin a
fortunate chain reaction.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (July 6). Your life
will reflect certain trends of the time, though
in many ways you’ll be a thought leader.
You’ll be heard, admired, followed and loved.
The money is extra good in September and
November. You’ll travel to win deals and more
in 2019. Personal vitality will increase because
of the change you make in February. Gemini
and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are:
10, 3, 33, 28 and 40.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ll gravitate to
the strong personalities, the intimidating pres-
ence, the people who are sure to impress and
even intoxicate you. Get ready: They’re sure to
throw you off balance.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
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