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6A FEATURES A pajama conspiracy? Dear Annie: Shortly after overall trends have held, you’re in Christmas, my work friend, “Mike,” the plurality for American men. and I were talking at lunch and dis- It’s also worth noting that there covered we have the same problem. are some scientific arguments in Our wives both gave us silk paja- favor of sleeping in the buff. Uni- mas. Worst yet, they expect us to versity of Amsterdam researchers wear them! We think it’s found that people achieve DEAR a conspiracy, even though deeper sleep with lower they have never met. Mike skin temperatures, which ANNIE wears his boxer briefs to sleeping in the nude helps bed. I stopped wearing my achieve. That said, if you underwear to bed when I should ever have to leave went off to college. By the your home in the middle numbers — if you have of the night because of a them — what do Ameri- fire (heaven forbid), you can men wear, or not wear, might be wishing you had Lane to bed? How can we con- Annie on those silk pajamas. Creators Syndicate Inc. vince our wives that sleep- Dear Annie: My ing naked doesn’t make us heart goes out to “My Sad perverts? Small children are not Story,” the woman who remem- an issue here. — Sleeping Bare in bers traumatic experiences from her Sunny Florida youth. Her sister told her to get over Dear Sleeping Bare: A 2005 it. For years, I had anxiety attacks ABC News poll asked Ameri- and even panic attacks but thought cans what they wore to bed. Thir- they occurred because I was weak teen percent of men and 55 percent in some way. I meditated, repeated of women said pajamas or night- positive affirmations, tried to see gowns; 21 percent of men and 25 only the good in people and events, percent of women said shorts and/or prayed for relief, and got counseling a T-shirt; and 31 percent of men and and medication. Nothing worked. 14 percent of women said they slept I am now in my late 60s. I in the nude. It’s likely those percent- recently decided I needed to return ages have fluctuated, as the survey’s to counseling because I could not over a decade old. But assuming the bear living with a constant high level of anxiety, which was nega- tively affecting my quality of life. I didn’t have the energy to go on. By chance, I found a therapist who specializes in anxiety and post-trau- matic stress disorder. He diagnosed me with PTSD, and I refused to believe it, thinking that I had not experienced the kinds of trauma experienced by military personnel. He reviewed with me the answers I had given to his questions on our initial intake appointment. I learned that I suffered from traumatic expe- riences in my childhood. It was hard to accept because I had made up so many excuses for my parents’ behavior over the years. He told me he could help me get past the anxi- ety with treatment. In less than two months, my anxiety lifted. Please tell “My Sad Story” to find a therapist who specializes in trauma and not settle for anyone else. Not every therapist has this training. Symptoms only worsen over time if not treated. — Relieved and Grateful Dear Relieved and Grateful: I’m printing your letter for “My Sad Story” and anyone else who might be carrying unresolved trauma from childhood without even realizing it. Thank you for sharing your story. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, MAY 7, 2018 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Every person you encounter over the course of this day is someone who needs to be there. It’s all on track and as it should be. Maybe it’s not how you would have planned it, but it’s time to trust what is. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). One of the hardest things you’ll do is something that no one is asking of you: to socialize. It’s an implicit expectation. Light interaction will be expected, even when you’re not in the mood. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’ll be first on the scene, first to get the memo, first to hear the whisper of a new idea, first to join in with the giggle of novelty. Being first comes with a choice that really affects the future — to share or not to share? SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It’s good for the whole group when the strongest are supported, encouraged and rewarded. However, the strong must never be prized above the weak, who have just as much to teach us, if not more. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You like mak- ing people laugh. If they are smiling and having a good time around you today, you’ll feel you’ve done your job. Anyone who thinks this doesn’t count as work is dead wrong. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Friend- ships have highs and lows just like romantic relationships do, but without the pressure to get married or break up over it. Differences in sensibility and simple misun- derstandings will be easily overcome. CANCER (June 22-July 22). You can see so clearly where a project needs to land, so work backward. Begin where you are and visualize to the best of your ability to do it to the extent that you can. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Science doesn’t lie, but it will often tell the story of the human being who executed it, funded it, and in turn, did so when needing things to go a certain way. When you get the proof, look for the proof behind that. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your affirmation of the day: All is well and everything is work- ing toward the highest and best. Repeat often, especially when things are not going according to your plan. Leos are lucky for you now. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The truth has consequences that will be weighed against the consequences of lies. In other words, people will tell as much truth as they think they can tell without getting into trouble. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Observe the difference between what’s smart and what’s wise. Knowledge is not wisdom. The recitation of wisdom is not wisdom. Wis- dom is a concentrated extract from a body of experience accumulated over time. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Maybe you need more money to finish what you start- ed, but that’s only part of it. “Always bear in mind that your own resolution to succeed is more important than any other one thing.” — Abraham Lincoln TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (MAY 8). This will go down as one of your most prosper- ous years in all the ways that matter most. You’ll put family first and you’ll take care of your own, but community also matters to immensely, as you really feel that everyone is your family. Because of this focus on others, you’ll be lavished in love and atten- tion. Aries and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 40, 50, 37, 24 and 19.