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6A FEATURES Should I unfriend him? Dear Annie: I reconnected Would it be rude or hurtful to with an old male schoolmate of unfriend him? This man does mine, and we became friends. not have many friends and is We would talk occasionally somewhat of a recluse. — and send emails to each other. Unsure of Unfriending My husband passed away some Dear Unsure of Unfriend- time ago. This man is divorced. ing: He’d probably feel hurt by it, but it doesn’t We have not visited with DEAR mean you can’t do it. each other and live in dif- ferent cities. You could also block ANNIE At first, I enjoyed him rather than just chatting with him via the unfriend him. That telephone and email. I way, he couldn’t think people tend to put see your profile at their best foot forward at all. But if you’re up the beginning of a rela- for it, you could tell tionship, whether it be a him that you’re with- Lane drawing because his romantic relationship or Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. negativity gets you just a friendship as was down. It might make the case with us. Over time, I noticed his him rethink his attitude. Or it conversations were very one- might just make him cranky. In sided. He has a negative per- any case, you’re not beholden sonality. He is a “woe is me” to his emotions. Decide what’s type of person. I no longer send right for yourself. him emails. I think people can Dear Annie: I wish you outgrow each other and that’s had also suggested to “My Sad fine. Story” that she look into the The problem is that we are help she could receive from also friends on social media. Al-Anon. Thank you for often Though I do not comment referring readers to this won- on his posts, he occasionally derful organization, which pro- will post on my page. I would vides encouragement, strength really prefer not having contact and hope through its literature with him on Facebook, either. and from members experienc- ing the same problems. Many adult children of alcoholics find help through Al-Anon, even if the alcoholics are no longer living. They find that alcohol- ism is a disease they can’t cure, control or change but that they can change themselves. As the daughter, wife, mother, grandmother, sister- in-law and aunt of alcoholics, I am grateful that Al-Anon has shown me the way to sanity and serenity. Al-Anon’s web- site provides information on where to find meetings all over the country. Helpful and com- forting information is available on the website, which includes chatrooms, where one can find help in dealing with the disease of alcoholism. — Nebraska Survivor Dear Nebraska Survivor: You are so right. I am a huge proponent of Al-Anon and missed an opportunity to rec- ommend it to someone whom it might really help. I’m printing your letter to correct the record and encourage “My Sad Story” and anyone else who’s been affected by another person’s drinking to try Al-Anon or another support group meeting. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, MAY 3, 2018 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). It may be argued that there is no such thing as perfection in the world, and yet the peaceful feeling that comes over you this afternoon will fit the description. No work required here, because perfection doesn’t need perfecting. effusive company. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Getting someone to like you, buy from you or agree to your plan will be a bit like grabbing at space. So don’t try for it. Instead, be a model of cool, as attractive as possible in every way. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Before you go risking rejection, one thing that might be helpful to find out would be what it typically takes to get to “yes.” While atypical things work all the time, you’ll do well to get a little more information on the matter. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Everyone is defen- sive about something. Finding out what triggers you to act defensively is just the information you need to become mighty. So any challenge to your defenses is a valuable gift. CANCER (June 22-July 22). When people talk about what they’re going to do, you’ll be supportive and encouraging, though part of you wonders if what you’re hearing is really so. Time will tell. Meanwhile, for you it’s better to be busy than wordy. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You need a teach- er to learn. Even “self-made” people have teach- ers; maybe in the form of books or heroes they model. Don’t be afraid to try out new teachers. Why take the first influence that comes along? CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You want to be where there’s laughter, color and interest — maybe a little chaos, too. You’re due for the sort of fun that can’t be had where there are a lot of rules to follow. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Paper theories are all well and good, but you can’t tell how things will fly in the so-called real world until you do the experiment. This will take some daring and a bit of money, too. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). People project their hopes and wishes on each other in the early stage of relationships. Later, with a more accu- rate picture of what the person is actually like, some of it won’t fit. You’re fine with this. You live in reality. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Knowing how a thing is made will either inspire you to like it more or less. Are you ready to find out which? This hazy moment of limited knowledge is like a bubble of possibility you’re not too eager to burst. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It’s so simple. Rested people are better behaved! Getting more sleep is one of the most effective steps to becoming healthier — plus it’s free. It will require you to make a plan though. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 4). You may not see the big picture clearly right now, but the sort of magic is coming together that you wouldn’t have planned. All you have to do is fulfill the obligations of the moments, which will link together and open in wondrous ways. Also, ask for what you want and know what you like because people will aim to please you. Scorpio and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 30, 2, 27 and 15. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’re lovable and down deep you know it, but it sure feels nice to get some feedback to that effect to drive the point home. In fact, people who neglect the niceties run the risk of being replaced by more FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE