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6A FEATURES TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE Dealing with depression Dear Annie: I’m a man in my help, you’re in a position to provide late 40s living with my 40-year-old encouragement. The most import- girlfriend of five years. I just found ant thing you can do right now is get out she’s been dealing with depres- her to a doctor. If she seems like a sion for years. She is on medication danger to herself, dial 911. If you’re for it, but maybe it’s not helping. not sure how to assess the situation, Today is the fourth straight day she you can also call the National Sui- cide Prevention Lifeline, hasn’t gotten out of bed, DEAR at 800-273-8255. Trained let alone gone to work. Of crisis workers are there to course, my main concern is ANNIE take your call 24/7. her and her health, but now In addition to helping I’m starting to worry about her over the initial hurdle our income. Our budget is of seeking professional pretty tight as it is, and I help, you can play an don’t make enough money active role in her recovery at my job to support us both. long term. According to the So now I’m really worried Lane Anxiety and Depression about her and the reality Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. Association of America, that our bills may not get “mental health profession- paid. I would never talk to her about my concerns; I don’t want als are increasingly recommending to add any stress to her. I want to couple- and family-based treatment do what’s right. I want to do what’s programs,” sometimes even enlist- best for her and what’s best for us. ing partners as co-therapists who I want to continue being with her, can assist with “homework” they but I’m getting dangerously close to assign to their patients. You can find full panic mode. Could you give me more tips by visiting https://adaa. some advice on how to handle this org and entering the phrase “spouse or partner” into the search bar. situation? — Panic Mode Dear Panic Mode: I know that Regarding the financial aspect, this situation is hard, but it’s not if your partner’s depression has hopeless. Depression is not some- been documented, she might qual- thing one can will her way out of, ify to receive money from the Sup- so be patient. Though it’s ultimately plemental Security Income pro- up to your girlfriend to want to seek gram or Social Security Disability THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, MAY 2, 2018 By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. Insurance. Visit https://www.ssa. gov or make an appointment at your local Social Security office for more information. Dear Annie: My husband always carries a handkerchief, as many men do. When he sneezes, blows his nose or just needs to wipe it, he pulls out his hankie, uses it and then folds it back up neatly and puts it back in his pocket. It is always when we are at Mass or at a restaurant. I cringe, get all sweaty and shake my head. What does eti- quette dictate that one do after using a hankie? I never notice other men folding theirs after using them. Am I being too critical? — Yuck Dear Yuck: The proper eti- quette for blowing one’s nose, whether into a handkerchief or into a tissue, is to do so in the privacy of the bathroom (though that might be hard during Mass). As for your husband’s folding the handkerchief after using it — yes, it seems a bit odd, because he should launder it soon after using it. It’d be like fold- ing dirty clothes for the hamper. But I’m afraid it’s his handkerchief, his pocket and his rules. Perhaps it’s time to get a handkerchief of your own for when this habit starts you sweating. In all seriousness, try to let this one go. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Your loved ones, bosses and colleagues are all looking for the same thing. They want to see effort. They need the assurance that someone cares. You’ll be someone’s saving grace. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Don’t forget to play. Play is where the best stuff of the day happens. Play is where you’ll discover who a person really is. Play will show you things about yourself you didn’t know. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your power is growing because you’re ready and willing to take on more. Though you have many supporters, expect some resistance, too. Just because someone is intimidated doesn’t mean you are intimidating. CANCER (June 22-July 22). It is often the case that compassionate people got that way via life’s disappointments and injustices. Because they moved through bad times, they are more capable of helping others through their suffering. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When people want what isn’t good for them, as will be the case today, giving them what they want isn’t going to help anything. For best results, apply your own judgment to the actions you take on behalf of others. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You’ll be steadfast in your flow of positive energy. Some people will seem determined to derail your sunshine agenda, and those people are not to be taken on. Ignore them instead. Refuse to be defeat- ed by transient concerns. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). True happiness is impossible to achieve in isolation. You cannot be truly happy when others are suffering. You’re connected to all of humanity, and you FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE feel that connection in a visceral way today. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Though it is possible to experience an easy or even acci- dental victory, real triumph belongs to the en- during. So don’t be shaken by the easy wins of others. Stay the course. Yours is coming. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Spiritu- al evolution is work. For instance, to think benevolently about people even if you don’t particularly agree with (or even like) them is to operate on a higher level. You have this in you. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You can direct loving feelings toward yourself and then extend them outward, or direct loving feelings toward another then soak them up. Either way, you’ll cultivate and share a warm safe environment. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Today you will give second chances. It’s what you would want were the situation reversed. Also, it just feels better to do this, even if part of you doesn’t quite think it’s going to work out. You’ll always know you were generous. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You believe in people’s capacity to improve. It’s why you’re a terrific coach. You also know when to detach. You don’t demand people be a certain way to earn your respect. You just respect them and hope for the best. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (May 3). A group will grow and improve because of your con- tribution. These are the meaningful moments you’ve been working toward! You’ll make good on a promise, and it will burst open an exciting trajectory. There’s real brilliance in your ability to elicit expert feedback and apply it until you get the answer. Libra and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 4, 8, 20, 27 and 33.
