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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, APRIL 30, 2018 FEATURES Might tea just be tea? Dear Annie: My husband and est but knew I wouldn’t understand I have been married for nearly 30 that it was just a friendship thing years. We’re both in our 50s and and nothing more. I talked to both attractive. I work with him as his of them and said it was very inap- administrator. He’s a real estate propriate behavior and it should agent. Our receptionist is about 30 never happen again. I have also told my husband that his years old and very beau- DEAR tiful. She’s been with the phone and whereabouts office for five years. They should be an open book ANNIE talk and are office friends. right now until he gains Recently, my husband my trust. I do believe it was bumped into her on the only a friendship thing, as road. He honked to get her my husband does talk and attention and asked her out socialize with both men for tea. I just so happened and women all the time. to call him while he was Any advice would be Lane having the tea in her car, as Annie appreciated. Do you think Creators Syndicate Inc. it was a drive-thru coffee it’s OK for a married man shop. When I called him, to have tea with his secre- he did not disclose he was with the tary? — Miffed Dear Miffed: Having tea with a receptionist. He just said he was on his way home. I was suspicious, so co-worker is perfectly OK. So why I drove down the road he usually would your husband lie about it? takes home from work. I noticed Maybe there’s something going on that both cars were parked near the between them, but it’s more likely coffee shop and that my husband he was trying to avoid the sort of was in the receptionist’s car having embarrassing scene that ended up transpiring. tea with her. When I talked to him later, he Take a step back and look at your said he hadn’t told me he was with actions. You immediately jumped in her because he thought I would the car and patrolled his commute have been angry. He said he wants route. Then you scolded him and to have a relationship with me in your longtime mutual colleague. which he can be completely hon- Then you set rules he must follow to earn back your trust. All over the “very inappropriate” act of having tea with a co-worker in public. Yes, it was wrong of him to lie — but if this is any indication of your past behavior, you can’t fully blame him. If you believe that your husband has been unfaithful, I encourage you to explore the issue together in mar- riage counseling. But it sounds as though, even by your own account, he’s given you no cause for real concern. If that’s the case, consider seeing a counselor on your own, someone who could help you dig up the roots of your insecurity. What- ever you do, don’t let jealousy run rampant through your relationship. Love withers among those weeds. Dear Annie: I’ve noticed that you often recommend Families Anonymous and Al-Anon to peo- ple struggling with a loved one’s drug addiction or alcoholism. Both organizations are extremely help- ful. Please consider also suggest- ing SMART Recovery Family & Friends meetings, a science-based, secular alternative to Al-Anon. — Hope This Helps Dear Hope This Helps: Thank you for offering up yet another resource for the friends and family of people with addictions. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Undoubtedly, your reaction can give power to an action; In fact, it is sometimes the one and only power source of the thing to which you are reacting. Therefore, if you want a situation to discontinue, consider trying a non-reaction as your next reaction. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Unpleasant circumstances are the ones that teach the most valuable lessons. For instance, had you never been neglected or abandoned, you wouldn’t be so self-sufficient. You’ll be celebrated for your strength. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll have to pivot from the usual in order to embrace new possi- bilities. Actually, you’ll have to make the pivot to even see the new possibilities at all. This next turn will have to be made in faith. CANCER (June 22-July 22). The demands of the day won’t be burdensome. If the day’s tasks are trying, either you misunderstood what was required or someone is asking way too much of you. Mountains invite you to climb them, not carry them. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The minute you feel yourself competing, pull back and ask whether the situation is really a good match for you. Those who appreciate what you bring to the table won’t ask you to compete for your spot. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Not all inaction is alike. There’s doing nothing out of fear, laziness or confusion; then there’s doing nothing out of principle — having the discipline to be still when inaction is the best choice for the moment. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). To contrive for self-advantage is the folly of children and those who behave like them — an individual is usually best served within a thriving group. You’ll work toward making the group great and be lifted FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE along with it. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Today it may seem that your loved ones think of you as a ge- nie in service to them. They make their requests and expect you to magically fulfill immediately. But what about the other plans you had made? Drop them at your own risk. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Since com- parison and judgment have no place in today’s proceedings and can only lead to anger, you’ll be looking for ways to appreciate the contributions of others without putting yourself in a position to rate them. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You know what it’s like to stand amongst a group that you don’t truly belong to. Because you’ve tasted that unique kind of loneliness, you can really appreciate the abundant warmth in the bonds you have now. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ve done the work; now enjoy watching your plan play out. It will be satisfying to see things go off without a hitch because you implemented the lessons of the past. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The way you talk to yourself in your own head will be extremely important. The level of kindness of your inside voice will dictate the level of kindness in your outside voice. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (MAY 1). The very thought of your happiness inspires happiness in many others. Therefore, making your own happiness a priority will be a kind of public service. You’ll have a breakthrough over the next 10 weeks, but don’t rush ahead because of it — slow and steady business will continue to benefit you for years to come. Libra and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 2, 28, 13 and 40.
