THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, APRIL 30, 2018
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Might tea just be tea?
Dear Annie: My husband and est but knew I wouldn’t understand
I have been married for nearly 30 that it was just a friendship thing
years. We’re both in our 50s and and nothing more. I talked to both
attractive. I work with him as his of them and said it was very inap-
administrator. He’s a real estate propriate behavior and it should
agent. Our receptionist is about 30 never happen again. I have also
told my husband that his
years old and very beau-
DEAR
tiful. She’s been with the
phone and whereabouts
office for five years. They
should be an open book
ANNIE
talk and are office friends.
right now until he gains
Recently, my husband
my trust. I do believe it was
bumped into her on the
only a friendship thing, as
road. He honked to get her
my husband does talk and
attention and asked her out
socialize with both men
for tea. I just so happened
and women all the time.
to call him while he was
Any advice would be
Lane
having the tea in her car, as Annie
appreciated. Do you think
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
it was a drive-thru coffee
it’s OK for a married man
shop. When I called him,
to have tea with his secre-
he did not disclose he was with the tary? — Miffed
Dear Miffed: Having tea with a
receptionist. He just said he was on
his way home. I was suspicious, so co-worker is perfectly OK. So why
I drove down the road he usually would your husband lie about it?
takes home from work. I noticed Maybe there’s something going on
that both cars were parked near the between them, but it’s more likely
coffee shop and that my husband he was trying to avoid the sort of
was in the receptionist’s car having embarrassing scene that ended up
transpiring.
tea with her.
When I talked to him later, he
Take a step back and look at your
said he hadn’t told me he was with actions. You immediately jumped in
her because he thought I would the car and patrolled his commute
have been angry. He said he wants route. Then you scolded him and
to have a relationship with me in your longtime mutual colleague.
which he can be completely hon- Then you set rules he must follow
to earn back your trust. All over the
“very inappropriate” act of having
tea with a co-worker in public. Yes,
it was wrong of him to lie — but if
this is any indication of your past
behavior, you can’t fully blame him.
If you believe that your husband
has been unfaithful, I encourage you
to explore the issue together in mar-
riage counseling. But it sounds as
though, even by your own account,
he’s given you no cause for real
concern. If that’s the case, consider
seeing a counselor on your own,
someone who could help you dig up
the roots of your insecurity. What-
ever you do, don’t let jealousy run
rampant through your relationship.
Love withers among those weeds.
Dear Annie: I’ve noticed that
you often recommend Families
Anonymous and Al-Anon to peo-
ple struggling with a loved one’s
drug addiction or alcoholism. Both
organizations are extremely help-
ful. Please consider also suggest-
ing SMART Recovery Family &
Friends meetings, a science-based,
secular alternative to Al-Anon. —
Hope This Helps
Dear Hope This Helps: Thank
you for offering up yet another
resource for the friends and family
of people with addictions.
5A
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Undoubtedly, your
reaction can give power to an action; In fact, it is
sometimes the one and only power source of
the thing to which you are reacting. Therefore,
if you want a situation to discontinue, consider
trying a non-reaction as your next reaction.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Unpleasant
circumstances are the ones that teach the most
valuable lessons. For instance, had you never
been neglected or abandoned, you wouldn’t be
so self-sufficient. You’ll be celebrated for your
strength.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’ll have to pivot
from the usual in order to embrace new possi-
bilities. Actually, you’ll have to make the pivot to
even see the new possibilities at all. This next
turn will have to be made in faith.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). The demands of
the day won’t be burdensome. If the day’s tasks
are trying, either you misunderstood what was
required or someone is asking way too much
of you. Mountains invite you to climb them, not
carry them.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The minute you feel
yourself competing, pull back and ask whether
the situation is really a good match for you.
Those who appreciate what you bring to the
table won’t ask you to compete for your spot.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Not all inaction is
alike. There’s doing nothing out of fear, laziness
or confusion; then there’s doing nothing out of
principle — having the discipline to be still when
inaction is the best choice for the moment.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). To contrive for
self-advantage is the folly of children and those
who behave like them — an individual is usually
best served within a thriving group. You’ll work
toward making the group great and be lifted
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
along with it.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Today it may
seem that your loved ones think of you as a ge-
nie in service to them. They make their requests
and expect you to magically fulfill immediately.
But what about the other plans you had made?
Drop them at your own risk.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Since com-
parison and judgment have no place in today’s
proceedings and can only lead to anger, you’ll be
looking for ways to appreciate the contributions
of others without putting yourself in a position to
rate them.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You know
what it’s like to stand amongst a group that you
don’t truly belong to. Because you’ve tasted
that unique kind of loneliness, you can really
appreciate the abundant warmth in the bonds
you have now.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ve done the
work; now enjoy watching your plan play out. It
will be satisfying to see things go off without a
hitch because you implemented the lessons of
the past.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The way you talk
to yourself in your own head will be extremely
important. The level of kindness of your inside
voice will dictate the level of kindness in your
outside voice.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (MAY 1). The very
thought of your happiness inspires happiness
in many others. Therefore, making your own
happiness a priority will be a kind of public
service. You’ll have a breakthrough over the next
10 weeks, but don’t rush ahead because of it —
slow and steady business will continue to benefit
you for years to come. Libra and Gemini adore
you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 2, 28, 13 and 40.