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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, MARCH 12, 2018 FEATURES Concern from behind bars Dear Annie: I’m a pretrial honestly. Extended Family (http:// detainee, and I’ve been in jail wait- www.extendedfamilyhelp.org) ing for my day in court for going offers a database of resources for on three years now. My wife has families of those who are incarcer- been patiently awaiting my return. ated, which she might find useful, She has been so supportive and as she’ll need all the support she has persevered through this try- can get during this difficult time. ing time with courage and Lastly, I imagine you’ve DEAR strength. My dilemma is already exhausted every that I’m worried that she is option, but do be sure to ANNIE growing weary but is too consult your lawyer about proud to admit it. I wonder your right to a speedy at times whether it’s fair trial. to ask her to wait or even Dear Annie: There to “allow” her to wait. I are a lot of good rea- sons that pastors, group guess a part of me thinks I leaders and presidents of should let her go because I Lane companies should never love her so much. I would Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. call on someone out of hate to see her suffer fur- ther, and there’s a chance the blue to give a speech my trial will not go as I hope. How or read something out loud for the should I handle this? — Lover in group. Some people can’t read; Limbo some people get nervous; some Dear Lover in Limbo: You have poor eyesight; some have want your wife to have happiness dyslexia; some lose their place even if it’s without you. That’s easily because of memory prob- love. Though I admire your will- lems. Pastors and other leaders ingness to selflessly “let her go,” should ask the person ahead of you can’t make that decision for time whether the person would her. You two are a team, united in like to give a speech or read for marriage for better or worse. Talk the group. Then the person can say to her; express your feelings, and yes or no. let her know it’s OK for her to This came up because of a express hers, whatever they are. friend of mine at Bible study, Have faith that she will tell you “Becca.” The pastor asked Becca to read several verses. Her face got so red. She struggled through the verses. Afterward, she told me she has dyslexia and was mortified to be called on to read out loud. She has been able to get through life because she can really take her time to read something when she’s just reading it to herself, but read- ing out loud to a group was too much. And she was so shocked to be called on that she couldn’t quickly think of an excuse, such as, “I forgot my reading glasses.” She doesn’t want to go back to Bible study, because she’s ashamed now that everyone knows she has difficulty reading. I told her not to worry about it — that everyone just thought she was nervous and no one will even think about it. I told her I’m a terri- ble speller; no one is perfect. I am sure some pastors and group leaders do not realize they should not call on people just out of the blue. Please share this to help them understand. — Con- cerned Churchgoer Dear Concerned Church- goer: Your compassion is com- mendable. This is an issue I imag- ine many haven’t considered. I’m printing your letter to, I hope, help change that. 5A TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). The French culinary term mise en place refers to the peeling, cutting and measuring of ingredients before it’s time to use them: Everything in its place. This approach will help your cooking and noncooking endeavors today. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It’s important for people to feel a sense of progress in the early stages of a project. Use this on yourself. Set yourself up for an easy win right off the bat — something to keep you inspired as you go. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Too much com- promise ruins the deal for all. Might there be a better match elsewhere? If you’re determined to make it work, what needs to happen for you both to feel that you’re getting more of what you want? CANCER (June 22-July 22). This is the time to consider the goals that matter most to you and to your personal life. What’s the vision here? Imagine it in crystal clarity. You need to see your endgame before you can design a method to achieve it. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Listening well isn’t a natural gift like athleticism or an ear for music. It’s a skill to be honed with practice. This is the skill that will help you grow in power and know more about the situation than anyone around. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). What do you need to learn to put yourself at the top of your game? What skills could you require to give yourself the greatest advantage? The bigger questions will be answered with small, incred- ibly detailed solutions. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’re so charm- ing that you could get by on just that if you wanted to, but no; you’d prefer not to. You’ve a strong desire to contribute something so FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE useful it renders charm merely optional. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When the game is very hard, it doesn’t do you any good to stay at it and relentlessly keep losing. Take breaks. Walk away from the hard challenge every so often and tackle a job or game that’s easily done and won. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Be careful which task you pick up. Some jobs are like boomerangs that will always swing back and give you more to do. Do you recognize which job fits the description? Choose something else. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Oh, happy day! The one you love loves you back. Maybe this is new info. Or maybe you’ve known this for years. Either way, it still makes everything you take on seem lighter and brighter and easier and better. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ll learn something new and prepare for your chal- lenges in a different way than before. Keep your discoveries secret so those operating under the old methods will not know the threat you pose. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). It’s the social aspects of the day that will make the most impact. You’re an exciting force in the room. Keep moving along. Don’t tell the same story or show the same trick twice. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 13). Your positive attitude opens fresh avenues. You’ll be welcomed into an elite group next month. Singles fall in love. There will be practicalities to work out in May in order for domestic life to hit a groove. Capricorn and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 33, 39, 2 and 14.