THE DAILY ASTORIAN • MONDAY, MARCH 12, 2018
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Concern from behind bars
Dear Annie: I’m a pretrial honestly. Extended Family (http://
detainee, and I’ve been in jail wait- www.extendedfamilyhelp.org)
ing for my day in court for going offers a database of resources for
on three years now. My wife has families of those who are incarcer-
been patiently awaiting my return. ated, which she might find useful,
She has been so supportive and as she’ll need all the support she
has persevered through this try- can get during this difficult time.
ing time with courage and
Lastly, I imagine you’ve
DEAR
strength. My dilemma is
already exhausted every
that I’m worried that she is
option, but do be sure to
ANNIE
growing weary but is too
consult your lawyer about
proud to admit it. I wonder
your right to a speedy
at times whether it’s fair
trial.
to ask her to wait or even
Dear Annie: There
to “allow” her to wait. I
are a lot of good rea-
sons that pastors, group
guess a part of me thinks I
leaders and presidents of
should let her go because I
Lane
companies should never
love her so much. I would Annie
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
call on someone out of
hate to see her suffer fur-
ther, and there’s a chance
the blue to give a speech
my trial will not go as I hope. How or read something out loud for the
should I handle this? — Lover in group. Some people can’t read;
Limbo
some people get nervous; some
Dear Lover in Limbo: You have poor eyesight; some have
want your wife to have happiness dyslexia; some lose their place
even if it’s without you. That’s easily because of memory prob-
love. Though I admire your will- lems. Pastors and other leaders
ingness to selflessly “let her go,” should ask the person ahead of
you can’t make that decision for time whether the person would
her. You two are a team, united in like to give a speech or read for
marriage for better or worse. Talk the group. Then the person can say
to her; express your feelings, and yes or no.
let her know it’s OK for her to
This came up because of a
express hers, whatever they are. friend of mine at Bible study,
Have faith that she will tell you “Becca.” The pastor asked Becca
to read several verses. Her face
got so red. She struggled through
the verses. Afterward, she told me
she has dyslexia and was mortified
to be called on to read out loud.
She has been able to get through
life because she can really take her
time to read something when she’s
just reading it to herself, but read-
ing out loud to a group was too
much. And she was so shocked
to be called on that she couldn’t
quickly think of an excuse, such
as, “I forgot my reading glasses.”
She doesn’t want to go back
to Bible study, because she’s
ashamed now that everyone
knows she has difficulty reading.
I told her not to worry about it
— that everyone just thought she
was nervous and no one will even
think about it. I told her I’m a terri-
ble speller; no one is perfect.
I am sure some pastors and
group leaders do not realize they
should not call on people just out
of the blue. Please share this to
help them understand. — Con-
cerned Churchgoer
Dear Concerned Church-
goer: Your compassion is com-
mendable. This is an issue I imag-
ine many haven’t considered. I’m
printing your letter to, I hope, help
change that.
5A
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). The French
culinary term mise en place refers to the
peeling, cutting and measuring of ingredients
before it’s time to use them: Everything in its
place. This approach will help your cooking
and noncooking endeavors today.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It’s important for
people to feel a sense of progress in the early
stages of a project. Use this on yourself. Set
yourself up for an easy win right off the bat —
something to keep you inspired as you go.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Too much com-
promise ruins the deal for all. Might there be a
better match elsewhere? If you’re determined
to make it work, what needs to happen for
you both to feel that you’re getting more of
what you want?
CANCER (June 22-July 22). This is the time
to consider the goals that matter most to you
and to your personal life. What’s the vision
here? Imagine it in crystal clarity. You need to
see your endgame before you can design a
method to achieve it.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Listening well isn’t a
natural gift like athleticism or an ear for music.
It’s a skill to be honed with practice. This is the
skill that will help you grow in power and know
more about the situation than anyone around.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). What do you
need to learn to put yourself at the top of your
game? What skills could you require to give
yourself the greatest advantage? The bigger
questions will be answered with small, incred-
ibly detailed solutions.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’re so charm-
ing that you could get by on just that if you
wanted to, but no; you’d prefer not to. You’ve
a strong desire to contribute something so
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
useful it renders charm merely optional.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). When the
game is very hard, it doesn’t do you any good
to stay at it and relentlessly keep losing. Take
breaks. Walk away from the hard challenge
every so often and tackle a job or game that’s
easily done and won.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Be careful
which task you pick up. Some jobs are like
boomerangs that will always swing back and
give you more to do. Do you recognize which
job fits the description? Choose something
else.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Oh, happy
day! The one you love loves you back. Maybe
this is new info. Or maybe you’ve known this
for years. Either way, it still makes everything
you take on seem lighter and brighter and
easier and better.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’ll learn
something new and prepare for your chal-
lenges in a different way than before. Keep
your discoveries secret so those operating
under the old methods will not know the
threat you pose.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). It’s the social
aspects of the day that will make the most
impact. You’re an exciting force in the room.
Keep moving along. Don’t tell the same story
or show the same trick twice.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (March 13). Your
positive attitude opens fresh avenues. You’ll
be welcomed into an elite group next month.
Singles fall in love. There will be practicalities
to work out in May in order for domestic life to
hit a groove. Capricorn and Aquarius adore
you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 33, 39, 2 and
14.