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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JANUARY 19, 2018
A simple matter of biology
Dear Annie: My grandson were never married), Ron tried to
“Logan” was fathered by someone force us all to sign a document stat-
other than his elder and younger ing that we would never tell Logan
brothers’ father, “Ron.” (Our about his biological father. Since
daughter was separated at the time the split, Logan has been very angry
from Ron, and they ended up get- with his mother. He blames her for
ting back together before Logan everything (because that’s what
was born.) When Logan
Ron tells him). My issue is
was born, they put Ron as
that sooner or later, Logan
his father on the birth cer-
is going to find out about
tificate. Ron and both sets
the lie that we have all kept
of grandparents know that
for 18 years. He’s already
Ron is not Logan’s biolog-
angry with us all because
ical father. The biological
of his parents splitting
father and his family also
up, so what’s it going to
are aware that Logan exists
do to him when he finds
but are not interested in any
out we all knew and no
type of relationship. Logan Annie
one told him? I have sug-
gested counseling just on
is almost 18. Since he was
a general basis, but Ron
about 10, I have thought
that we should let Logan know forbids it. What happens if Logan
about his circumstances. Of course, needs medical treatment and a sim-
Ron is and always will be Logan’s ple blood test shows Ron is not a
“dad,” but over the past seven or match?
I want to be honest with my
eight years, Logan has made var-
ious references about the fact that grandson, but I think we have gone
he looks nothing like his brothers way past the point of no return.
or parents. (He really is a spitting Which would be worse, telling him
image of his biological father.) Our now (with controlled support of
daughter claims she’s wanted to tell family and therapists) or just keep-
Logan many times, but Ron abso- ing the lie until it all blows up? —
lutely prohibits it.
Truth or Consequences
When our daughter and Ron
Dear Truth or Consequences:
finally split up a year ago (after 20 I agree that it would be best for
years of being together, though they Logan to know the truth about his
parentage so he doesn’t provide
doctors with inaccurate family med-
ical history, among other reasons.
But this isn’t your decision to make.
You can encourage your daughter to
tell him (maybe she’ll feel that she
can now that she and Ron have split
up), but it’s ultimately up to her. As
you say, the truth will eventually
out, one way or another.
Dear Annie: My 17-year-old
granddaughter worked for a well-
known chain restaurant. Not only
was she expected to get tips to sup-
plement her wages but also the
manager had the nerve to take half
of the tips from her, saying that part
of each tip was for the quality of the
food. She needed the job, so she did
not complain to whatever authori-
ties regulate these places. — Anon-
Dear Anonymous Grandma:
According to the Fair Labor Stan-
dards Act, “tips are the property of
the employee whether or not the
employer has taken a tip credit.”
See the U.S. Department of Labor
fact sheet titled “Ownership of
Tips Under the Fair Labor Stan-
dards Act” for more information.
Though it’s not clear from your let-
ter whether any laws were being
violated, I encourage your grand-
daughter to read up on her rights.
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Things are
working, so let them. New methods will de-
velop soon enough; there’s really no reason
to rush things. Don’t get the update just be-
cause it’s available. Get it when you need it.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). They say, “Stop,”
and you leap forward. They say, “Jump,” and
you sit down. It’s odd how you feel like doing
the opposite of what’s expected of you, but
you’re also honoring a contrarian voice inside
you with its own good reasons for being.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your process
won’t require a lot of seriousness and com-
mitment. Lighten up, and get playful. You’re
allowed to be like a child following the trends
and whims of youth. Life is an experiment.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You don’t show
your true emotions to just anyone. That’s
what makes it so special when you finally
do open up with honesty about how you’re
feeling. Only do so with those who can be
trusted with your tender heart.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Giving is different
from selling. Selling is an exchange with ex-
pectations and rules that need to be upheld.
Giving shouldn’t be this way. Give without
conditions. It’s the way your gift will do the
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The situation will
require you to simmer down, settle your en-
ergy into the same tone as the environment
and get on with the business of fitting in. This
will be a lot more fun than it sounds.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There will be a
time for getting hard on yourself and pushing
yourself through to the next level. This isn’t it.
This is the time to ease up and celebrate the
many things you’ve already done right.
FRANK AND ERNEST
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
WIZARD OF ID
ROSE IS ROSE
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You can
come up with a plan that will help the most
people with the least effort and complication.
Brilliant! Then, with a calm sense of purpose,
you will move everyone toward a common
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Remem-
ber when you let someone into your world
and heart a little too soon? What followed
was regret and a whole new set of rules for
entry — rules to stand by today.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your aim
will be to surprise and delight the public. This
cannot be accomplished through doing what
they expect and delivering what they’ve al-
ready seen. Bonus: the unique satisfaction of
raised eyebrows and the sound of laughter.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Somewhere
between your high aspirations and the cur-
rent demands of your daily life is a wonderful
fantasyland. It’s a playground, a vision board,
an escape route. It’s a good place, a place
where things get done.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s little to
stop you from winning the admiration of your
peers and the good opinion of your superiors.
In the future, this approval will translate into
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 20). Rest
assured: Your optimism is not only firmly root-
ed in what’s possible for you; your best-case
scenario is practically a blueprint for exactly
what will happen. If you mainly stick to the
plan, you’ll be golden. March will bring a new
mode of transportation or a far-off destination.
Your family will grow in October. Cancer and
Scorpio adore you. Your lucky numbers are:
9, 30, 22, 11 and 16.