THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, JANUARY 19, 2018 FEATURES A simple matter of biology Dear Annie: My grandson were never married), Ron tried to “Logan” was fathered by someone force us all to sign a document stat- other than his elder and younger ing that we would never tell Logan brothers’ father, “Ron.” (Our about his biological father. Since daughter was separated at the time the split, Logan has been very angry from Ron, and they ended up get- with his mother. He blames her for ting back together before Logan everything (because that’s what was born.) When Logan Ron tells him). My issue is DEAR was born, they put Ron as that sooner or later, Logan his father on the birth cer- is going to find out about ANNIE tificate. Ron and both sets the lie that we have all kept of grandparents know that for 18 years. He’s already Ron is not Logan’s biolog- angry with us all because ical father. The biological of his parents splitting father and his family also up, so what’s it going to are aware that Logan exists do to him when he finds but are not interested in any out we all knew and no Lane type of relationship. Logan Annie one told him? I have sug- Creators Syndicate Inc. gested counseling just on is almost 18. Since he was a general basis, but Ron about 10, I have thought that we should let Logan know forbids it. What happens if Logan about his circumstances. Of course, needs medical treatment and a sim- Ron is and always will be Logan’s ple blood test shows Ron is not a “dad,” but over the past seven or match? I want to be honest with my eight years, Logan has made var- ious references about the fact that grandson, but I think we have gone he looks nothing like his brothers way past the point of no return. or parents. (He really is a spitting Which would be worse, telling him image of his biological father.) Our now (with controlled support of daughter claims she’s wanted to tell family and therapists) or just keep- Logan many times, but Ron abso- ing the lie until it all blows up? — lutely prohibits it. Truth or Consequences When our daughter and Ron Dear Truth or Consequences: finally split up a year ago (after 20 I agree that it would be best for years of being together, though they Logan to know the truth about his parentage so he doesn’t provide doctors with inaccurate family med- ical history, among other reasons. But this isn’t your decision to make. You can encourage your daughter to tell him (maybe she’ll feel that she can now that she and Ron have split up), but it’s ultimately up to her. As you say, the truth will eventually out, one way or another. Dear Annie: My 17-year-old granddaughter worked for a well- known chain restaurant. Not only was she expected to get tips to sup- plement her wages but also the manager had the nerve to take half of the tips from her, saying that part of each tip was for the quality of the food. She needed the job, so she did not complain to whatever authori- ties regulate these places. — Anon- ymous Grandma Dear Anonymous Grandma: According to the Fair Labor Stan- dards Act, “tips are the property of the employee whether or not the employer has taken a tip credit.” See the U.S. Department of Labor fact sheet titled “Ownership of Tips Under the Fair Labor Stan- dards Act” for more information. Though it’s not clear from your let- ter whether any laws were being violated, I encourage your grand- daughter to read up on her rights. 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Things are working, so let them. New methods will de- velop soon enough; there’s really no reason to rush things. Don’t get the update just be- cause it’s available. 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If you mainly stick to the plan, you’ll be golden. March will bring a new mode of transportation or a far-off destination. Your family will grow in October. Cancer and Scorpio adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 9, 30, 22, 11 and 16.