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6A FEATURES Not granny’s handwriting Dear Annie: Over the spirit of the thing that counts, holidays, my wife’s niece and who could better capture posted a picture of a recipe Grandma’s spirit than her card on Facebook that was own daughter? That said, it’s from her grandmother, my only fair that you allow your wife’s mother. She said it was niece to be able to decide this her favorite Christ- for herself. Tell her DEAR mas recipe from her the truth. grandmother and in Dear Annie: The ANNIE her grandmother’s letter from “No More handwriting. She Tug of War” hit a wants to have it nerve. I married a printed on a tea towel man whose mother (in Grandma’s hand- considered me a writing), and several threat and did every- other relatives have thing to get me out Lane requested one for Annie of the picture, before Creators Syndicate Inc. themselves. Here’s and after the wed- ding. She, too, looked the deal: The recipe is correct, and it is Grandma’s, to her son to meet every emo- but my wife wrote it on a rec- tional and intellectual need. ipe card several years ago She insulted and criticized and handed copies out to rel- me every chance she got. She atives. It’s my wife’s hand- made sure her son knew she writing, and someone will thought he was making a mis- recognize that. Too funny! take in marrying me. She told What to do? — Laughing All him at every opportunity that the Way I was inferior as a wife and Dear Laughing All the a person and made my life a Way: I think it’s a sweet living hell for decades. idea to have these towels For years and years, I did printed anyway. Penmanship everything I could to be nice is beside the point. It’s the to her. I deeply loved my husband and wanted very much to get along with his mom, but in the end, I gave up. I ultimately refused to be around her. My advice to “No More Tug of War” is to run as far and as fast as she can from this dynamic before it goes any further. She’ll never win. No matter what she does, his mother will never like her. Counseling prob- ably wouldn’t cause “No More Tug of War’s” boy- friend to take a stand and tell his mother to back off. “Tug” may love her boyfriend, but she needs to be with someone who respects her and whose parents think she’s a great person for their son. I wish someone had given me that advice all those years ago. — Wiser and Bitter Dear Wiser and Bitter: I appreciate your insight. I’m printing your letter so “No More Tug of War” can hear it from someone who’s been there. But I really hope you can find some peace for your- self. It’s not wise to be bitter. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, JANUARY 18, 2018 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). Yours will be the last word — just how you like it. What you may not like is how long it takes for all of the other words to get spoken, bandied about, hashed and rehashed. That’s relationships! TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Etiquette allows for you to make the rules when it’s your party and follow their rules when it’s their party. The trouble arises when no one can agree on whose party it is. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What you’re doing may be a little similar to what another person is doing. People can compare forever, but the two of you are not the same person. You’re unique and becoming more unique the longer you do you. CANCER (June 22-July 22). It’s much easier to hear things than it is to say them. It’s easier to read words than it is to write them. It’s easier to observe than it is to do. How much easier? They won’t really know until they say, write and do. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Even when you’re being extremely clear with your communication you can’t make another person understand. And if said “other person” happens to be the sort who doesn’t listen well, you’d be advised to move along. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Creativity isn’t always about art. In fact, it most often comes in other styles, forms and fields. It’s an approach and a mindset. It’s a way of being open to the world around you. You’ll have tons of creativity tonight. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You feel a kinship with a person that goes beyond the amount of time you’ve spent together or what you really know about one another. It’s partly chemistry FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE and partly something spiritual. This kind of thing doesn’t happen every day. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). They’ll ask for your opinion when they want something else entirely — for instance, your attention, your business, your love or your approval. You’re wise to this, of course. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The old world had gatekeepers and quality-control managers. The new world has done away with them. As a result, you’ve become discerning and better at making decisions based on your personal values and taste. CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’ll be as unflappable as James Bond. You’ll maintain your composure when the heat is on and when the deadliest thing around is boredom. In your con- stancy you’ll achieve the higher levels of grace. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). It may seem as though you are just one person competing among millions of similar people. But no one is you. When you do what only you can do, you have no competition. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Truth doesn’t really change, but the rules will. The ones that held yesterday may fall apart today. Also, there are different guidelines for different people. Get comfortable with the relativity of limits. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 19). This solar return brings an increased spiritual aware- ness. You’ll sense the vibrations of the places, objects and people. This sensitivity will lead you to places where there’s the most potential for connection, exuberance and the deep satisfac- tion that comes with service to a higher cause. Your Cancer and Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 7, 30, 11, 45 and 17.