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Not granny’s handwriting
Dear Annie: Over the spirit of the thing that counts,
holidays, my wife’s niece and who could better capture
posted a picture of a recipe Grandma’s spirit than her
card on Facebook that was own daughter? That said, it’s
from her grandmother, my only fair that you allow your
wife’s mother. She said it was niece to be able to decide this
her favorite Christ-
for herself. Tell her
DEAR
mas recipe from her
the truth.
grandmother and in
Dear Annie: The
ANNIE
her
grandmother’s
letter from “No More
handwriting.
She
Tug of War” hit a
wants to have it
nerve. I married a
printed on a tea towel
man whose mother
(in Grandma’s hand-
considered me a
writing), and several
threat and did every-
other relatives have
thing to get me out
Lane
requested one for Annie
of the picture, before
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
themselves. Here’s
and after the wed-
ding. She, too, looked
the deal: The recipe is
correct, and it is Grandma’s, to her son to meet every emo-
but my wife wrote it on a rec- tional and intellectual need.
ipe card several years ago She insulted and criticized
and handed copies out to rel- me every chance she got. She
atives. It’s my wife’s hand- made sure her son knew she
writing, and someone will thought he was making a mis-
recognize that. Too funny! take in marrying me. She told
What to do? — Laughing All him at every opportunity that
the Way
I was inferior as a wife and
Dear Laughing All the a person and made my life a
Way: I think it’s a sweet living hell for decades.
idea to have these towels
For years and years, I did
printed anyway. Penmanship everything I could to be nice
is beside the point. It’s the to her. I deeply loved my
husband and wanted very
much to get along with his
mom, but in the end, I gave
up. I ultimately refused to be
around her.
My advice to “No More
Tug of War” is to run as far
and as fast as she can from
this dynamic before it goes
any further. She’ll never
win. No matter what she
does, his mother will never
like her. Counseling prob-
ably wouldn’t cause “No
More Tug of War’s” boy-
friend to take a stand and tell
his mother to back off. “Tug”
may love her boyfriend, but
she needs to be with someone
who respects her and whose
parents think she’s a great
person for their son. I wish
someone had given me that
advice all those years ago. —
Wiser and Bitter
Dear Wiser and Bitter: I
appreciate your insight. I’m
printing your letter so “No
More Tug of War” can hear
it from someone who’s been
there. But I really hope you
can find some peace for your-
self. It’s not wise to be bitter.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, JANUARY 18, 2018
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Yours will be the
last word — just how you like it. What you may
not like is how long it takes for all of the other
words to get spoken, bandied about, hashed
and rehashed. That’s relationships!
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Etiquette allows
for you to make the rules when it’s your party
and follow their rules when it’s their party. The
trouble arises when no one can agree on whose
party it is.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What you’re doing
may be a little similar to what another person is
doing. People can compare forever, but the two
of you are not the same person. You’re unique
and becoming more unique the longer you do
you.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). It’s much easier to
hear things than it is to say them. It’s easier to
read words than it is to write them. It’s easier to
observe than it is to do. How much easier? They
won’t really know until they say, write and do.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Even when you’re
being extremely clear with your communication
you can’t make another person understand.
And if said “other person” happens to be the
sort who doesn’t listen well, you’d be advised to
move along.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Creativity isn’t
always about art. In fact, it most often comes in
other styles, forms and fields. It’s an approach
and a mindset. It’s a way of being open to the
world around you. You’ll have tons of creativity
tonight.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You feel a kinship
with a person that goes beyond the amount of
time you’ve spent together or what you really
know about one another. It’s partly chemistry
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
and partly something spiritual. This kind of thing
doesn’t happen every day.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). They’ll ask for
your opinion when they want something else
entirely — for instance, your attention, your
business, your love or your approval. You’re
wise to this, of course.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). The old
world had gatekeepers and quality-control
managers. The new world has done away with
them. As a result, you’ve become discerning
and better at making decisions based on your
personal values and taste.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You’ll be as
unflappable as James Bond. You’ll maintain your
composure when the heat is on and when the
deadliest thing around is boredom. In your con-
stancy you’ll achieve the higher levels of grace.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). It may seem
as though you are just one person competing
among millions of similar people. But no one is
you. When you do what only you can do, you
have no competition.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Truth doesn’t
really change, but the rules will. The ones that
held yesterday may fall apart today. Also, there
are different guidelines for different people. Get
comfortable with the relativity of limits.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 19). This
solar return brings an increased spiritual aware-
ness. You’ll sense the vibrations of the places,
objects and people. This sensitivity will lead you
to places where there’s the most potential for
connection, exuberance and the deep satisfac-
tion that comes with service to a higher cause.
Your Cancer and Taurus adore you. Your lucky
numbers are: 7, 30, 11, 45 and 17.