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6A FEATURES Husband is exploring porn Dear Annie: My husband Dear Problems: Quit and I have been married for 22 snooping, and start talking years, and to my knowledge, with your husband about your he has always been committed concerns. I see nothing wrong to me and our family. How- with his adding old friends ever, recently he upgraded to on Facebook, but compulsive a new phone, and I have found viewing of porn can lead to he is continually explor- addiction and dam- DEAR age real-world rela- ing porn and pictures of tionships. And if nude women. I know that ANNIE he’s doing this at all guys look at this from work, he not only time to time, but now he is putting his job at carries around this mini risk but also could computer and views it face legal conse- mostly at work. He has quences if he gets also gotten into Face- book. He didn’t previ- caught. To navigate Lane ously care what people Annie these volatile, sensi- Creators Syndicate Inc. tive issues in a way were doing, but now, all that feels safe for of a sudden, he feels the need to friend everyone he’s you both, enlist the aid of a ever known. I’ve talked to him marriage counselor. Ask your about his time on Facebook, husband to attend a few ses- and he just brushes it off as sions, with the goal of reach- ing an understanding. “something new.” I have never felt so inse- Dear Annie: I’ve seen cure in all our years together people writing to you about as I have recently, and I’m at being bothered by the phrase a loss as to how to get past his “no problem” as a response media cheating on our rela- to “thank you.” Here is some- tionship. Why are most men thing else to mull over: Why is this way? Can’t we, the ones it that store associates, restau- they vow to love to eternity, rant servers and others feel the be enough? — Problems in need to say “you guys” to cus- tomers? For instance: “Can I Pennsylvania get you guys some beverages while you look at the menu?” This is not just happening at fast-food places. It’s happen- ing in many other businesses in the Northeast. I am a senior woman, not a “guy.” The servers probably think nothing of it other than as a way to say, “Can I help you?” But being called “you guys” surely puts the hairs up on the back of my neck. Is there a response that would be suitable? What’s wrong with saying, “Can I get anyone a beverage while you look at the menu”? Leave the “you guys” for your friends at the gym. — Not Fond of “You Guys” on Cape Cod Dear Not Fond of “You Guys”: “You guys” is often regarded as the Northeast- ern counterpart to “y’all” — a catchall way to address a group, meant to connote warmth with its casualness. Obviously, it’s missing the mark with you, and I’m sure you’re not alone. I’m not sure what the answer is except to make people aware that some are offended by the term. To that end, I’m printing your letter. THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, DECEMBER 14, 2017 TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). The person you imagine your admired someone to be and the person that someone actually is ... well, of course they can’t be one in the same — un- less you’re a fiction writer inventing a person. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Loved ones don’t always agree on how to get things done, but today you’ll at least agree on the goal. Fo- cus on this and unify your efforts. You’ll prevail on the collective strength of the group. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). This conflict embodies the same source of all conflicts. Both sides believe they are doing what’s best; they just have drastically different ideas and definitions of what that entails. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Purge your stuff and your soul gets purged, too. Release the old; let go of the tired; get rid of the rubbish. It will help you take advantage of opportunities that will come with next week’s new moon. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Think about the problem as if it were your own, whether or not that’s the case. Of course, solving problems that aren’t yours always comes with the added problem of getting others to adopt your solution. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Accepting someone’s story is often a matter of conve- nience over plausibility. We all believe what we’d rather believe. Remember this, because you’ll be in a position to convince someone of the truth. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The good thing about your cosmic mindset is that it limits the amount of time you’re willing to spend on triv- ial, personal minutia. There are much, much bigger things with which to concern yourself. VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). When good taste prevents a person from getting involved with good people, that’s called snobbery. The division is bad for everyone. You’ll fight this in yourself and you’ll call it out in others. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). When you’re not sure what to do next, a small voice inside you will chime in: “Is this really what the world needs now?” Your focus on what’s missing in the world (instead of what’s missing in you) will light the way. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Sleep is what you long for when the alarm clock goes off in the morning and yet still resist in the wee hours of a fun night. For optimum health and vitality through the end of the year, guard your sleep this weekend. AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). When the environment is neat and orderly, you feel that all is right with the world. It’s why you’ll work so hard today to straighten things up and organize what you have. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The mirror isn’t enchanted; the tomb isn’t cursed; the artifacts don’t come with power beyond what they’re given. But some things really ought to be given power. Make a thing sacred. Do this by giving it sacred attention. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 15). Your unsinkable attitude is what will make this a remarkable year. Setbacks will happen, and you’ll keep bobbing back up and moving forward. Gorgeous additions to your envi- ronment happen in early 2018. A twist in your professional world will allow for a fresh approach to finance. Aquarius and Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 44, 48, 30 and 12.
