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Dear Annie: My husband
Dear Problems: Quit
and I have been married for 22 snooping, and start talking
years, and to my knowledge, with your husband about your
he has always been committed concerns. I see nothing wrong
to me and our family. How- with his adding old friends
ever, recently he upgraded to on Facebook, but compulsive
a new phone, and I have found viewing of porn can lead to
he is continually explor-
addiction and dam-
DEAR
age real-world rela-
ing porn and pictures of
tionships. And if
nude women. I know that
ANNIE
he’s doing this at
all guys look at this from
work, he not only
time to time, but now he
is putting his job at
carries around this mini
risk but also could
computer and views it
face legal conse-
mostly at work. He has
quences if he gets
also gotten into Face-
book. He didn’t previ-
caught. To navigate
Lane
ously care what people Annie
these volatile, sensi-
Creators
Syndicate Inc.
tive issues in a way
were doing, but now, all
that feels safe for
of a sudden, he feels the
need to friend everyone he’s you both, enlist the aid of a
ever known. I’ve talked to him marriage counselor. Ask your
about his time on Facebook, husband to attend a few ses-
and he just brushes it off as sions, with the goal of reach-
ing an understanding.
“something new.”
I have never felt so inse-
Dear Annie: I’ve seen
cure in all our years together people writing to you about
as I have recently, and I’m at being bothered by the phrase
a loss as to how to get past his “no problem” as a response
media cheating on our rela- to “thank you.” Here is some-
tionship. Why are most men thing else to mull over: Why is
this way? Can’t we, the ones it that store associates, restau-
they vow to love to eternity, rant servers and others feel the
be enough? — Problems in need to say “you guys” to cus-
tomers? For instance: “Can I
Pennsylvania
get you guys some beverages
while you look at the menu?”
This is not just happening at
fast-food places. It’s happen-
ing in many other businesses
in the Northeast.
I am a senior woman, not
a “guy.” The servers probably
think nothing of it other than
as a way to say, “Can I help
you?” But being called “you
guys” surely puts the hairs
up on the back of my neck. Is
there a response that would be
suitable? What’s wrong with
saying, “Can I get anyone a
beverage while you look at the
menu”? Leave the “you guys”
for your friends at the gym. —
Not Fond of “You Guys” on
Cape Cod
Dear Not Fond of “You
Guys”: “You guys” is often
regarded as the Northeast-
ern counterpart to “y’all” — a
catchall way to address a group,
meant to connote warmth with
its casualness. Obviously, it’s
missing the mark with you,
and I’m sure you’re not alone.
I’m not sure what the answer
is except to make people aware
that some are offended by the
term. To that end, I’m printing
your letter.
THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, DECEMBER 14, 2017
TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). The person you
imagine your admired someone to be and the
person that someone actually is ... well, of
course they can’t be one in the same — un-
less you’re a fiction writer inventing a person.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Loved ones
don’t always agree on how to get things done,
but today you’ll at least agree on the goal. Fo-
cus on this and unify your efforts. You’ll prevail
on the collective strength of the group.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). This conflict
embodies the same source of all conflicts.
Both sides believe they are doing what’s best;
they just have drastically different ideas and
definitions of what that entails.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Purge
your stuff and your soul gets purged, too.
Release the old; let go of the tired; get rid of
the rubbish. It will help you take advantage of
opportunities that will come with next week’s
new moon.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Think about the
problem as if it were your own, whether or not
that’s the case. Of course, solving problems
that aren’t yours always comes with the
added problem of getting others to adopt your
solution.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Accepting
someone’s story is often a matter of conve-
nience over plausibility. We all believe what
we’d rather believe. Remember this, because
you’ll be in a position to convince someone of
the truth.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The good thing
about your cosmic mindset is that it limits the
amount of time you’re willing to spend on triv-
ial, personal minutia. There are much, much
bigger things with which to concern yourself.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). When good taste
prevents a person from getting involved with
good people, that’s called snobbery. The
division is bad for everyone. You’ll fight this in
yourself and you’ll call it out in others.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). When you’re not
sure what to do next, a small voice inside you
will chime in: “Is this really what the world
needs now?” Your focus on what’s missing in
the world (instead of what’s missing in you)
will light the way.
FRANK AND ERNEST
BLONDIE
THATABABY
SALLY FORTH
PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN
B.C.
LOLA
DILBERT
SIX CHIX
BIZARRO
MUTTS
NON SEQUITUR
BABY BLUES
WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Sleep is
what you long for when the alarm clock goes
off in the morning and yet still resist in the
wee hours of a fun night. For optimum health
and vitality through the end of the year, guard
your sleep this weekend.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). When the
environment is neat and orderly, you feel that
all is right with the world. It’s why you’ll work
so hard today to straighten things up and
organize what you have.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The mirror isn’t
enchanted; the tomb isn’t cursed; the artifacts
don’t come with power beyond what they’re
given. But some things really ought to be
given power. Make a thing sacred. Do this by
giving it sacred attention.
TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Dec. 15). Your
unsinkable attitude is what will make this a
remarkable year. Setbacks will happen, and
you’ll keep bobbing back up and moving
forward. Gorgeous additions to your envi-
ronment happen in early 2018. A twist in
your professional world will allow for a fresh
approach to finance. Aquarius and Taurus
adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 44, 48,
30 and 12.