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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, NOVEMBER 3, 2017 FEATURES Husband is a nudist at heart Dear Annie: I’m a man in know about my desire to go to my 30s who is a nudist at heart. more nudist events? — Free Bird Though I enjoy doing things Dear Free Bird: I would say clothes-free, my wife, “Jamie,” to continue this dialogue with does not. Jamie has gone with your wife about why you enjoy me to a nude beach — and “par- it and what the benefits are for ticipated” — only once, and that you as an individual. Marriage is was as a gift for my quit- about compromise and DEAR ting smoking. seeing things from the Jamie reluctantly other perspective, so it ANNIE does put a small damper allows me to attend one nudist event a year, but I on just how free of a bird you can be. Continue have found myself want- to talk to her about the ing to do more — doing importance of it to you, online research about and be grateful that she different nudist sites in does not object to your my area. Lane annual nudist event, I know that Jamie Annie Creators Syndicate Inc. especially because she would not want to go to has no interest in par- any nudist events her- self — though I would love it if ticipating. You can never force she changed her mind — so I’m someone to do something she trying to figure out how best to does not want to do, but you can broach the topic of my wanting continue to communicate to her about why it is so important to to go alone. The problem is that she, like you. Dear Annie: My wife of 30 so many others, mistakenly believes that naturism is a sexual years moved out of the home thing. For me and the vast major- a year and a half ago and into ity of nudists, it’s not. I simply our adjoining apartment. We enjoy the freedom of being able had not been getting along for a to be outside naked. Also, most while. I am not a bad person; I nudists are quite a bit older than have never gone out on my wife. But she is always angry with I am. How should I let my wife me, and it seems I can’t do anything right. Originally, our plans were to eventually sell our house, retire and travel. My thinking has changed over time. I love my wife. But it seems unrealistic to consider selling everything to retire with someone who doesn’t like me and can’t even live with me under the same roof. I feel our relationship needs to be fixed before there is any discussion of retirement and sell- ing the house. She is angry with me for changing our plans. She sends me emails accusing me of being a liar. We’re seeing indi- vidual counselors and a couples therapist together. The couples therapist says my wife is full of wrath. My counselor says that it sounds as if she has deeper issues than the relationship and that I need to take care of myself. I would appreciate your perspec- tive. — Blamed and Alone Dear Blamed and Alone: My perspective is the same as your counselor’s. Your wife’s profound unhappiness wasn’t caused by your marriage and cer- tainly won’t be fixed by it. She needs to decide for herself that she’s tired of being miserable and really commit to treatment. 3C TOMORROW’S HOROSCOPE By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc. ARIES (March 21-April 19). If you fear that you’re bothering someone by reaching out, it’s a sign that this person hasn’t made you feel comfortable and accepted enough to relax. Not your fault. Also, probably not a good match for you. SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Friends are blessings. You wouldn’t take that for granted. And yet, you really should be able to feel free, even a little bit careless around them. Shake off the uptight energy and, hopefully, they will, too. TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Thinking ahead will help you play your moments better. A lot of moments won’t even happen unless you make a plan. Just don’t get stuck there. You don’t live inside the plan; you live inside the moment. SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Even though you can tell when someone is lying, it’s not always wise to call the person out right away. Going along may give you a strategic advantage. You can watch and understand what’s really going on today. GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You’re a very responsible person. You’ll take charge of the situation as far as it should be taken charge of, all the while keeping in mind that some things are better left alone. CANCER (June 22-July 22). Inspiration will come in the form of people you may feel com- petitive with. It’s something you’ll likely keep hidden, and wisely so. Let it burble up in you to be examined and turned into improvement-fuel later. LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You’ll look back and laugh at some of the rules you used to give yourself. It’s a good time to ask: “Am I doing the same thing now? Is there a rule I’m imposing on myself that is unnecessarily holding me back?” VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). That tough person you admire (but wouldn’t exactly want to be ex- actly) will help you find the courage to cut out a piece of nonsense and get down to what’s important to you. LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Your fantasies are the celluloid that will project onto the real world like film to the silver screen. Shift what you think about toward a topic that makes you feel giddy, warm and inspired. FRANK AND ERNEST BLONDIE THATABABY SALLY FORTH PHOEBE AND HER UNICORN B.C. LOLA DILBERT SIX CHIX BIZARRO MUTTS NON SEQUITUR BABY BLUES WIZARD OF ID ZITS ROSE IS ROSE CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You may feel a little bit irritable. Do you need more excite- ment or less excitement to get back into the zone? Let intuition speak to you and then take action (or inaction as the case may be). AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You’re ready to admit, if only to yourself, what makes you feel secretly superior. Then you can release the belief and let compassion take its place. The more equal and connected you feel to others, the easier life will be. PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Synchronicity happens so often in your life that it’s almost de rigueur by now. Nonetheless, it will be a delight to learn the one you think of is also thinking of you. You could even show up randomly at the same place. TOMORROW’S BIRTHDAY (Nov. 4). You’ll give your all to projects, so choose them carefully. A brilliant solo mission will end in satisfaction, money and a prize. Once you know what you can handle alone, join a team. In 2018, first safety and security will invigorate you; then travel will ignite a new passion. Capricorn and Aquarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 30, 2, 22, 17 and 9.
